Betsy_Beth Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Hi everyone, I just remembered something my boyfriend texted me once which bothered me at that time but then I forgot about it. Anyway, I can't remember everything but it was something like this: he said how he cares about me blah blah and then "you are as good as I can get". What does that mean? My first thought was " i am not the best or even good but the best he can have" which I found insulting. However, considering that he was trying to get us back together it doesn't make sense. I can't even tell if this is positive or negative. I know this was while ago but I am just curious. Thanks.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I think he is telling you are the best. Just does not explains himself well. 3
Redhead14 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Hi everyone, I just remembered something my boyfriend texted me once which bothered me at that time but then I forgot about it. Anyway, I can't remember everything but it was something like this: he said how he cares about me blah blah and then "you are as good as I can get". What does that mean? My first thought was " i am not the best or even good but the best he can have" which I found insulting. However, considering that he was trying to get us back together it doesn't make sense. I can't even tell if this is positive or negative. I know this was while ago but I am just curious. Thanks. He's not going to find anyone better than you. No matter how he mean't it, though, it's true. Yes? He's not being offensive.
Author Betsy_Beth Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Thanks For your replies. I can really overreact sometimes
Beautiful Kisses Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Wow. What he said was really nice and sweet. I don't think he meant anything negative by saying that. Please answer my question please !
Author Betsy_Beth Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 I hope you are right. I was really bothered by that. Funny it was said by the guy who " can't be with anyone right now". I have a post about it it here and I guess all these questions and memories are just process of trying to go NC and get over him.
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Hmm...I can see how you can read into this as being negative. Upon first reading it, just by the words written out as they are, it sounds offensive to me initially BUT sometimes you have to know the context of the conversation to better understand the meaning. As well, sometimes people just aren't good with expressing themselves very well especially when it comes to texting (ugh). Perhaps saying something like "You're the best I'm ever going to have" might have been better and made more sense but who knows. If whatever he said worked and he won you back and you're happy together then my advice would be to STOP over thinking it especially after the fact. You might create problems where there aren't any. Good luck.
Author Betsy_Beth Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Thanks for our reply. The only reason I didnt take it offensive is because he was trying to see me and was telling me how much he likes me, cares for me so I thought after so much effort he put in this sentence doesnt make sense to be offensive. Anyway, he kept texting and I didn't make a big deal of it. He did win me back then but as I said he can't be in a relationship and as much as he was sweet and affectionate I broke it off.
Author Betsy_Beth Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Anyone who finds this offensive or at least not such a positive thing to say to a girl?
Assasda Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I think he means that. He is such a low esteem, insecure person. That youre the best he can do. You think ing about this, lets me realize that OP you are an low self-esteem person as well, however I think your BF has lower self-esteem than you
Author Betsy_Beth Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 I might have a low self-esteeem now when he is refusing to commit to me ( and being the first guy to do so). Before him I was pretty confident about myself. Sad
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