flightplan Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Been a while since I've been on here but wanted to come back and share the latest in hopes it will help someone else... The long and short... my GF broke up with me because, according to her, I wasn't her kind of christian. I know it's much more than that, but thats the reason she gave... anyway, you can read my previous threads if interested. We both work for the same company so it was inevitable that our paths would cross. After several months of no contact, I reached out back in July because of a work related item. It turned into a very pleasant six hour long phone conversation that covered past, present and future. There were follow up calls, once or so a week. But there was no interest on her part to get back together. She told me she wouldn't be able to resist sleeping with me if she saw me again, so she didn't want me to come visit. The temptation was too great. It was nice to have my friendship back.... BUTTTT... it didn't take long before I began to feel that I did not want to talk to her anymore. Not because my feelings were hurt, but because I could see her for who she really was. She was just another person making a decision for herself that she felt was in her best interest. I can't blame her for that. It is what it is. There is no blame. There was no feeling of hate, jealousy, anger, etc... it was just simply realizing she wasn't someone I would want to spend my life with. We don't talk anymore... and that's ok. I truly wish her well. We haven't talked since August. I'm not in contact for any other reason than I simply just don't want to talk anymore. That ship has sailed. It was a wonderful and heartbreaking period of my life, but one that allowed me to grow in ways I never knew. I can honestly thank her for that. I'm in a phase where I don't want a relationship and don't know when I will, but I'm 100% recovered, feeling like my old self and doing things that make me happy. I don't read a lot of books but I read Michael Singers, "The Untethered Soul" during my no contact period. I HIGHLY recommend. If there is one piece of advice I could give is read this book... and then read it again... and then again. It saved me from my emotional turmoil and set the stage to handle life's future challenges.. and I'm forever grateful. Learn to be your own person without relying on any individual or circumstance to be the source of your happiness. Allow life to be what it is and accept what comes your way. Don't resist change, allow it, embrace and watch your life flow in a direction you never knew possible. To everyone... a good life! 3
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