Guys: how often do YOU get asked out?

[boilingpoint]

By women that is.... if she clearly made the first move i.e. approached you in a bar - that also counts.

 

Every week?

Every month?

Every few months?

Couple of times a year?

Can't remember last time (probably never).

 

Especially IRL if not then on OLD (doesn't matter if she was unattractive or if you 'liked' her profile first or whatever).

 

Making the first move does NOT include hints of any kind, like sitting next to you but not saying anything, asking for the time in a friendly way, smiling at you as you walk past, slapping your ass and walking off.

[slizl]

Maybe I am bad at reading signals, but maybe once or twice in my life

[Assasda]

couple of times every year.

 

 

I think it can be more if I count women that try to put themselves out there.

Like if a woman may hang around me for a while.

Women are a lot more subtle with interest than guys

[Mrin]

Couple of times a year where I was overtly asked out IRL. OLD is a different animal. I'd would get maybe 10 or so inbound winks/likes and maybe 3-5 or so emails a week.

[ThaWholigan]

At least once every couple of months or so on average. Generally tend to get loads of "hints" as you put it. Usually only realized after the fact.

[NJ123]

I honestly can't remember if I was ever asked out. But I think I've been given hints but never did anything about it. I remember one time in high school there was this really cute girl who told me I have nice eyes. Than I remember that same girl was playfully flirting with me by touching me on my back a few times & smiling as I was going to my bus to go home from school. I think I told her to stop doing that. Looking back I don't know why I'd say that, but I'm pretty sure I did. Also, girl who used to live up the block from me was trying to get to talk to me, might of been when I was like 14 or 15, but I was too nervous to say anything.

 

Pretty sure there's some other times that I just can't think of at the moment.

[bastus]

once by my very first ex , she is my friend of years and initiated things by invited me to come over her places..

our relationships isnt work, but still i feel that i owed her big times , i learned many things and find myself fairly confident on approaching women first nowadays..

[smackie9]

There are a few reasons why women don't put themselves out there.....they fear that they will be labelled or give the impression they are easy.

 

Some are just traditional, and feel men should do the asking out.

 

Such a shame women have this stigma about asking a guy out on a date. I have asked men out with a lot of sucess. Never had a problem with it.

 

How about this....what is your impression of a woman that does ask you out, picks you up and pays for the date? Do you feel emasculinated? or do you feel flattered?

[NJ123]

Also want to add with OLD I've gotten asked out quite a lot. But didn't take up any of their offers due to a number of reasons in each situation. Either I wasn't attracted to them, or the circumstances weren't right, or they came across as kinda weird. I've flat out been asked if I wanted to have sex with a few of them, but some of the situations were just too weird to take up the offer.

[ThaWholigan]

There are a few reasons why women don't put themselves out there.....they fear that they will be labelled or give the impression they are easy.

 

Some are just traditional, and feel men should do the asking out.

 

Such a shame women have this stigma about asking a guy out on a date. I have asked men out with a lot of sucess. Never had a problem with it.

 

How about this....what is your impression of a woman that does ask you out, picks you up and pays for the date? Do you feel emasculinated? or do you feel flattered?

Often surprised, but flattered. I'm very easily flattered if I'm honest - that'll get a girl everywhere with me .

[MrMeh]

Couple times a year. Mine are all pretty overt, but never direct. They laugh,tease,and sometimes touch my chest.

 

I've never reciprocated though because I was never attracted to anybody that approached me. Guess that's why I started moving first instead moping idly while grazing my foot in the dirt.

[fortyninethousand322]

Never?

 

I actually don't think a woman has ever come up to me unsolicited to ask me a question. Even back when I worked in retail.

[Priv]

Couple of times a year I guess just out and about, not counting OLD etc. Than it would be daily I guess.

[umirano]

I got ass grabbed, does that count?

 

I get smiles, nice little chats, that sort of attention, maybe on a weekly basis. I do not recount being asked for a date by a woman (nor a man for that matter) flat out ever.

[Priv]

It is also kind of a choice to be approached. I don't go out often, but those times I do and stay relatively sober I will get approached a few times a night. Raves I get approached non stop (though I don't do those yearly, and might very well never do again).

 

 

Supermarket, never...

[Dork Vader]

If I go to bars or clubs every weekend I get asked out at least 2-3 times a month.

 

On dating web sites 1-2 a week depending on how active I am onthe website.

 

Around town almost never, at best I'll get to know someone such as a bank teller and they will suggest they want to do things with me.

