This happened about six months ago but I am considering contacting her again. ?

[VedderisBetter]

Ok this woman in my class and I are acquaintances. I expressed after our initial conversation through email the fact that I think she is nice and pretty. She responded by saying this makes her smile at her age (She is ten years older than me, although she looks about my age) and she also said she doesn't check her email much and gave me her cell number without me even asking. She did indicate that she isn't looking for a boyfriend (putting her degree ahead of finding a boyfriend),but said we can certainly be friends, and she is divorced and has a 13 year old daughter. A few weeks ago she even lost her phone, and wrote me a note in class asking for my number again. Anyways, I have asked her out on two separate dates: one to a concert and the other to a Reds game and she gave her reasoning as to why she couldn't go. For the concert date, she said she has a lot on her mind/super busy and is drained. For the Reds game, she said she can't because she had to be home at a certain time on the night of the Reds game. She may not be lying about this because she did immediately leave after class was over and didn't walk and talk with me like she sometimes does. I did ask if she'd like to grab a bite to eat after class and she said "Sure!". My question is: Why would this girl have given me her number and now be blowing me off or at least seeming not interested. Maybe I appear to her as wanting to date her, and she would rather just be friends, at least for the time being?

 

I am 28 and she is 37.

[smackie9]

The avoidance is a message loud and clear "I'm not interested". She told you "friends only" and that is what she wants. Stop reading into it as "maybe". Asking her out on dates is over stepping the boundaries she set up with you. If you can't be friends with her then leave her alone.