rdet123 Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Hey all! You guys are so helpful and I decided to ask this question here in hopes of getting some good advice. A little backstory is I went on a date with this guy a week back and the date went really well. He asked to see me for a second date and I agreed. We have talked everyday since, not for very long but just the hello hope your day is going well kind of thing. Last night he texted that he just got off work and it was a long day. I responded with wow you had a really long day, I bet your exhausted! He never texted me back the remainder of the night. I just assumed he was busy and he didn't want to keep the convo going. This morning he texts good morning, sorry I never responded last night! That's it. Not that I needed a reason why, but he didn't ask anything else or say anything else. I don't even know if I should respond to this, because I just find it a little rude, and it makes me feel like he just didn't want to talk to me. What do you guys think? Am I overreacting?
mammasita Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I think you're overreacting. Even my BF of a year does that to me.....sometimes he falls asleep....so what? Respond with a "that's OK" and carry on a convo if you feel like talking. Now, if it continues to be an issue, THEN its a problem. 2
d0nnivain Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 You are over reacting. The fact that he reached out at all in the beginning when he was tired is a huge GOOD thing. Take that & be happy.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I am mixed but, I see a lack of communication skills with younger peeps on txt and messages. I think they shorten their thoughts when shortening words and such. Though comparing apples to oranges... women always tend to say a lot with the simplest terms. Men on the other hand can be the same, but have little meaning, do to the fact they are less prone to share themselves in verbal ways. So I see it, until men are poets, they will have to rely on their dick. 1
Gaeta Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Yes you are over reacting. At least he had the decency to apologize. You also only had 1 date, he does not owe you an explanation. I am sorry I did not get back to you is all you need.
Beautiful Kisses Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I wouldn't respond to that, this guy does the same thing to me. He will ignore my text respond one day and then the next day he'll text me good morning, but that's it. I can guarantee if you respond he will either ignore you or text you a short reply. I learned this the hard way. Trust me.
Elias33 Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I think you are right. Even if he texted you in the beginning of the night, he didn't bother for a response from you, and ended the conversation accordingly, like an adult, by saying "alright, going to call it a night, talk to you tomorrow!", something like that. Instead, the method of communication is used to not properly respond to you. Texting is tricky like that. If you choose that as a form of communication, learn how to at least close a conversation, other wise it comes across as rude. Period. Texting seems to be an excuse for this type of behavior, or at least, it is accepted. Would you just stop talking during a phone conversation? No of course not. Let it slide, and either you or him should decide not to use text anymore and only by phone conversation or other means. Because it does invite this type of shortness, and even more so, may lead to misunderstandings more than any other type of communication. If he is not a texter, if that is his excuse, then you should stop texting him immediately and go the old fashioned way.
LoverOfDance Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Lol, I know I would feel a little off if I was in your position and received that text from him. In fact I think this has happened to me before, lol. Yeah, but I think it's because it's really easy for a lot of things to be misconstrued and taken as rudeness through text messaging - you can't hear the tone and emotions can't be conveyed. It's really nothing. Just move on and continue conversing as usual. But he sounds like someone who would rather leave it up to you to ask most or maybe even all the questions, lol -_-
Author rdet123 Posted October 8, 2014 Author Posted October 8, 2014 Thanks for the replies everyone! I don't want to be overreacting, but it is just upsetting because it makes me feel like he doesn't care about talking to me. I would have been less disappointed if he were to say he fell asleep or he was busy doing something else, but he just said "sorry for not responding" like i'm just suppose to go along cheerfully and say no problem at all. I haven't responded yet, I don't know what to say to him. It sucks cause I actually felt like this guy and I had a really great first date. We're planning on meeting up Saturday again. I really need help on figuring out what to say, or if anything?
veggirl Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 (edited) Omg you are seriously drama queening over this. Why is this even an issue? I would be like "no worries! Hope you have an easier day today :)" Seriously what is the issue..? If you wanted to keep texting last night you could have asked about his day etc. you are majorly overreacting and if I were a guy and you brought this up as an "issue" I'd run the other way. Edited October 8, 2014 by veggirl 1
Zahara Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 (edited) Thanks for the replies everyone! I don't want to be overreacting, but it is just upsetting because it makes me feel like he doesn't care about talking to me. Good grief. One date and over a week of communication and you're off the rails. So soon already with the "doesn't care to talk to me". Guys are not going to go with this level of neediness. I would have been less disappointed if he were to say he fell asleep or he was busy doing something else, but he just said "sorry for not responding" like i'm just suppose to go along cheerfully and say no problem at all. I'm finding you over the top with your expectations. Yes, you say, "No problem, have a great day!" I haven't responded yet, I don't know what to say to him. It sucks cause I actually felt like this guy and I had a really great first date. We're planning on meeting up Saturday again. I really need help on figuring out what to say, or if anything? Say the above. I'm not even sure what's the problem. Edited October 8, 2014 by Zahara 2
Author rdet123 Posted October 8, 2014 Author Posted October 8, 2014 Thanks guys! I guess I am overreacting! I will take the advice and say no problem, have a great day! I guess I needed a little reality check lol
Zahara Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I wouldn't respond to that, this guy does the same thing to me. He will ignore my text respond one day and then the next day he'll text me good morning, but that's it. I can guarantee if you respond he will either ignore you or text you a short reply. I learned this the hard way. Trust me. You can't base her situation with what has happened to you. You were with a known user and a guy that for months played with your emotions. OP has only been on one date with the guy over the span of a week. There is really no reason to put him in that same box. 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Don't worry. He was nice enough to text you in the first place and he texted you the next day. Its not a big deal
BluEyeL Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Yes, I agree you are overreacting. Forget the texting. Look at behavior. Does he ask you out on dates at least once a week? contacts you at least 1-2 times/week in between. Escalates the relationship after a while? Forget the little things like he didn't respond and didn't ask questions. That's his style. 1
Elias33 Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Omg you are seriously drama queening over this. Why is this even an issue? I would be like "no worries! Hope you have an easier day today :)" Seriously what is the issue..? If you wanted to keep texting last night you could have asked about his day etc. you are majorly overreacting and if I were a guy and you brought this up as an "issue" I'd run the other way. No. YOU are majorly over reacting, and a bit disrespectful. She asked for advice, not for judgement.
HappyLove Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 You are WAYYYY overreacting. I'd tell this guy to run for the hills.
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