 

When it happens at bars and clubs the women more so approach me. They flirt and make it very clear they want me. If I don't ask for their number thy just give it to me. I've also had women come up hug me and say you're hot I want to take you home with me. (That's the pg version). I've also been sexually assaulted by drunk women at bars a few times. Complete stranger walks up and hugs me then they start grabbing my package. No thanks!!

Edited October 6, 2014 by Dork Vader

[normal person]

What's the definition of getting "asked out?" A woman literally asking if you'll go out with them? That hasn't happened to me since college, maybe just a few times online.

 

Women aren't that bold. I get plenty of "I'm interested" signals from girls when I'm out at the bar or in the park but it's usually of the passive variety. If we're talking about OLD likes/winks/messages etc, then I've gotten a few thousand in the last 18 months or so (I live in New York).

[Keenly]

Well.... technically I wasn't " asked out " in the traditional sense of what you'd might think that phrase meant, but in 2010 I was asked by three different women. Not to hang out, but rather a direct question to be their boyfriends. I said yes to all of them, even the one I was hesitant to try out.

 

 

My suspicions were confirmed through demonstration of her moral character. But I found it incredibly endearing to be asked out like that, and it made me more confident at the time.

 

 

that's probably what lead to the others desiring me.

[TouchedByViolet]

I get asked out like once every year or two. The ones I can recall have been well below average in appearance sadly.

 

I also struggle to just get dates in general. I think that is a core point many people miss on these 2 threads. I would say at least 80% of women could get a date or even sex with an average guy in the next week if they wanted to. Most men can't do the same with a women.

 

There are men who go into their mid to late 20's without ever having a significant other, sex or even a romantic kiss. Personally, I don't know a single women who has struggled anywhere close to that.

[somedude81]

Directly asked out, or had a woman ever suggest doing something with me, never.

 

What I have had was a woman (usually very unattractive) being unusually friendly with me. My Spider-Sense says that those women may have been interested in me, but I've often misinterpreted friendliness as interest. One of those girls actually had a boyfriend and I really thought she liked me. Nope, she was just friendly and outgoing.

[carhill]

I had to vote other, since I can remember the last time I was technically 'asked out', and it was after about three weeks of off and on interaction, long-distance, by e-mail and phone, with my now exW, and she actually suggested meeting for lunch. That probably sounds like a long time to 'figure it out' but neither of us was apparently in a hurry and I had just returned from another trip to Ukraine so wasn't really interested in dating anyone locally at that time. However, I was single so still enjoyed the mingle

 

As far as some woman I've known socially in person in real life asking me out on a date, or even suggesting such a thing, sorry to say never happened. I don't think that's remarkable since, in my generation and demographic, men are very aggressive about pursuing women, both single and married, so women don't really have to think about or pursue such matters, in general. The guys have it handled.

[Jules Dash]

The last time I actually got approached was about 3 and a half years ago in a parking lot at a store. It's alright. I have no problem doing it myself.

[Candy_Pants]

Never?

 

I actually don't think a woman has ever come up to me unsolicited to ask me a question. Even back when I worked in retail.

Maybe we can go watch a baseball game sometime???

[Toodaloo]

There are a few reasons why women don't put themselves out there.....they fear that they will be labelled or give the impression they are easy.

 

Some are just traditional, and feel men should do the asking out.

 

Such a shame women have this stigma about asking a guy out on a date. I have asked men out with a lot of sucess. Never had a problem with it.

 

How about this....what is your impression of a woman that does ask you out, picks you up and pays for the date? Do you feel emasculinated? or do you feel flattered?

 

We are also constantly told DO NOT ASK THE GUY OUT... Every self help book, every article, every shred of advice is do not ask him - let him ask you. So we are stuck flirting, hoping that you catch our (un)subtle hints and ask us...

 

I have asked guys out and it has never gone well. I always get the feeling that they have gone out with me because they have nothing better to do rather than they actually wanted to... So would I ask again... No. If a guy wants me he can ask me. Otherwise I am going to assume he is not interested.

[CharlieFox]

Personally I don't mind if a woman asks me out, I would give it a go, even if the woman isn't as attractive, because you never know how she'll be as a person.

 

I got asked out once by a girl, and she was sweet, definitely not unattractive, I didn't pay much attention to her until she came out and asked me if I would like to go out with her, and I didn't mind seeing her at all. But when we got to the date, she just out of nowhere started telling me these hyper weird stories about how drunk she got this time or that time, and where and how she puked here and there... I was so turned off by this that I never wanted to go out with her again, let alone have anything to do with her.