tomtheman1234 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 (edited) I am a single man in my 30's. I have admired this lady from a far for the past few years. She lives just round the corner from me. We know each other well enough to chat to each other if we see each other. The thing is she is a bit older than me and is a quite sort of person. I have a small learning difficulty and find it hard to make the first move sometimes. If I am to ask her out I would have to phone her. I do Reiki healing and I did ask her to a reiki event last year which she came to but nothing came of that as she and I both became busy after that. I just wonder if anyone has any tips or ideas about this as I do not want it to look like I am asking her on a date and frighten her off? Edited October 7, 2014 by tomtheman1234 Want to change the title
sid3 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I just wonder if anyone has any tips or ideas about this as I do not want it to look like I am asking her on a date and frighten her off? Sounds more like you're worried about getting rejected more than scaring her off. 1
evanescentworld Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I am a single man in my 30's. I have admired this lady from a far for the past few years. She lives just round the corner from me. We know each other well enough to chat to each other if we see each other. The thing is she is a bit older than me and is a quite sort of person. I have a small learning difficulty and find it hard to make the first move sometimes. If I am to ask her out I would have to phone her. I do Reiki healing and I did ask her to a reiki event last year which she came to but nothing came of that as she and I both became busy after that. I just wonder if anyone has any tips or ideas about this as I do not want it to look like I am asking her on a date and frighten her off? ...But... You DO want to ask her for a date.... Why not simply pop a note through her door, and ask her if she would care to go out to dinner, one evening? Not a formal do, just a bite to eat, at an ok-eaterie...
Tik Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Be bold and confident. All it takes is a chance encounter and a casual 'hey if you're free, want to grab a coffee sometime' - or insert some other get together that you both share a mutual interest in that comes up in conversation.
carhill Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 If you have a crush on her you do want it to look like a date because you want to date her for romantic purposes. There's really no way to 'back into' dating. It's a frontal assault. Risky. No rewards without risk in life. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Life is short. Embrace the possibilities and find the courage to ask her out. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Good luck. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Whatever you do, do not remind her about the age difference. When you see her ask her for a date. . . plain & simple.
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