rdet123 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Hey all! I just wanted to see everyone's views on this topic! I would love to see if their is a defining quality for both gender of what they find sexy or if it really varies from each person. I am a female and the sexiest quality a guy can have for me would be a confidence in himself. I'm not talking being cocky or full of himself, i'm talking they way he holds himself and treats other people. A guy who is confident is kind to people and knows his self worth. He isn't a pushover, but is willing to go the extra mile for his family or the girl he loves. Since i'm recently back in the dating world after a break up a couple months ago, these are the qualities i'm looking for in a guy. So what do ya'll think? Would love to hear opinions! 1
LoneIsland Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 (edited) Sexy time is sexy, no two words about it. I once came across this woman who wanted me to find her sexy because she had a nice job. That sent me into a 2 month deep depression. I have never in my life came across something less sexy than that. Edited October 6, 2014 by LoneIsland
Gloria25 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I think you hit it on the nail... Confidence is a big one for me...cuz, it spreads out into any thing you may have to do...I mean, I get my moments of doubt and stuff, but push through and even "fake" confidence if I have to If someone is too scared and doesn't have confidence - when they run across something they may be doubtful about, not sure if they'll be open to giving it a try... And, like you, I don't like the "confidence" that is like cocky. I also like humility. I doubt my ability to do things and am very humble...Some people mistake my humility for weakness...but, I like that in a guy also. I don't need some fool beating their chest to know that when it boils down to getting it done, it will be done. 2
Shepp Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Tough - there's lots of things, but I'd have to agree with you OP - the sexiest quality a girl can have is confidence! Especially a girl who walks that border line of almost tipping into arrogance but has a wicked sense of humour to offset it - I'm all over that!! I'd also put sense of humour, bravery & loyalty right up there in the quality list. 4
Betsy_Beth Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Confidence and intelligence. I def like smart guys. Wondering if guys are more focused on looks in a girl or personality plays a big role too. For me as a girl personality definitely before looks.
isisisweeping Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Intelligence. Far and away more than anything else. Then for me personally, a dominant demeanor.
Phoe Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Having a penis is the #1 sexiest thing, lol. Following that is intelligence, kindness towards other and animals, and an ability to make me smile and feel adored. 2
cif Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 how well he treats me & others, humor, success(professional), face, body/fitness ..in that order
Priv Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Tough - there's lots of things, but I'd have to agree with you OP - the sexiest quality a girl can have is confidence! Especially a girl who walks that border line of almost tipping into arrogance but has a wicked sense of humour to offset it - I'm all over that!! I'd also put sense of humour, bravery & loyalty right up there in the quality list. I like that; bravery. No offense meant but most women I meet are scaredy cats. Or most men have a death wish, that could be it too. I guess that ties in with confidence. 1
Tayken Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 @OP...... There is a myriad of qualities that attracts different people to one another, and I think the answers you have thus far shows that. However, not all qualities are created equal, and the onus is on you to find out the absolute ones that means a lot to you personally. As for Moi.....in no particular order 1. Ambitious 2. smart / intelligent 3. non confrontational 4. mutual respect 5. independent 6. friendly 7. well dressed (personally don't care for Jeans, sweats, hooker boots, tight tops) 8. sincere/honesty/transparent 9. spontaneous 10. No pets Note: Looks don't even make the top 10, and I can go on with it still not making the top 20.
Author rdet123 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Awesome posts guys! I get the vibe it mostly comes down to how you present yourself and how you value your self worth. I also like the post about bravery!
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Yeah, I will agree that intelligence is supersonically sexy! I like to be challenged and being with intelligent men definitely keeps me on my toes A close tie would also be sense of humor. Any man who can make me laugh is a keeper!
Shepp Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I like that; bravery. No offense meant but most women I meet are scaredy cats. Or most men have a death wish, that could be it too. I guess that ties in with confidence. Yeah I guess your right, they do tie in really. I think though like bravery is underrated women, more like something you judge a guy on, but bravery in women in a pretty powerful thing! When I think of girls I know who I've seen do something genuinely brave, I'm pretty sure it made them instantly more attractive to me. I mean being able to catch your own spider is one thing but a girl who'll stand up to folk or break up a dog fight - that's pretty hardcore!
TheKook Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Girls who are really passionate about their work/job/hobbies come off as really attractive to me for some reason
oberkeat Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 This here is a good thread. I like girls who have a kind of abstract intelligence plus a quirky sense of style. This one girl I'm currently crushing on wears over sized horn-rimmed glasses and cardigan sweaters. My gawd
fortyninethousand322 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Intelligence. Actual intelligence, not the pretense of knowledge. Because there is a difference. 2
ComingInHot Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Intelligent Brave Confident And just for me* Masculine donimant, protective yet ready for adventure and saves a lot of that just for lil ole me 2
pteromom Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 The absolute most sexy thing is a joyous spirit. A love of life, people, and experiences. 2
Haydn Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Smell. Everyone has that unique whiff, that either puts her there or not. She can have the body and a face of a goddess but if she does not smell right then.......Everyone has this. (Surely) 3
Tayken Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 This here is a good thread. I like girls who have a kind of abstract intelligence plus a quirky sense of style. This one girl I'm currently crushing on wears over sized horn-rimmed glasses and cardigan sweaters. My gawd Well no good telling us......Let her know how you feel man, I mean what have you got to lose? I bet you she is wicked in the boudoir also if you know what I mean...wink wink
90s kid Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 A nice smile Generosity Intelligence Confidence Ability to make me feel special
ptp Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Boobs. Boobs and not stealing all of the blankets on cold winter nights. 1
lillyz Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Boobs. Boobs and not stealing all of the blankets on cold winter nights. ^ Haha. I agree with the other women in this thread: intelligence, confidence (I personally like guys with a quiet confidence), sense of humor. Probably in that order... Also a guy who beats to his own drum... has his own vision... that is massively attractive to me. And, a little ruggedness. Can't resist it. ;-) 1
littleblackheart Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 wit open-mindedness loyalty being true to himself emotionally stable 1
xxmusical Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I agree with many posters: confidence, intelligence, humor, kindness, courage.
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