chicaboom Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 HI Everyone, I'm in a sticky situation. I recently ended things with the guy I was seeing for a month because I felt like he wasn't really making me a priority. I told him I wanted to see him more, and he agreed. We finally made plans on Sunday (after not seeing each other for over a week), but then he cancelled last minute on Sunday because his grandma asked him to have dinner at her place since he would not be around for thanksgiving next weekend. Let me add that I have found this man (34 yr old) to be a total mama's/granny's boy. He is at their place every weekend, which I initially thought was really sweet, but he never made time for me. Not even during the week. This is why on Sunday I felt like I had given him enough chances and cut the chord. However, after talking to some g/f they thought I didn't CLEARLY express to him what I really wanted and that i should ask him to call me back. I messaged him asking him to call me and explained why I broke up with him and that i was just hurt and mad. But he hasn't replied (it's been one day). My question is, should I leave my dignity at the door completely and try one more time to ask him to meet me for a drink tonight? I want to explain myself! I"ve never ever begged someone to take me back but part of me feels maybe I should just put myself on the line completely and fight for him. thoughts???
Toodaloo Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Its his Grandma. I have rearranged loads to spend time with my Grandparents instead. If you don't like it move on. Don't bother going for drinks - he isn't going to change and if you don't like it now it will really get your goat an another months time.
Author chicaboom Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 I don't mind that he spends time with his family, I like that! I just want him to stick to our plans when we make them, and make a tiny bit of room for me. Anyways I contacted him and apologized and asked him to message me, but he hasn't since yesterday and I don't think he will. I guess it's over and it makes me sad that he isn't willing to forgive me when I apologized profusely and described how I was in the wrong and asked to just talk even on the phone. I'm actually shocked at his abrupt coldness...even I gave him another chance last time:( so sad..
smackie9 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 It's only a month and you see issues here already. Move on and find someone else that fulfills your expectations. He is alright seeing you once every two weeks, you are not. It's a no brainer, this guy is not for you.
smackie9 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I don't mind that he spends time with his family, I like that! I just want him to stick to our plans when we make them, and make a tiny bit of room for me. Anyways I contacted him and apologized and asked him to message me, but he hasn't since yesterday and I don't think he will. I guess it's over and it makes me sad that he isn't willing to forgive me when I apologized profusely and described how I was in the wrong and asked to just talk even on the phone. I'm actually shocked at his abrupt coldness...even I gave him another chance last time:( so sad.. Last time??? wft are you kidding me? Ditch this guy already.....
d0nnivain Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 If it's this hard to command his attention in the 1st 30 days you know him, what do you honestly see worth saving here? You want more than he's willing to give. There's nothing for you to fight for.
Assasda Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 This guy will think youre crazy if he doesnt think youre already crazy. Just leave him alone. Its been only a month, and I think you should have understood his situation and give him some space. You made you choice, live with it 1
umirano Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I don't think you were out of line OP. For some reason you don't matter very much to him. You're beating a dead horse if you try to talk to him about it.
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