I don't date right now - but should I?

[ThaWholigan]

I rarely make threads here these days so I'll keep it short and sweet

I live at home, only been in my job 2 months and I don't make crazy money right now. Right now, it is my excuse for not pursuing any dating opportunities, and choosing to remain celibate until I sort my life out. It's a bit tough but I'm content with this.

 

Is it a good enough excuse though? Or am I overcompensating?

 

Guess I'd like a few 2nd opinions!

[Redhead14]

I rarely make threads here these days so I'll keep it short and sweet.

 

I live at home, only been in my job 2 months and I don't make crazy money right now. Right now, it is my excuse for not pursuing any dating opportunities, and choosing to remain celibate until I sort my life out. It's a bit tough but I'm content with this.

 

Is it a good enough excuse though? Or am I overcompensating?

 

Guess I'd like a few 2nd opinions!

 

Any time you are struggling with something that makes you want to make an excuse for not dating or seeing people, is the time to take a step back. Why do you even need an excuse? You choose what you choose.

 

Reading between the lines, I'd say there is something else going on.

Edited October 6, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

I rarely make threads here these days so I'll keep it short and sweet

I live at home, only been in my job 2 months and I don't make crazy money right now. Right now, it is my excuse for not pursuing any dating opportunities, and choosing to remain celibate until I sort my life out. It's a bit tough but I'm content with this.

 

Is it a good enough excuse though? Or am I overcompensating?

 

Guess I'd like a few 2nd opinions!

 

 

I never thought about dating in general, as I matured late in life physically and matured mentally much faster than others around me. So I felt more like the odd duck and left dating matters aside until I felt comfortable.

 

I waited til I was 30, though some times I felt I held back because I was not sure of being so responsible. I was too use to depending on myself and being very independent. Though I found that once you commit to a relationship you find your strength will prevail, and allowing sharing of responsibilities and being interdependent with the other.

 

So don't worry about when you feel comfortable, it is better to feel comfortable, than to rush and make matters worse.

[ThaWholigan]

Any time you are struggling with something that makes you want to make an excuse for not dating or seeing people, is the time to take a step back. Why do you even need an excuse? You choose what you choose.

 

Reading between the lines, I'd say there is something else going on.

Not particularly - as I said, I live with my mother and as most people here already know, I happen to be autistic. At this point, I don't really feel comfortable enough pursuing dating opportunities in lieu of this. I could, and I get far more interest than I did in my earlier years, but it wouldn't last too long, and if I'm honest - the kind of girl I would like to date probably doesn't want to date a 26 year old living at home (and I'm not specifically referencing looks either).

 

I'm open to someone who is, but I'm not exactly looking!

Edited October 6, 2014 by ThaWholigan

[Redhead14]

Not particularly - as I said, I live with my mother and as most people here already know, I happen to be autistic. At this point, I don't really feel comfortable enough pursuing dating opportunities in lieu of this. I could, and I get far more interest than I did in my earlier years, but it wouldn't last too long, and if I'm honest - the kind of girl I would like to date probably doesn't want to date a 26 year old living at home (and I'm not specifically referencing looks either).

 

You are not happy with your situation. Until that happens, you will not be truly successful in dating and likely suffer setbacks in that area which will not help you for sure. You are doing the right thing. Give yourself time and be good to yourself.

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

Not particularly - as I said, I live with my mother and as most people here already know, I happen to be autistic. At this point, I don't really feel comfortable enough pursuing dating opportunities in lieu of this. I could, and I get far more interest than I did in my earlier years, but it wouldn't last too long, and if I'm honest - the kind of girl I would like to date probably doesn't want to date a 26 year old living at home (and I'm not specifically referencing looks either).

 

I'm open to someone who is, but I'm not exactly looking!

 

Ah I picked up on Autistic... Maybe closer to the edge of Savant.

 

I have qualities that make it difficult for others to see my caring and personal side. I am very quiet and shy... so what I see is Yes or No, facial expressions don't matter. Not saying you have that with in you, but it seems when you have more logic going on, less emotion is shown.

 

If you do find such qualities about yourself, you must be open to explain that with your date, as it will throw them off completely at times.

 

Though men can take advantage of knowing too much as you may give away feelings that they should pick up on within themselves.

 

Hope when you do decide to date, you are confident in how you are to go through the process. The right guy will follow you, the wrong guy will just push you along, or leave.

[Ruby Slippers]

Are you planning to continue living with your mother or are you planning to get your own place?

 

I moved back to my home state a few months ago and am living with my parents right now till I save up a good amount of money, and then I'll get my own place again. I've been thinking about dating again, but I'm not going to make any real effort there until I have my own place. I'm certainly not going to bring a date back to my parents' house, so I think it makes sense to wait until I have my own place before dating again. Now, if I'm approached by someone and he's cool with my situation, then I'll date him.

 

I'm trying to use this as motivation to be frugal and save. No cuddles, kisses, or nookie for me until I've got my own bachelorette pad again

[Assasda]

I rarely make threads here these days so I'll keep it short and sweet

I live at home, only been in my job 2 months and I don't make crazy money right now. Right now, it is my excuse for not pursuing any dating opportunities, and choosing to remain celibate until I sort my life out. It's a bit tough but I'm content with this.

 

Is it a good enough excuse though? Or am I overcompensating?

 

Guess I'd like a few 2nd opinions!

 

Cant live your life for you man.

You should know if youre ready to date or not

[Haydn]

Think steady and slow can be good. You are young and still mistakes to be made. Overcompensating soon goes when the girl that makes you look up walks into the room. And i mean she is looking up at you as well. Nothing really works to a plan or something we set out to do. It is always moving.

 

You are intelligent in ways i could not hope to be, (reading your other posts)

 

Obviously your downfall will be supporting the `Gunners`.

 

 

 

I rarely make threads here these days so I'll keep it short and sweet

I live at home, only been in my job 2 months and I don't make crazy money right now. Right now, it is my excuse for not pursuing any dating opportunities, and choosing to remain celibate until I sort my life out. It's a bit tough but I'm content with this.

 

Is it a good enough excuse though? Or am I overcompensating?

 

Guess I'd like a few 2nd opinions!

[me85]

No, there's nothing wrong with that at all. I'm basically doing the same thing.

 

Though I do miss affection. Especially kissing. /= BUT it's awesome to be content with being single. We have to take time for us. It's important to work on ourselves.

 

I'm the happiest I've ever been!