Jet Lag Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Hey All my sexual thoughts are of my ex of two/three months. I'm figuring this is not healthy as all the love hormones are based on my ex. Any ideas how to get out of this? Unfortunately I don't find anyone else attractive at this stage. I've tried movie stars etc but my thoughts just keep going back to my ex.
Dontfindme Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 How about porn? That seems to work for most.
singsparkles Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Hey All my sexual thoughts are of my ex of two/three months. I'm figuring this is not healthy as all the love hormones are based on my ex. Any ideas how to get out of this? Unfortunately I don't find anyone else attractive at this stage. I've tried movie stars etc but my thoughts just keep going back to my ex. Honestly, You're not alone in this situation. I go through this every day. Every sexual thought I have IS of my ex and it's hard to kick. Its definitely not abnormal. Was she a jerk to you in anyway? If she was, I would advise you to just focus on her personality and not her looks in order to get over her if you are really attracted to her lookwise. Focus on everything bad that happened in your relationship and stop yourself from thinking of the good. I've been trying to do that lately and it's helped me a lot. There are so many people in this world to be stuck on one person who didn't treat you right (if thats the case with you... I don't know your story) It will get better. Just try to focus on other things that make you happy in life and try to stay occupied and focus on the negatives about your ex. xxx
blackcat777 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 All I can say is... yeah. Yeah... And YEAH. >.< (If I could make the text even smaller, I might admit that a few times, I cried after. *!*) Sadly, the made up stuff isn't as good as the real thing... Although, for me, internally generated fantasies (not involving a certain someone) are more fulfilling than externally generated (read/viewed) fantasies... so maybe there's something to be said for engaging the imagination and creating new neural pathways. I've never had this problem before. But the sex we had was something so beyond the mortal realms. It made all my previous fantasies pale in comparison. We also had enough to qualify as a part-time job. I think I was so ripped on oxytocin it wasn't even funny. I think that's why this breakup left me so physically disturbed. All I can say is, while it may be a weird place to be in... you definitely aren't alone. If that's comforting. When the pain is more manageable, I'll turn it into some deranged artwork. This much is certain.
Author Jet Lag Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 (If I could make the text even smaller, I might admit that a few times, I cried after. *!*) Although, for me, internally generated fantasies (not involving a certain someone) are more fulfilling than externally generated (read/viewed) fantasies... so maybe there's something to be said for engaging the imagination and creating new neural pathways. All I can say is, while it may be a weird place to be in... you definitely aren't alone. If that's comforting. QUOTE] I cry frequently *!* at the moment. Internally generated fantasies...yeah, that is all I do...unfortunately he is in all of them! Not sure if it is comforting to know I am not on my own in this or not. I'm scared the oxytocin is making me more loving to him every time...that would obviously make it harder to move on.
Author Jet Lag Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 Honestly, You're not alone in this situation. I go through this every day. Every sexual thought I have IS of my ex and it's hard to kick. Its definitely not abnormal. Was she a jerk to you in anyway? If she was, I would advise you to just focus on her personality and not her looks in order to get over her if you are really attracted to her lookwise. Focus on everything bad that happened in your relationship and stop yourself from thinking of the good. I've been trying to do that lately and it's helped me a lot. There are so many people in this world to be stuck on one person who didn't treat you right (if thats the case with you... I don't know your story) It will get better. Just try to focus on other things that make you happy in life and try to stay occupied and focus on the negatives about your ex. xxx "She" is a "he"....and no, I don't think he was a jerk...only in the fact he doesn't want to be with me, hahaha I love his looks, I love his personality. I can try to pretend he was a horrible person...but I just don't think he was. I think he was probably lazy with our relationship. I think he was always honest with me. AAAAHHHHH! I am trying to keep busy...went for a 32 km bike ride today (not normal for me) but at times I thought about him and wished he was there...at times I cried a little during the ride. AAAAAHHHHH!
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