mattmmmm Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Much much much much thanks for reading this!!! Scroll down to ":::::::::::" for the sorta shorter version. I usually don't take honors classes (im in high school), but since I had fantastic marks (4.0) from applying myself a little bit, my parents and I decided I needed more challenges. Anyways, there's this girl in one of my honors class, thing is, that class is so quiet and dead, im not usually the MOST outgoing guy in my classes, this one I exceed that tentfully, and we are always working or taking notes the whole time. I sit in almost direct viewing range from her, not directly in front, but about 15 feet away off to the side near the front. We both sit facing eachother 15ft away but wed have to turn our heads a little bit to see eachother. Since the begining of the year, I always thought she was really cute, I eyeballed her a few times, whatever. She didn't seem interested in the beginning. But since the beginning of the school year, and now, I put off about 30lbs and looking great, now she kinda notices me. I guess she knows something is up between us, cuz like the last 3 months, sometimes we catch eachother looking back and forth. o The thing is, I have not initiated a conversation with her yet, not even a hi, how u doin, did u do this? It seems so wierd to me because sometimes we exchange looking back and forth, and other times she just kinda ignores me, and I play that game too a lil. ::::::::::: My probelm is, I need to start to get to know her, but there's nothing I can think of to initate a conversation with her. Shes pretty shy, and a very nice looking girl, she dresses good but not something extremely unique. I think about talking to her about what shes wearing, but theres nothing too suprising to talk about, and, like I said, this Honors class is always busy, we usually never leave our seats except for leaving class. I think it would be EXTREMELY weird to go up to her and start talking, I don't see a big reason to do so and it would look out of place and I don't want to seem like "that guys wierd". I'm not intimidated by girls really, so once I get to know her I can pretty much carry my own conversations and such, then move it up a notch. It's just I find this really really hard to do because mainly I'm afraid of the "that guys weird" part, and since my class is so quiet and im the most outgoing, you just get the creepiest eriee feeling that everyone evesdrops on u, bc they think ur cool and wanna hear what u have to say. Seriously, sometimes it gets silent when I talk and everyone listens. Anyways, trying to talk to her, the only chance I have to talk to her is after class, and its about 1.5min of walking, and usually were all in a hurry since this class is far off from campus. What can I say/do to hopefully start talking to her? Much much much much thanks for reading this!!!
westernxer Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Why don't you track her down at lunch or after school?
mattmmmm Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Why don't you track her down at lunch or after school? She completly ignores me at lunch or after school, and shes hella hard to find. she disappears the whole day, i only see her 1st period and passing to next and thats it, dont see her till tomorrow. Sometimes when I pass by her I smile, and she doesn't look at me and sometimes she smiles. She doesn't eye contact with me outside of the classroom.
westernxer Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Maybe she doesn't like you that way... Oh well, just ignore her. That might work.
mattmmmm Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Maybe she doesn't like you that way... Oh well, just ignore her. That might work. I play those ignore games a little bit too. I find sometimes she looks at me when the teacher isn't saying too many things that are important or review, shes a smart girl, she pays attention all the way to lectures. I'll have to find out for myself-- I need to approach and talk to her in a non-wierd way, because I'm getting alot of extreme mixed emotions coming from her part, cuz if shes not in to me I don't want to be weird. That's the problem I'm trying to solve.
westernxer Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Go for it... you've got nothing to lose. Worse she can say is no (I'm not ashamed to admit this has happened to me, but at least I didn't have to guess anymore). Then you move on and forget all about her.
mattmmm Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Go for it... you've got nothing to lose. Worse she can say is no (I'm not ashamed to admit this has happened to me, but at least I didn't have to guess anymore). Then you move on and forget all about her. Well, I'm not going to be like "hi, nice shoes, lets f***" or anything like that. Or like ey wanna go get some coffee, I read this scares the shiet out of shy girls, and anyways was planning on making some small talk first. What could I talk to her about that wouldn't be weird and if I just "bumped" into her or something? Btw appreciate your input
westernxer Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Wasn't implying sex in any way... what makes you think that? By the way, why should you care if they misconstrue your intentions? And what's wrong with inviting someone for coffee? Just take the initiative and see what happens. Show a little confidence, regardless of the outcome. Maybe you can talk about your class together, since you already have that in common. Other than that, there's really nothing else to do, except to do it already. Summer is just around the corner.
mattmmm Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Wasn't implying sex in any way... what makes you think that? By the way, why should you care if they misconstrue your intentions? And what's wrong with inviting someone for coffee? Just take the initiative and see what happens. Show a little confidence, regardless of the outcome. Maybe you can talk about your class together, since you already have that in common. Other than that, there's really nothing else to do, except to do it already. Summer is just around the corner. i was being a little bit sarcastic when I said that statement, thats what it must sound like to a shy girl if shes asked out to coffee or something lol. well ima try to talk to her tomorrow, and depending on how it goes, ill ask her to join me for some coffee. I just need to take baby steps bc I haven't met her yet. Yet, we both realize theres a lil something going on whether or not she likes me or not but I think she has the idea that I do. I want to talk to her tomorrow, but I don't see what? The class.... and what shes wearing is everything I could say. Any other catchers? I'm not sex hungry or anything like that, I'm looking for a relationship.
westernxer Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 You're probably already in school, but here's something to think about... Remember that it goes both ways. No matter what you do, she has to make an effort as well, otherwise nothing will happen. If you're trying to make conversation and she doesn't warm up to it, forget about it. That's the way it works... both parties have to make an effort. Once you initiate, she'll have to meet you halfway. If she likes you, she'll do that, unless she's really shy and just runs off. I've seen that happen, too. But she has to interact with you to get something going, that's the bottom line. You're already on the right track... hopefully it works out okay. Don't let it get you down if it doesn't. Good luck.
mattmmm Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer You're probably already in school, but here's something to think about... Remember that it goes both ways. No matter what you do, she has to make an effort as well, otherwise nothing will happen. If you're trying to make conversation and she doesn't warm up to it, forget about it. That's the way it works... both parties have to make an effort. Once you initiate, she'll have to meet you halfway. If she likes you, she'll do that, unless she's really shy and just runs off. I've seen that happen, too. But she has to interact with you to get something going, that's the bottom line. You're already on the right track... hopefully it works out okay. Don't let it get you down if it doesn't. Good luck. you made some very good points, i appreciate your input. unfortunately, there was no chance to talk to her today, and none tomorrow, and theres a big test tomorrow that usually takes all period, so fri is about it for sure i am going to... thanks again, i appreciate the help keep ye posted
westernxer Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Nothing like the waiting game, but that's the way it is sometimes. Study hard.
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