If someone logs into the dating site where you met hours after your 1st date...

[lanabanana]

is that a bad sign?

[kolleamm]

I don't think it's a big deal honestly. He/She might even be checking if you messaged them on there, but overall I wouldn't sweat it. Online dating is addicting.

[mightycpa]

It's not the greatest sign in the world, is it? Unless she logged in to inactivate her profile.

 

And what were you doing logged in such that you were able to find out? Hmmm?

[lanabanana]

I always hear people on here say that. You know for some sites you can google their username and it shows their activity...and you never logged in.

[mightycpa]

So you were spying on her? Is that what you're saying?

 

I'm not sure which is worse.

[MissBee]

is that a bad sign?

 

I am always puzzled by these kinds of concerns, mainly because, how can you know they're online unless you're logged on too??? And if you are logged on too...why can't they be? Why are you the only one who has a right to log in?

 

If they see you logged on, what should they assume about you? They can assume the same things. What did you log on for? If you logged in to check up on them...maybe they logged in for the same purpose. If you logged in to check messages...maybe they did the same thing too. It's also not like back in the day where you had to specifically go on your computer to log in, most people have smart phones and have the dating sites as an app. It automatically sends alerts about messages and such to your phone and most people will check it as it pops up, especially if you are annoyed by icons on your phone and need to check the messages for it to clear. Checking a message that pops up on your phone will show you're online even if you didn't go out of your way to log on or aren't looking for people or sending messages.

 

I've never logged on to a site after a date personally. I have never considered checking up on a person to see if they were on, as it just never occurred to me, and further, I would be on too just like them and like they can't know why I'm on besides assuming, same with me. Plus after a first date we're free to date others still so I'd not expect that they'd never sign in again. Point is: I don't check this as it can mean anything and nothing and I'd rather not worry about it.

[CharlieFox]

You expect her to magically drop off the face of the earth on all social media and cut all ties with everyone in her life after one date with one guy?

[Assasda]

Its not a good sign that youre asking this.

Youre this possessive already?

You dont know the girl yet

[Omei]

It also means you yourself logged on.

[LoneIsland]

I have a somewhat related experience. I got into contact with this woman. Afterwards, she stopped responding and she also stopped going to the site where we met. Some might say this must be a good sign because she appears to be no longer looking. But it seemed to me at the time she was just hiding from me, and didn't want to know any more.

 

So what I am saying ? Well, it doesn't matter what the other person does, their action will always seem negative when we come to guess it.

Edited October 7, 2014 by LoneIsland

[Diezel]

I once went out with a girl who updated her profile, shortly after our date, with a picture of what she was wearing to our date together.

 

I gave no ****s. Because I was on the website at the same time as well.

[guest569]

I don't think it matters one way or another.

[katinlc]

I actually have found this to be very common. I would say 8/10 are online immediately after a first date. And yes, sometimes I am also online and sometimes I looked without logging in. I never sweated it because to me it was just another social media app I checked like Facebook. If the date went well, I would often go on and look at their pics and read their profile again.

[isisisweeping]

Not at all. He/she could be reviewing your profile.