BC1980 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 He would be able to pass the drug test because speed leaves the body fairly quickly. But if they suspect he has injected drugs they would ban him from joining regardless of drug test results. I feel bad because he really is trying to get clean and have a future. I was angry because he didn't make the effort while he was with me but that's no excuse How is he trying to get clean if he is still using all the time? 2
ExpatInItaly Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 He's trying to get clean? How, exactly? And I'm sorry, but he has no business being in the military if he's a drug-user. That is his problem. If he truly wanted to clean up his life and get into the Navy, he'd start treating his addiction. His poor choices led to this. he doesn't sound at all stable enough to be in a position like that. I understand you did it out of spite, but he is the one ruining his future, not you. If you are concerned about him taking revenge, call the police and explain your concerns. Think of your children. 2
OK_computer Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Hey don't beat yourself up too much over what you did. We all make mistakes, as long as you try to correct it, and you stay true to yourself. You must stay true to yourself, that's the most important. I've learned to follow my heart, my gut. But you've learned something from this now didn't you? You can NEVER go out of your way to hurt another physcially, mentally, or his/her reputation. All of these things will backfire, somewhere, somehow, maybe even in the cosmic world of karma. Who knows? We must feel out pain within, internally, and let it out just like food! I know for the fact my ex deserves a good dose of pain, but I cannot inflict that. We cannot inflict that. Good luck! It will all work out..in time. Hell, countries patch up after wars so in time, this will set too. in other words, let it go, live your life, and be good.
stillafool Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Why are you so sure that he would hurt your children instead of you? Has he hurt them before?
Chi townD Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 He doesn't have a job. I told the Navy about his drug use Oh yeah, he's done. He's not getting in. My advice, leave him alone. He may fine out that you dimed him out. So, he might hate you for ruining his future. But, to be honest, I wouldn't want someone that shoots up to protect our country. In the Navy, they do random drug tests A LOT! So, he probably would have gotten kicked out anyway if he continued to use. Leave him alone and move on with your life. Best advice I can give you.
Elle1975 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 That's what happens when you do drugs. There are consequences. I'm talking about him. While I understand your feeling of guilt, the dude wouldn't be in that situation if he didn't inject himself with drugs. I don't think you're a bad person, as your forum name suggests it. I do think you need to get away from drug addicts if you are trying to stay clean yourself. You know that peer pressure and environment is going to make your relapse eventually. So personally? Forgive yourself, seriously. And move on. Yes, it wasn't a "nice" thing to do, but if you were that bad of a person, you wouldn't have spend a min regretting it. You would have enjoyed it. Good luck on your recovery.
BC1980 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I think the navy would test him anyway at some point, so it's only a matter of time before he gets caught.
Tayken Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 @OP....wow, that is extremely <spiteful> regardless of what the person might have done to you. Alaways look at it from the point of view, what will my action achieve in the end? This sure isn't going to bring him back, and if it does somehow, he is left without a job thanks to you. Some people find it hard to seperate their emotions in situations like this.
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