GuskeGee Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I've been overseas for five weeks and now I'm returning in a week. I already asked her out and she said yes. But now she's sending mixed signals. Our convo has mainly been over text, because Skype was a bit of a stretch this early on. Okay so I'll write what makes me think she's interested and what makes me think she's not. INTEREST: -When texting, she responds with detailed messages -She asks me many personal questions about my hobbies, my family, my job, my passion etc. - When texting, she sends me heart emojis, kiss-face emojis and is generally very cute over text, especially when saying "Good night." - When I tell her I'm going to do something this and this friday, she remembers it. She actually remembers quite many small details. - She sends many "haha" when I even wasn't trying to be funny. - She always takes 20-30 min. to respond, even though I see the message was seen almost immediately after I send it (FB messenger). - We've been chatting for over a month and our convo can go on for days. - She agreed on going on a date with me, saying she "would love to." - She usually thinks whatever I do is "wow, that's so cool." - NEVER ends the convo first. NO INTEREST: - NEVER initiates the convo first. - She didn't reply for over A DAY on one of my messages TWICE now. - Although she saw the last message I sent her, she has yet to reply. It's been THREE days. So there you have it. What's happening? Why is she sometimes so distant, especially now, a week before I'm coming back? Is it all in my head? Is she playing hard to get? ADVICE needed!!! What should I do? Problem is, I'm waiting on her to initiate this time, especially since she left me hanging last time, but she has a very very very important exam tomorrow... if I don't text her "Good luck," it will look bad
Toodaloo Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 She has an important exam tomorrow - she is revising and cramming. Yes she is interested. Suggest you send text saying good luck, that you have your fingers crossed for her and please let you know how she gets on when she has done it. And book the day for your date so you can "celebrate" both her exam being over and you getting home. Then leave her be to revise. What the heck is an emoji???
Author GuskeGee Posted October 7, 2014 Author Posted October 7, 2014 She has an important exam tomorrow - she is revising and cramming. Yes she is interested. Suggest you send text saying good luck, that you have your fingers crossed for her and please let you know how she gets on when she has done it. And book the day for your date so you can "celebrate" both her exam being over and you getting home. Then leave her be to revise. What the heck is an emoji??? Emojis are emoticons on iPhone I know she's probably preparing but when she leaves me hanging like that it makes me think all sorts of things
Chemist Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I think initiating conversations takes a lot of self confidence, but also most girls enjoy being pursued... I wouldn't worry too much about that. The fact she is entertaining so much conversation with you means she enjoys it. If she didn't enjoy it, she wouldn't respond ever or simple disinterested generic responses. People get busy, there is nothing you can do about that. Sometimes you don't have time to respond thoughtfully for a day or two when you have stresses in real life. 2
Toodaloo Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Emojis are emoticons on iPhone I know she's probably preparing but when she leaves me hanging like that it makes me think all sorts of things Oh OK... Stop thinking things. You will be back soon and you can go on a date. Leave her be and quit imagining things that are not there
Author GuskeGee Posted October 7, 2014 Author Posted October 7, 2014 I think initiating conversations takes a lot of self confidence, but also most girls enjoy being pursued... I wouldn't worry too much about that. The fact she is entertaining so much conversation with you means she enjoys it. If she didn't enjoy it, she wouldn't respond ever or simple disinterested generic responses. People get busy, there is nothing you can do about that. Sometimes you don't have time to respond thoughtfully for a day or two when you have stresses in real life. I'm well aware of that, but I've never left her hanging like that. Of course there are lots of reasons for her not responding, but reading them and knowing I'll see she's read and chose not to respond just f's my mind. Thanks for your reply though
venusishername Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I'm well aware of that, but I've never left her hanging like that. Of course there are lots of reasons for her not responding, but reading them and knowing I'll see she's read and chose not to respond just f's my mind. Maybe she wants to wait to reply until she's had a chance to respond, or dedicate the time into replying to a message. Don't read into it. Even with my girlfriends sometimes we don't respond to each other for a long time, sometimes even a day later. No different in a romantic context. Also, she may not want to appear too eager by immediately responding to your messages. Speaking from personal experience...
Author GuskeGee Posted October 8, 2014 Author Posted October 8, 2014 So I initiated again today because of her exam, she texted back, told me she was very nervous but that she would text me how it went. She hasn't texted and I think it's because it didn't go so well. Last week she had an exam and she texted me saying it went great, so it's weird and suspicious that she didn't text anything today, even though it was a far more important one. I thought I could let her be as some of you mentioned in order to make her initiate, but guess what... tomorrow is her freaking BIRTHDAY! Meaning I have to text her AGAIN!
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