Guys: how often do YOU get asked out?

[Kofybean]

I've never in my entire life met ANYONE who thinks a girl is easy just because she asks a guy out.

 

+1

 

For the longest time I always wondered where women get this idea that men will breathe fire down their throats if they have the audacity to say Hi.

 

At best, I think it's projection. Maybe? They are afraid of the karma? idk.

[Toodaloo]

This is pretty much what every guy goes through already yet they still do it. You think you're special if you think you should get 100% Yes ratio.

 

It would have been nice if just one had gone well... Even if just for a short time.

 

The simple fact is that all the men I asked out were not that bothered and either a. stood me up b. turned up and expected the evening to end in sex and that be it...

 

Ironically not one of the chaps I asked out said no!

[boilingpoint]

It would have been nice if just one had gone well... Even if just for a short time.

 

The simple fact is that all the men I asked out were not that bothered and either a. stood me up b. turned up and expected the evening to end in sex and that be it...

 

Ironically not one of the chaps I asked out said no!

 

Well being stood up is effectively a no - sorry about that.

 

Try getting rejected explicitly, to your face instead. Guys generally have a lot of experience in this area - it's not nice.

[Toodaloo]

Well being stood up is effectively a no - sorry about that.

 

Try getting rejected explicitly, to your face instead. Guys generally have a lot of experience in this area - it's not nice.

 

I guessed that sitting around on my own in public places looking like a complete wally with others looking at me weirdly would count as a no...

 

I have been rejected to my face for other things and while its not nice at least you don't waste time and energy...

 

The "looking like a prat" lasts all of 30 seconds rather than half an hour...

[smackie9]

I've never in my entire life met ANYONE who thinks a girl is easy just because she asks a guy out. I once got asked out by a girl who was a public spokeswoman for staying a virgin until marriage. Never in my wildest dreams (and they can be wild), did I think she would be easy. I dated her for months and eventually got dumped before I even got to first base. We are still friends!

 

When a woman asks me out... 9 times in 10 it is a very hefty girl. I like it because I know she likes me on some level... and if I share that feeling then I feel we have a great shot.

 

Now... if she picks me up and pays... and I have had that happen once... it is a very odd feeling. I dated a Filipino woman who decided to change restaurants after we had met. She drove me to an new restaurant and we literally fought over the check. It was kind of embarrassing and I thought it meant she didn't like me. However, she did book a second date with me later.

 

It doesn't matter if you have never hear anyone say they think a girl is easy if she asks a guy out, but unfortunately most women feel that way. Or they feel they are setting themselves up to being used or taken advantage of. IMO that would happen regardless. There are a lot of women dig their high heels in believing the man should be the one doing the asking out. Just the way it is. Oh well it's not for everyone.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Never in my life.

 

I'm also below average I would say.

 

In the big picture, a below average guy being never asked out I think is very common.

[Revolver]

Never.....

[fortyninethousand322]

You know what though? I think if a girl did ask me out I would assume (rightly) that she had some kind of agenda. It wasn't out of genuine interest...

[Candy_Pants]

You know what though? I think if a girl did ask me out I would assume (rightly) that she had some kind of agenda. It wasn't out of genuine interest...

Her agenda would (hopefully) be to go out with you...

 

That last statement makes me sad. You are worthy of a woman taking a genuine interest in you. Yeah, some people suck and are constantly "on the make", but don't let them ruin life for you.

[carhill]

Well, that makes sense, since the most obvious reason for anyone asking anyone else out on a date is for an agenda, since they are presumed to like the other person in the sexual sense. We can absolutely project all of our past life experiences with relationships onto that act and assign it any number of agendas but all that is really unknown.

 

My singular experience with an apparently single woman didn't find me examining her agenda, rather feeling a bit flattered. I would say the same when approached as a married man, which I don't count, but was a little suspicious of an agenda there, since it was obvious I was married.

 

As always, we have choices, and they obtain to how we perceive being approached and asked out by women. Nothing is cast in stone. We choose.

[xxoo]

I used to play academy football as a teenager and some of the places we used to go after training/matches, there'd be plenty of teenage girls hanging around who'd literally throw themselves out you (obviously not the case for every girl, or every guy, or every situation) but it was kinda unattractive to me!

But that's a personality thing too - id take the ice queen over any one with an inch of desperation.. but thats me!

