Jdawg37659 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 hi guys! my name is Jason, i'm a newbie here, so bear with me as I learn new things here. I need to talk to you all about a bad situation that has really turned worse for me. i'll try and not to make this confusing, but almost 3 years later, i'm still confused about it. they know for a damn fact i'm not the type that harasses and stalks. well, this happened in September 2012, I received an email from my friends son who was 15 at the time. it said 'leave us alone or we'll charge you with harassment'. well it did sound suspicious to me. I did ask several times with in a 2 week span of what the email was about. so, everyone now ignoring me and blocking me on facebook. I've been friends with these people for over 7 years, not one problem like this ever. so, the step-mom decides to step in. she called me (2 weeks later) on the phone griping at me, calling me mentally crazy and all this crap. she went as far as voting me out on stuff with the whole family. then there friends mona/chucky decided to get in on the action. they went as far as to to 'file' charges on me for harassment. and said if I went to church or being caught talking to anyone there, they would go forward in pressing charges on me. i even tried to talk to my pastor on this, he didn't care about it, i was alone in this situation, so, I said F it. to me, that's going against god. I lost a whole lot of friends in this. ok, fast forward to 2013. I get notification from the sheriff of a order-of-protection by the step-mom, for harassing and stalking, oh and get this, i had no idea that they had moved again. I told the sheriff the truth on everything. then she the step-mom decides to go and get a court order on me for a mug shot, jail time and the whole 9 yards, she even went as far to put her daughter as leverage against me, I have not even bothered her. she wanted everything. so, got into a huge argument with mom and dad on this, dad got me an attorney. court date comes, she really humiliated me in front of my attorney, she yelled at my attorney for 20 minutes from what I heard by Tom. i was ready to commit suicide the day b4 court, i knew amy would get her way with things. i'm just thankful for my attorney that got me out of this. during the same time, i wrote an email to my pastor and told him i quit the church cause of the situation. it's was during this time, they're trying to contact me. they know they messed up. so, again fast forward to 2014. they try and contact me urgently (my friends) about something during my order-of-protection. that was a big NO-NO. about july of this year, i received an email from amy saying she was sorry for what she done i was in there prayers, "bull-****"! to me, i know she didn't mean it. i wrote her back, i was mad! she writes me back in august saying the same thing. i emailed her again, i was telling her how i feel on everyone and everything. I said to her if anyone don't like who i am then FU. told her i get tired of being crapped on by them and all this other stuff. let me tell ya, i was mad! they keep calling my name when i am work, i work at (walmart). I even told them if they ruin my good name like that again i'll sure for slander/defamation of character. that's what my attorney said this was. but, as of today, i am doing good. i lost over a dozen friends over this and a church. I feel like what ever amy says people follow she's in control. i told amy in email, if she didn't like for who i was then FU. it was a rather lengthy email. i'm still really furious with them today, i think they know it. it was about 4 weeks since my 2nd email, have not seen any of them. i think they know i mean business. i know it's a confusing situation. i feel like the step-mom (amy) had sat me up. or someone has. what should i do from now on and should i communicate with them. i'm more mad at amy than anyone else. i still feel amy is STILL in control of things. i still feel humiliated, i had to take counseling cause of it. but, what do i need to do? i'm sure there are people in a situation like this. i'm just trying to move forward in my life, it is really hard to! i just pray Karma hits them hard! i'm not the most perfect in the world, nor do i care to be. im me, no one can do anything about it!
preraph Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I am confused. Sorry. Are you saying that someone is harassing this family and making it look like it's you? And that out of the blue, you find out about it? Or are you saying you were trying to be with someone in the family and coming around and they told you know and then got mad because you wouldn't give up? I can't tell what really went on by your earlier comments.
thenotemakers Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 @Jdawg37659: I am so sorry for the pain you’ve experienced over the circumstance you mentioned. It’s really difficult to stay calm and think when everything around us starts to fall apart. You seem to be very strong through all of this. While it’s easy to say “forgive and forget,” I’ve experienced firsthand that forgiving those that have hurt us does more good to us than anyone else. It just helps us feel emotionally and physically strong. Have you tried making new friends? How about visiting a few other churches to see if you’d be okay going there? Concentrating more on your interests/ hobbies might create a positive atmosphere in your mind. I’m praying for God to heal your hurts and give you peace in your situation. TheNoteMakers
Author Jdawg37659 Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 thanks all who replied. as for the first person who replied with your question, I really don't know! I tried to figure out what was going on, no one would talk to me. my parents church has taken me in. but, i'm so dang confused over this whole thing it don't make sense to me. I feel she's still in control of things. i've done nothing to them to warrant any of this. it's just so hard to move on with my life, I don't know if they want to tell me something, should I let them? i'm afraid I will go off on them in public. i've been trying to get answers, also I still feel the step-mom started this whole thing with me, or someone started this. i'm just confused as you guys are. I DON'T KNOW. sorry I hadn't replied sooner!
Author Jdawg37659 Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 it just like they were just done with me, wanted me in jail. but, I do feel in my heart there turmoil in that family now. I haven't seen none of them since my 2nd email a few weeks ago, I think they know I mean business. i emailed my former pastor just recently to, told him my feelings and what i was gonna do if i was humiliated like this again. cause i won't put up with it no more. since they played a role in it. i just feel someone slandered me. i here by say 'i have not done a thing'.
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