lovingdad84 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 My wife of 8 years left me march 22 for a mutual friend of ours. He left his wife she left me. She told me he is her happily ever after. We really didnt have any marital problems other than she said i wasnt romantic enough we didnt fight, didnt have money problems or nothing. Three weeks after she left they moved in together and have been living together ever since. We have one child together, she has 4 kids total all from different dads. I dont know why but i still lover her and miss her. I cant go full nc because our son is back and forth every other week and it kills me to have to see her and talk to her on the phone. I just dont understand how she could just up and leave and not even think of coming home. I feel like i should be over her since she is apparently over me somehow, i guess having someone to comfort you at night helps? Anyways i miss my best friend and i hate that i have to try to pretend like i dont love her. i dunno what to do
ComingInHot Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Loving dad84, re read the part about her having 4 children with 4 different men, then ask yourself one more time how she could leave you for another man. I know you love your wife. I know your heart is in pieces. I also know that when the shock wears off, your son is going to need you more than ever. And you him. Do you have family or friends who you can lean on and talk to right now? My heart goes out to you and your son, CIH*
herself Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Im so sorry. Sounds like she has an empty space for love that no one can ever fill. Maybe love addiction but I feel she would have left regardless and it had little to do with you. She wont be happy with anyone long term for she is looking to fill a void inside. Im so sad for Your sake. Be gentle on yourself and take no blame. Time will heal you but nothing can really heal her but in time you can maybe forgive only for your benefit. I believe she did one good thing which was leaving and not stringing you along for years. Bitterness could bind you to her. I hope you find peace and new love when your ready. Next time she has your son, take yourself on a nice trip and just relax and keep healing. Chin up you didn't deserve this.
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 It's hard when you have to be the bigger person for your kids. Good for you for doing just that. Do you know the wife of the man she left you for? Can you commiserate with her? Try joining a support group near your home.
Author lovingdad84 Posted October 7, 2014 Author Posted October 7, 2014 Thank you all so much for the kind words. It is really good to hear and validate the things i am thinking. And sadly yes i do know the guy that she ran off with he was supposed to be my friend. Its really sad because his wife is in the same boat im in, blindsided and she is having a hard time as well. Only time will tell i guess if they last. My son is my only strength so i will hold onto that. Again thank all of you for your kind replys. It really does make the day better>
Author lovingdad84 Posted October 7, 2014 Author Posted October 7, 2014 Yes i do know the wife it happend to as we were all friends. We talk all the time about how were feeling and its pretty much the same on both sides. My main problem is i feel like a failure for not being able to keep my family together but on the other side of it I wasnt the one to choose to walk away. My emotions change everyday. I guess ill keep comforting her until the healing is complete.
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 You are not the one who failed. Hang in there.
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