Author yellow_sun Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 (edited) Proceed as you would with anyone. Ok, I have two options, then: A) Do nothing and move on with my life. B) Wait X days (Friday? Saturday? Next weekend?) and send the following text: "Hey! I had fun on Tuesday. Maybe next time we can check out *insert name of competing media/electronics chain*. How about (Friday)? Alternatively we could get a drink somewhere relaxed ;)" Thoughts and opinions? Edited October 9, 2014 by yellow_sun 1
CharlieFox Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I'd say go with option B. If it doesn't work, move on.
Author yellow_sun Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 How long should I wait if I were to send said text?
ascendotum Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 ... so I texted him later in the afternoon teasing him a bit about it.. Well, saying basically they were talking about bees in class and that the image of him being chased by a cloud of bees made me smile. He only responded with a smiley face and nothing more... If this guy were my age or younger, I would interpret this as him not being interested. I'm leaning towards that anyway. I think you are a bit hasty in thinking that. Wait a few days to see if he contacts you. It was good that you sent him the txt especially if you both parted ways and feelings were ambiguous. Guys like to get some signs back that the girl is into him, and the date went well and she's a sure thing for a follow up date. The : ) reply was brief but as you say he is busy and maybe quite busy with work at the time and couldn't think of anything witty extra to say. For me I would have preferred to add in some extra comments but if I could not think of something snappy I'd probably leave it than risk saying something lame for the sake of saying something, but try to follow up a bit later.
LoneIsland Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Ok, I have two options, then: A) Do nothing and move on with my life. B) Wait X days (Friday? Saturday? Next weekend?) and send the following text: "Hey! I had fun on Tuesday. Maybe next time we can check out *insert name of competing media/electronics chain*. How about (Friday)? Alternatively we could get a drink somewhere relaxed ;)" Thoughts and opinions? OMG, you are gonna chase him !!!!??? Do you always like to write a book with your texts ? A simple: "Hey, wanna meet again ?" will suffice plenty. Then not only have you expressed and assured him of your interest, you have also given him the lead to do the asking.
Author yellow_sun Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 I thought it might be cute to tease him about taking me to a crappy electronics store to buy a phone charger on a first date while expressing and assuring him of my interest..? And like I said, I don't believe in playing games and if I like someone, I'm not afraid to be up front about it. Why is that such a big deal? Anyway, I haven't even decided if I will contact him. I don't feel 100% confident in this situation, so I'm very, very hesitant.
LoneIsland Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Sure you believe in playing game, all girls do. You are just not up on the skills yet. You don't even know if he's interested, or if he's very busy, there's no point in fixing the details of the date in stone. Once he wants to meet then you can decide what to do.
Author yellow_sun Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 Sure you believe in playing game, all girls do. You are just not up on the skills yet. This may be true What's the difference in chasing and being upfront? And why is this a bad idea? Ugh. Ok, I'm really leaning towards no further contact and moving on. Why does dating have to be so complicated???
LoneIsland Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I never said it was a bad idea. I was teasing you since you like to tease people. For some guys, girls chasing them is a very good idea. It all depends on the person. If this guy is shy and not too experienced, chasing him can work better. He chased you at the start, you can chase him a little bit in return. Life is about taking and giving. When there is this kind of interaction, there is more reason people will want to be together.
cristalina Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 First impression is that he is probably not interested. Either that, or he's really busy like you said. Give him time. If he doesn't text you in the next couple of days, then you have your answer. 1
Author yellow_sun Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 It's kind of funny how all the women who have posted here, including myself, interpret his behaviour as disinterest, and the men don't. I wonder why that is.
JuneJulySeptember Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 (edited) I'm not really one of those girls that believes in the whole "men have to do all the work" thing. You are though. You sent him a text and he responded (but not with enough depth for your liking) and you are waiting for him to make the next move. If you like him, call him up and say you had fun and let's do it again. You live a certain amount of years and then you'll be dead. If you think the guy might contribute to some fun times and interesting life experiences, then hit him up. If you're 'whatever' about then, don't. Or maybe call him in a month when you're bored. Or in six months. If I was a guy (and I am), I wouldn't care. Dating games and rules are horrible. All of them. P.S. I'd like to add. You already know he's physically attracted to you and you have that in your pocket and you are still scared of rejection. I never have that on my side and always have to bite the bullet. Edited October 10, 2014 by JuneJulySeptember
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