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Basically if you haven't read my other threads, this guy I was talking to was using me for sexual favors, then when I asked to hangout with him he ignored me. I left him alone since Saturday, I didn't text him or anything. Now he's coming back around texting me, I ignored his text yesterday and he texted me again today early this morning telling me good morning, I ignored that too. I want nothing else to do with him now. Im just wondering like why now is he interested and wants to talk, but when I wanted to talk and hangout he didn't pay me any mind. WTF I DONT GET IT!!

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Because he doesn't care about you, only himself. I suggest you block his number.

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Basically if you haven't read my other threads, this guy I was talking to was using me for sexual favors, then when I asked to hangout with him he ignored me. I left him alone since Saturday, I didn't text him or anything. Now he's coming back around texting me, I ignored his text yesterday and he texted me again today early this morning telling me good morning, I ignored that too. I want nothing else to do with him now. Im just wondering like why now is he interested and wants to talk, but when I wanted to talk and hangout he didn't pay me any mind. WTF I DONT GET IT!!

 

He does not want to 'talk', he just wants what he wants 'sex' and he knows if he keeps on bugging you he will get it. You proved it to him already by eventually replying to him. He will keep on doing that as long as you don't fully reject him in a very clear manner. He has nothing to lose and a booty call to win.

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Basically if you haven't read my other threads, this guy I was talking to was using me for sexual favors, then when I asked to hangout with him he ignored me. I left him alone since Saturday, I didn't text him or anything. Now he's coming back around texting me, I ignored his text yesterday and he texted me again today early this morning telling me good morning, I ignored that too. I want nothing else to do with him now. Im just wondering like why now is he interested and wants to talk, but when I wanted to talk and hangout he didn't pay me any mind. WTF I DONT GET IT!!

 

Because you're indicating to him that you're not putting up with what he was offering... i.e. you're being yourself.

 

Up to you whether you go out with him now - I'm sure he'd be up for it.

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I don't even want to say ANYTHING to him. I DO NOT do well with confrontation and I know if I tell him I don't want to talk to him anymore and the reasons why he will just make me seem crazy or something or tell me something mean .

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Oh he's done!!! Thanks to you guys help on here, I came to the humbling reality that he was just using me. I was upset with myself, but forgave myself. I learning from it. I just don't understand why some guys play with women feelings like this.

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I just don't understand why some guys play with women feelings like this.

 

 

As long as you let them, they will.

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I don't even want to say ANYTHING to him. I DO NOT do well with confrontation and I know if I tell him I don't want to talk to him anymore and the reasons why he will just make me seem crazy or something or tell me something mean .

 

The obvious question is, why would you sleep with someone like that in the first place.

 

You should people comfortable with the peoiple that you sleep with, After you sleep with them!

- Anyway, you live and you learn OP

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I don't even want to say ANYTHING to him. I DO NOT do well with confrontation and I know if I tell him I don't want to talk to him anymore and the reasons why he will just make me seem crazy or something or tell me something mean .

 

You shouldn't be talking to him at all. Block him and throw away any info on him.

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Idk why guys act like that.

 

I had a guy who said specifically that he was looking for a hookup...I was too. We hooked up it lasted maybe 5 secs. Huge disappointment...after that he would occasionally write me and ask when he redeem himself. Not interested...ask I stopped writing him back...he started texting more. I had no interest in being friends or anything...he didn't get it. I had to tell him I'm dating someone and I am boning him and I have no interest in having sex with u...still didn't get it. I eventually blocked his number.

 

Some guys like the chase. Meh.

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Well I don't think it's a "why do guys" issue, I think it's a "why do people" issue. In my experience, it's the same with women. You pursue someone, act interested and chase, and then at some point you lose interest, and she comes back chasing you. So, it's not a thing that only guys do, for sure.

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Well, in this particular case, I'd say that it's because he wants to keep you on the hook and just realized it would take a little more effort so he's complying. I wouldn't give a chance.

 

 

But, I do agree that people do this. Only want you when you're gone. I've had it with guys I'm interested in and backing off when they aren't and suddenly they're in love, and with exes who broke up with me and later when I'm happy without them suddenly it was a mistake. But, giving a chance once it gets to this point never plays out well.

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would be great if cell phone had a "busy signal" feature to stop people from bothering you

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Well I don't think it's a "why do guys" issue, I think it's a "why do people" issue. In my experience, it's the same with women. You pursue someone, act interested and chase, and then at some point you lose interest, and she comes back chasing you. So, it's not a thing that only guys do, for sure.

 

Agree, it's definitely a human thing

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