live23643926 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 My ex and I dated for 4 1/2 years during that time he was seeing another girl behind my back for about 3 years which I did not find out about until the day we broke up...which was 5 months ago. He & I are both 22 years old, we were high school sweethearts. The girl he cheated on me with is 19, 16 at the time he began cheating...I also knew her.... Needless to say they became "official" about 3 weeks after our break up. He tells everyone I'm crazy, she also does. His friends don't speak to me anymore nor does his family, besides his one girl cousin. His 2 brothers were like my older brothers I never had for almost 5 years and his dad was like my dad also, but he now hates me. I don't know what to do because he was my first love and I was his too...even though he screwed me over.
mightycpa Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I doubt very much his dad hates you. They probably feel a little embarrassed if they know the truth. I did something very similar to a girl. I cheated on her for years, even slept with one of her "friends" fairly regularly. I had other girlfriends too, and a ton of one-night stands. Here's what you do. Walk away. Take it from me, he won't even feel bad when you do. He won't think about you, he won't wonder what you're thinking or if you still like him or not. He won't miss you one single bit. His own friends will wonder if he's faking it. He isn't. Believe me when I say you don't want to waste any more of your time. I'm sorry, live23643926, but that is the way it is.
No Limit Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 They don't want you around because they are ashamed of their son. Your presence wouldn't ease that feeling. Just be glad you're rid of that guy; yes, it is a shame that you have to let go of nice people, but that's just the way it is. Focus on yourself a little and make up for the 3 years of your life he stole from you.
Leigh 87 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Join the club. Unfaithful exes are douche bags and don't deserve a second thought. 2
evanescentworld Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 live23643926 I am not in any way shape or form making excuses for his behaviour, but... If it appears from your post, that the whole family has turned against you, after knowing you for so long, it then seems weird that they would ALL make such a decision to ostracise you and shun you, simply because he has a new GF with whom he has apparently been cheating for a long time. We need you to be honest here: have you, through your actions and reactions, said or done anything at all, to deserve the label of 'crazy'? See, I can understand, as a defence mechanism, he and she painting you in a 'crazy' light - but why would the rest of the family follow suit, without question? Something seems a little off here.... Be truthful. Why has this happened?
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