 

Everyone wants the one they can't have

 

My daughter is a teenager. A common scenario is this:

 

Girl likes a boy. Boy likes my daughter; daughter not interested. Girl threatens to beat up my daughter because boy likes her

[JuneJulySeptember]

Everyone wants the one they can't have

 

My daughter is a teenager. A common scenario is this:

 

Girl likes a boy. Boy likes my daughter; daughter not interested. Girl threatens to beat up my daughter because boy likes her

 

That's pretty typical for most people.

 

Except if you're the one nobody wants. Such as the guys who never get asked out. Then it sucks.

 

I wonder how adult men feel about the fact that a 13 year old girl has had more boys interested in her than they have had women interested in them in their entire lives.

Edited October 12, 2014 by JuneJulySeptember

[Imported]

That's pretty typical for most people.

 

Except if you're the one nobody wants. Such as the guys who never get asked out. Then it sucks.

 

I wonder how adult men feel about the fact that a 13 year old girl has had more boys interested in her than they have had women interested in them in their entire lives.

 

Are you saying you want to be a 13 year old girl?

[somedude81]

I wonder how adult men feel about the fact that a 13 year old girl has had more boys interested in her than they have had women interested in them in their entire lives.

 

That's just a fact of life.

 

Unless the guy is super good looking, very few women will be initially interested in him.

 

Though if a woman if at least average, she will have had many males interested in her throughout her life.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Are you saying you want to be a 13 year old girl?

 

If it meant getting the kind of attention that a typical 13 year old girl gets from 13 year old boys, and I could do it over, then maybe.

 

I'm used to my lot, but it'd be nice to get attention.

[Kid_Charlemange]

You know what though? I think if a girl did ask me out I would assume (rightly) that she had some kind of agenda. It wasn't out of genuine interest...

 

I would assume she was warthogging, if it ever happened to me.

[NJ123]

So who's the one guy on here that gets asked out every week?

[JuneJulySeptember]

You know what though? I think if a girl did ask me out I would assume (rightly) that she had some kind of agenda. It wasn't out of genuine interest...

 

I would assume she was warthogging, if it ever happened to me.

 

I don't know about you fellas, but this is one of the reasons I think physical attraction is totally NOT subjective.

 

I realize none of us are GQ models, but you would think that over 25, 35, or 45 years, at least a few women would have asked us out?

[carhill]

So who's the one guy on here that gets asked out every week?

Here's a posting which indicates a possible vote.

 

OTOH, since this is an anonymous forum and anyone can vote, it could be 'anyone'

[fortyninethousand322]

I don't know about you fellas, but this is one of the reasons I think physical attraction is totally NOT subjective.

 

I realize none of us are GQ models, but you would think that over 25, 35, or 45 years, at least a few women would have asked us out?

 

I don't think my problem has anything to do with physical attractiveness. I think something intangible about me turns women off.

[JuneJulySeptember]

I don't think my problem has anything to do with physical attractiveness. I think something intangible about me turns women off.

 

This is something I always hear too.

 

I mean what could it be?

 

Whatever it is, it's nothing based out of substance.

 

Your posts are well thought out, you seem like a nice guy (from what I remember). Lack of confidence, self deprecation, nervousness?

 

Do you really feel that it's something similar, and if you do, do you feel it's justified?

Edited October 13, 2014 by JuneJulySeptember

[fortyninethousand322]

This is something I always hear too.

 

I mean what could it be?

 

Whatever it is, it's nothing based out of substance.

 

Your posts are well thought out, you seem like a nice guy (from what I remember). Lack of confidence, self deprecation, nervousness?

 

Do you really feel that it's something similar, and if you do, do you feel it's justified?

 

I don't know, I just know people have told me I'm not a bad looking guy. And I believe that. But I've never been around a woman and thought she was interested in me. Well, I was once, but I was wrong about that.

 

I don't think it's in my head either. I'm pretty good at picking things up.

[ThaWholigan]

I don't know about you fellas, but this is one of the reasons I think physical attraction is totally NOT subjective.

 

I realize none of us are GQ models, but you would think that over 25, 35, or 45 years, at least a few women would have asked us out?

I've been asked out quite a few times and I'm no GQ model. I don't think it's a looks thing TBH.

[xxoo]

I don't know, I just know people have told me I'm not a bad looking guy. And I believe that. But I've never been around a woman and thought she was interested in me. Well, I was once, but I was wrong about that.

 

I don't think it's in my head either. I'm pretty good at picking things up.

 

I think they misinterpret your reserved nature as disinterest.

[somedude81]

I think they misinterpret your reserved nature as disinterest.

 

What about guys who aren't reserved?

 

For the average guy, waiting for a woman to show interest only leads to a lot of lonely nights.