hereshoping Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I had met her at a Meetup function and we had some good intial chemistry. After the night was over it turned out she needed a ride so I offered. We got to have some nice private conversation in there, so I told her I really enjoyed hangout out and that I would message her her on the site so we can meet again and she seemed pretty happy about it. So the next morning I do and we make a plans for a day. Day comes, (I think) we both have a good time and I ask her if there's another way to get to her since we're not on the Meetup site 24/7. She then gives me her full name and I add her on FB which she accepts. Now I've sent her a message on FB about hanging out again but a few days have passed and there is not even a read receipt. I know she had been online since she shares a lot of stuff. Is this normal? This would be the first 'date/relationship' I'd tried getting off the website. Also, and no, there's nothing on my page that would scare her off. I'm not that active a FB user. Thanks for reading.
CharlieFox Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 This is why you call instead of writing messages. No one can give you the answer you're looking for except the girl herself. Wait a bit more, maybe she'll get to you. If she doesn't, move on. 3
gaius Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I wouldn't put a ton of thought into it. You don't know much about her and there's a million different reasons she might not be replying, most of them not even having anything to do with you. So don't take it personally and onto the next one. 1
KeepCalmCarryOn Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I had met her at a Meetup function and we had some good intial chemistry. After the night was over it turned out she needed a ride so I offered. We got to have some nice private conversation in there, so I told her I really enjoyed hangout out and that I would message her her on the site so we can meet again and she seemed pretty happy about it. So the next morning I do and we make a plans for a day. Day comes, (I think) we both have a good time and I ask her if there's another way to get to her since we're not on the Meetup site 24/7. She then gives me her full name and I add her on FB which she accepts. Now I've sent her a message on FB about hanging out again but a few days have passed and there is not even a read receipt. I know she had been online since she shares a lot of stuff. Is this normal? This would be the first 'date/relationship' I'd tried getting off the website. Also, and no, there's nothing on my page that would scare her off. I'm not that active a FB user. Thanks for reading. She may just wait to respond to messages. I do that a lot now because I am busy a lot so if I get on FB it might be to check something really quickly and not start a convo. Just a thought but goodluck
CaliGypsy Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 If someone PM 's me on FB I can only read it at home, on My computer , as I don't have the messenger app. I can access the rest of it on my phone. Perhaps it's something like that . 1
Author hereshoping Posted October 7, 2014 Author Posted October 7, 2014 She finally responded and seems game for another meet! Normally I wouldn't worry about something like this but time was short to the event. I really want to ask why it took her so long? Seems like it would be a bit rude though. Hopefully late replies are not a chronic thing with her... On a separate note, does anyone know exactly how FB Messenger works? I've been using it in lieu of texting lately and I know she doesn't have it installed. So she can only see messages on her PC?
Assasda Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 She finally responded and seems game for another meet! Normally I wouldn't worry about something like this but time was short to the event. I really want to ask why it took her so long? Seems like it would be a bit rude though. Hopefully late replies are not a chronic thing with her... On a separate note, does anyone know exactly how FB Messenger works? I've been using it in lieu of texting lately and I know she doesn't have it installed. So she can only see messages on her PC? Man. Get her phone number, and stop trying all the messanger crap. Also, call her, to set things up 3
lillyz Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Yeah I am also confused as to why you don't just use your phone? I wouldn't ask her why she took so long. Wait until you spend more time with her - if that becomes a regular thing then you can bring it up, but life happens.. people's response time can vary and it probably has nothing to do with you. Don't stress.
Diezel Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I really want to ask why it took her so long? Seems like it would be a bit rude though. Yeah, definitely ask her this if you want that first "date" to be the only one. And dude, get her number.
cif Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Message your number and tell her to text you so you have hers.
Redhead14 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 "I'm not that active a FB user" -- Perhaps she isn't either. Get her number and call her. And, when you do, call her as soon as possible, don't text. And, when you do arrange a date with her, not a "hang out", don't come across as eager as you appear to be here. You, of course, should show sincere interest, but you were stressing over this already and that will come through one way or another when you meet. Go into all your dates with hopes, not expectations
ThisisIt606 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Maybe she didn't even see she had a new message if it's not ever read. FB is weird now from checking on your phone to online, notifications can disappear in my experience. Do you have her number? try sending a text
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