Meg964 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I've been seeing this guy for about a month, and I thought it was going fairly well. We live about an hour apart, so we see each other a few times a week. About two weeks ago, he started to become distant, and admitted that it was because he found out he was going to be moving 2.5 hours away for school for a 2 month stretch. We talked about it, and decided that we like each other, and would continue seeing each other. So he's in the process of finding a place in the new city, and heading home to BC for 8 or 9 days before school starts. Last Friday he said he'd see me before he left. Yesterday I found out he was already on his way and might not be back here until after the long weekend. He says he likes me, and is very sweet/ attentive/ says he wants to keep seeing me when we're together. He's invited me to the new city for weekend visits, and said he'd come to me on days off. And we have great conversations face to face. But when we go to text, I barely hear from him. I don't know what to make of the situation. I like him, and want to believe what he tells me in person, but his actions lately are telling me something else. Do I chalk it up to the stress of moving and starting school, or write it off in that he's telling me what I want to hear because it's easier?
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Well, has he completely settled in and has his daily routine set? If so, I would think he would make more of an effort in sharing time with you in calls, txts, emails or skype sessions. No man should just make a weekend thing with any woman, unless it is FWB. Maybe that is what he sees but is giving you caring thoughts along with it. Don't know??? You can make him take the time with you by taking away weekend privileges, but still allow contact from what I have stated near the beginning of my reply. If he is really all that interested your convos should last no less than an hour, and make up for missing him.
leavesonautumn Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I've been seeing this guy for about a month, and I thought it was going fairly well. We live about an hour apart, so we see each other a few times a week. About two weeks ago, he started to become distant, and admitted that it was because he found out he was going to be moving 2.5 hours away for school for a 2 month stretch. We talked about it, and decided that we like each other, and would continue seeing each other. So he's in the process of finding a place in the new city, and heading home to BC for 8 or 9 days before school starts. Last Friday he said he'd see me before he left. Yesterday I found out he was already on his way and might not be back here until after the long weekend. He says he likes me, and is very sweet/ attentive/ says he wants to keep seeing me when we're together. He's invited me to the new city for weekend visits, and said he'd come to me on days off. And we have great conversations face to face. But when we go to text, I barely hear from him. I don't know what to make of the situation. I like him, and want to believe what he tells me in person, but his actions lately are telling me something else. Do I chalk it up to the stress of moving and starting school, or write it off in that he's telling me what I want to hear because it's easier? This stuck out to me. Don't forget, actions speak louder then words. I was in somewhat of a smiliar situation when an ex of mine moved away for school. We weren't planning on staying together but he didn't bother to see me before he left and just kind of... went away. The fact that he didn't see you is kind of an issue. He could have been caught up with moving and sorting things out but on the other hand, he could have at least told you he was leaving. You should talk to him and tell him your concerns. This is a tough one considering you have only been together for a month. Did you know he was planning on going to school? Did he talk to you about it at all? To be honest with you, it doesn't sound like he is as invested as much as you are.
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