Jessicalo Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 About a month ago I met a guy at a bar after my friend told him I found him attractive. He told my friend he wasn't looking for a relationship, which was fine. He ended up staying the night with me that night. After that he proceeds to text me everyday about life and things, very flirty and whatnot. We hung out again once after that and he came home with me again. After this time though he hasn't contacted me in several days. Basically went from texting me a lot to not at all. Did he simply lose interest, or was I looking into his messages a little too much in the first place? I started to like his personality and though he was a fun guy, and I'm just feeling a bit at a loss. Obviously I wouldn't be heartbroken if he is just finished with our tryst, but maybe someone's opinion of the situation can put this in perspective for me.
Leilah Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 If he stated from the beginning that he "wasn't looking for a relationship", I think it's a sure thing to say that he's not interested. I'm assuming you slept with him when he stayed the night so I can only speculate he was after sex.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 So I guess he was right, he was not into having a relationship. Though I think the 2nd night with you he realized you were too interested or his interests went elsewhere soon after.
Author Jessicalo Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Yes, it was established at first that it was just about sex. I just don't understand why after that he would initiate conversation every day for a week? He also added me on facebook(har har). I just know when I'm in it for a hookup I don't invest that much effort. Maybe he just works differently I suppose.
Beautiful Kisses Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I know its frustrating, idk why they do this honestly instead of just being upfront with us. I think he's going to come back around when he's ready like most of them do pretending to be intrested. Smh.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Yes, it was established at first that it was just about sex. I just don't understand why after that he would initiate conversation every day for a week? He also added me on facebook(har har). I just know when I'm in it for a hookup I don't invest that much effort. Maybe he just works differently I suppose. Think of it as FWB, do you want it or not??? If not then walk away, if you do, don't even bother looking at FB. Either way your not in a relationship. Just my 2 cents... I would not bother with a FWB with such a guy, he seems more active than what I would feel comfy with. Since I have had plenty of FWB in my life, I know personally that the women chose to be for so long, was that I had no other interests for other sexual partners. Well until one became very controlling and jealous. Hope you see there is no reason think much more into what had happened.
Author Jessicalo Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 I know its frustrating, idk why they do this honestly instead of just being upfront with us. I think he's going to come back around when he's ready like most of them do pretending to be intrested. Smh. Thank you!
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