cantare Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 (edited) I am so confused and annoyed that I had to create an account for this. I have known this girl for a few years, but lately we have been hanging out whether with our other friends, or the two of us during the past 6 months. She is like a close friend to me now. We are comfortable around each other, and we trust each other. We have lots of mutual friends also. I'm 25, she is 26. She is attractive, and I'm not trying to be cocky but I was signed with Ford modeling agency until last year because I wanted to use my brain for a career and not my looks. 6'3'', great athletic shape and etc (please, not trying to be cocky). We are both blondes, and I used to tell her that I never had a thing for blonde girls which I never did. I am her type looks wise, she is all into tall blonde athletic guys, and that's what she dates. BUTT she has never hit on me or flirt with me because she knows I'm not into blondes, and I used to always say I am going to end up with a brunette wife, and my kids are going to be tan and etc. And pretty much everyone knows I have a thing for brunettes. Note: I'm horrible at picking up signs of interest anyways... Long story short, I have developed STRONG feelings for her during the past few months (2 months) because I notice that we have a lot in common. She is smart, and educated, with lots of pride. This is weird because she was never my type !!!!!!!!!!!!!! now all of a sudden she is my type, and it's not really her looks. I like her because of her, because I click with her. It's literally like someone did a magic trick that made me have soooo much interest in her noww. If we didn't have mutual friends I would have asked her out. But I just can't until I know for sure that she is into me. It would be really awkward for me to get rejected. I just can't, call me a wuss, and I wouldn't do it until I know for sure it's gonna happen. How do I know if she likes me? I notice her looking at me every time I talk to other girls when we go to bars. I do too when she is talking to other guys, but I'm better at hiding it. Other than that, I don't see any other signs (( ! I think she just likes me as a friend to be honest. I have been dating a few other girls but she is always in my head and I don't find other girls interesting. Edited October 8, 2014 by cantare
Toodaloo Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 You might be pretty but I am afraid the only solution is for you to stop fannying around, grow a pair and ask. She may say no. In which case she was never for you. She may say yes in which case you will now have to think up of a date to take her on. 3
Assasda Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 congratulations of breaking out of your shallow Hollywood induced "This is my type" mindset. What you can do is, flirt with her just see how she reacts to flirtatious comments, and gauge the interest from there. You might have to be a little bold now, but you can do it. A little liquid courage always smooths over everything too, if youre so inclined
ExpatInItaly Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Dating always involves a certain degree of risk. You won't know if she really likes you unless and until you ask her to get together sometime. Looks don't go far when confidence is lacking.
preraph Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 You can't expect her to "be into you" before she even goes out with you, so ask her out. Then you know if she's at least moderately attracted to you.
HappyLove Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 You've learned an important lesson that people are much more than their hair color.
slizl Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 NEWSFLASH!!! Ex Ford model realizes that personality is more imporant than looks. halle freaking lujah 1
BlueIris Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 (edited) That was a lot of talk about looks for someone who doesn’t care about looks. So you don’t want to ask her out if she’s going to reject you and you hang in the same crowd so that could be awkward for one or both of you. I see two options: Ask her out but tell her you don’t want it to affect your friendship, so you would understand her hesitation if she has any. Or you could suggest you two secretly have sex and if rockets go off you be a couple and if they don’t, you agree not to tell anyone. That's something a goofball friend might say and can be laughed off while maintaining the friendship. Edited October 8, 2014 by BlueIris
Author cantare Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 I'm going to ask her out. I'm gonna do it in person. What should I tell her that would melt her heart ?
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