KansasChica Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 So my boyfriend and I were out downtown this weekend. He went to meet up with some old coworkers and I went home early. He didn't come back that night until after 2 am. The next day, he was acting weird- tired, hungover, and just stand-offish in general. I asked him if he had had fun and his response was "yeah, just doing guy stuff- mainly talking about work". Today, I saw on FB that he had been tagged in a photo with his a girl he used to date that same night. He didn't add it to his page though- it's just on hers. I'm definitely upset by this. Should I confront him about it or just let it go?
creyente7 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Well he might get upset or think you're insecure if you tell him that you were snooping around fb. But if you "accidentally" came across it then you can confront him. Or you can simply just ignore it but take notice. If this is a reoccurring problem then definitely talk to him about it. If there was nothing done then why make a big deal. He might have bumped into her or something
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 So my boyfriend and I were out downtown this weekend. He went to meet up with some old coworkers and I went home early. He didn't come back that night until after 2 am. The next day, he was acting weird- tired, hungover, and just stand-offish in general. I asked him if he had had fun and his response was "yeah, just doing guy stuff- mainly talking about work". Today, I saw on FB that he had been tagged in a photo with his a girl he used to date that same night. He didn't add it to his page though- it's just on hers. I'm definitely upset by this. Should I confront him about it or just let it go? Sounds like they met up, being drunk til 2am sounds like more than what he is leading on. I never ever stay up late about work stuff, unless the servers are down. No, I did not mean the waitresses going down! See what I mean??? 2
ExpatInItaly Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Hm. How did you see it on her page, and not his? Are you a friend of hers too? I would want to talk to him about it. But it might be tricky, depending on how you saw this photo. You should casually ask him who was with him. Give me the chance to be honest. If he neglects to mention her, I think you might have to come clean and tell him what you saw. Let him explain it, then decide if you accept his explanation. In your position, I would be uneasy too.
cmonman Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 As a guy who generally remains cool and cordial with the women he has dated, I can tell you that I have been in your bf's position several times and it honestly doesn't even cross my mind when I run into an ex. It's such a non-issue that I wouldn't bring it up to my current girlfriend the next day, because it would either make her jealous, or I just plain forgot. Is he cool with this ex? Now, as far as confronting him, I think you would be way better off either saying "hey, I really wasn't trying to stalk, but this picture of you and your ex just popped up on my feed. Did you run into her while you were out?" and then just gauge his reaction. If he gets defensive, that probably means you should be worried, but if it were me, I would say "oh yeah, I ran into her at (insert bar) and we chatted for a minute. Sorry, I totally forgot." The other way to handle it is to just forget about it and trust him. DO NOT try to be sneaky and "casually" bring it up, because that is just annoying. The second he hears something like "so wait, who were you out with again the other night? Run into anyone INTERESTING??? (wink wink)" he will know what you're getting to and feel like you're being immature, whether he did anything or not.
Assasda Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 OP is just jealous. If you bring it up in a confronting matter, he'll resent you for you insecurities
d0nnivain Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 It's a picture. Unless they were all over each other downshift. Calmly talk to him about. Tell him it upset you. Confess your insecurities & hash through it with him . I'd be unnerved but jumping to conclusions, yelling & flying off the handle won't help resolve the issues.
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