Jadedbyluv Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I've had some serious bad luck over the years when it comes to dating. I think a lot of it was me not being comfortable with who I was. After going through a bit of a heartbreak this summer, I gave it another go a few weeks ago. I've been in the mindset of dating to find what I really like and don't like. Find someone who I am truly compatible with. I'm not just looking to rush into anything especially after the last guy. So I've been on a couple dates, but none of them really sparked my interest. There is one guy who I've been on a few dates with, and we've had a good time together. I just don't feel a ton of chemistry with him. I'm trying to give it some time because in the past I think I've put too much value in chemistry. However, he is one of the people who only dates one person at a time. He's also constantly talking about relationship type stuff when I've asked him to take it slow. He says he is in no rush either but everything he says is contradicting that. He keeps asking if I want to pursue this and if I think we have something good going. I'm not rather to be exclusive with him yet. I still want to date and see what else is out there. How can I make it more clear to him?
PegNosePete Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Like this: "I'm not rather to be exclusive with you yet. I still want to date and see what else is out there." 4
Assasda Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 trust your instincts on this one. I dont think you can make it any clearer. It sounds from your post to me, like he's on a job interview, those can be terrible.
preraph Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 He's anxious to seal the deal because you're probably better than what he's used to being able to get. Or he could be just talking commitment to get sex. Either way, you did the right thing by giving him a few dates to make sure he's not a hidden gold mine of personality trying to get out, but given that he's already trying to land you, I got a feeling, he's a bit desperate. It's fine he's dating one person at a time. Not talking about that. That's nice. But if he starts daydreaming about marrying this soon, he's not even seeing you for who you are but is in love with the ideal woman in his head, which is easier to keep doing with someone you barely know. Leaves more knowledge gaps to fill with unicorns and rainbows.
LostInTheWild Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 A couple of dates? Yeah, I prefer the cool, casual kind of guy. It wreaks of desperation when they try to lock me in too soon. Just tell him how you feel. You don't owe him anything and you most certainly don't want to string him along.
Author Jadedbyluv Posted October 8, 2014 Author Posted October 8, 2014 Desperate does kinda come to mind. He just asked me if I was in a good place to get serious. To me someone asking that means they are thinking way too far ahead. He's not getting to really know me.
Diezel Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Are you still going out with this guy, just to say and feel like you are going out with someone? Because it seems like you are really not that into him.
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