Undy Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Ugh. I hate this. Little background. Long time lurker which prob helped me with my divorce. I am 35 years old and date a woman the same age. We are both divorced. My ex-wife cheated on me and her ex-husband did the same. We both had other rebounds after divorce so I am beyond that. Both of us divorced around the same time a few years ago. I did my alone time as well and am perfectly happy not being with my ex. I think that she is the same, but what I have learned is nothing is ever as it seems with relationships. No hard feelings either way at this point. So, anyway. I have never had any trust issues with my girlfriend of 1 and a half years. We both do our thing and see each other as much as possible.. Work, kids, school, etc. Always have a good time and aways catch up via text though out the day. My GF is vacation this week (nurse) with nothing really planned. I picked up my boys from school and heard on the radio that there was a huge traffic jam on the typical highway I take home. I decided to go another way which picks up right next to where she lives. My boys asked me if we could stop by her house (not uncommon) on the way so I said sure. This is something that happens all the time. They love her and her dog. So we stopped by which she had always said was fine to stop by whenever... no worries, etc.. When I got there the TV was on, dinner was pretty much left on the table and she was in the shower. No worries, I yelled to her that I stopped by and I waited for her. I looked at my phone and found that she had sent me a text message that she got called into work at 3-7, bummer, vacation sucks, and so forth. She sent that at 4:30, it was now 5 which is not even enough time for her to make it home. She acted weird the entire time and said that she had to work 7 till 11 and somewhat rushed me out the door which I was cool with. But that's not what she said in the text. She made it seem like she was already at work. The weird part is I had no plans with her and didn't expect to see her so why would she lie about being at work while she was on vacation? Trust me, she never answers the phone to take extra shifts.. I just find the whole things weird. After I left, she texted me how she felt "REALLY bad" and loves seeing me. I just find the whole thing odd. Maybe I should be reading into it more. What do you think? Damn.. now I am one of those long winded posters
Elle1975 Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 How many plates on the table? Anyways.. just ask her, simple as that.
darocksin2 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Hello Undy, I can see how much this incident is troubling you. Is it possible that you’re reading too much between the lines? Seeking the help a professional counselor and praying seem like great options. Rb
mightycpa Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 She had something going on she didn't want you to know about. It might have been a guy, it might have been a girlfriend. I can't imagine why you didn't call her at work, or get someone to do it for you. 1.5 years? I think you're entitled to show her the "I have to work" text, remind her what time you visited and explain that it seems out of character. Then shut up and wait for the explanation. You should get to the bottom of this pretty quickly, I'd imagine. 1
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