Dork Vader Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Okay so last Sunday I was on a dating web site and this woman just starts blowing up my profile. Winking and doing everything but messaging me. I message her and she's cute. We end up talking on the phone that night. The conversation goes amazingly well she asked me if I was going to ask her on a date, so I do. Next day we talk again on the phone and decide to move the date to Tuesday night. The date goes amazingly well. Stays the night at my place. The next day she goes home for a bit then comes back over and stays the night again. (yes we slept together) Thursday she invites me to some event on Friday and I said well why don't you stay the weekend at my place? She says yeah.. Then she comes over and hangs out. Things are still going really well. Friday night goes extremely well, so does Saturday. At some point she said I love you, I said it back to her as well. last night we had this long discussion about moving fast and how she tends to push good guys away. I am apparently a good guy. She basically said she wants to slow things down. We talked again today on the phone I made sure that is what she wanted. It is.. Here is the thing... I REALLY like this girl. We both have the same issue (if you've read my post you know what it is). We have a lot in common and she is absolutely the most beautiful woman I have EVER met. She said she was doing it because things happened to fast (I agree). That she's used to be single and solo having someone around is taking adjustment. That she is just getting her license for her career and is going to be busy with finding a job. Now that she is putting the brakes on and trying to slow things down I'm tossed for a bit of a loop. We have a date planned for Wednesday. But I don't like not having the ball in my court. I feel like it's only a matter of time before I get friend zoned. I plan to go on the date and just have fun... Any advice on how to proceed?
Tayken Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 @OP.....This too me sounds like one of those situation where someone is looking for a bit of self esteem boost, and you seem to be playing into her court i.e. she has you right where she wants you. She teased you by doing the winking and blowing up your profile, and flat out asked if you were going to ask her out...what's wrong with her asking you out? After all it's 2014 and not 1814. You met her on Sunday, and by the following Saturday she is uttering the word "love"?????????????? I am NOT a clairvoyant, but I foresee your heart being broken here if you don't pause to give your head a shake. Please do for your own sanity
Assasda Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 The woman just wanted to have sex for a little bit. Be casual, and not fall in love. - OP you fell in love. She'll be with you if you can handle the fact that you both need some space. If you get over-emotional, she'll run for the hills
CharlieFox Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Nah, I don't believe she loves you, and I don't believe you love her either. And the name of this thread should have been "Met a woman, this are moving way, WAAAAAY too fast" I suggest you slow it down, get to know each other if you don't want to **** things up. And while you do, I suggest you start thinking with your upper head rather than your lower one about this whole thing.
Diezel Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 She's going to blame shift and eject on you pretty soon. She'll play the "You got too involved for me" card REALLY soon and abort your "relationship". Want the ball back in your court, you slow down even more... cancel Wednesday and say you need to reschedule. I'm willing to bet she is NOT used to that at all.
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