Apaige Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Second chances...are they really worth it? Do you give it another try? I am plagued with this thought. I was very insecure within this relationship of two years. I wasn't this way the first year, but the more I began to love and open my heart the harder it was for me to trust. The insecurities came from my past marriage. My ex cheated...I took all of this with me into the next relationship. I do suspect se infidelities in this relationship too. Actually, I caught him with her ( not in bed) but with her. He says he loves me, and all that crap, but I just don't know. Honestly, why wouldn't he just walk, he'll even run? Why stick around, and try...he was wrong, he knows this, he's admitted it. So why not just walk away with your head low?! As for me, do I give it another go? I know, " do what your heart feels" problem is, I don't know what my heart feels anymore...I do know that I love him!!
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Second chances...are they really worth it? Do you give it another try? I am plagued with this thought. I was very insecure within this relationship of two years. I wasn't this way the first year, but the more I began to love and open my heart the harder it was for me to trust. The insecurities came from my past marriage. My ex cheated...I took all of this with me into the next relationship. I do suspect se infidelities in this relationship too. Actually, I caught him with her ( not in bed) but with her. He says he loves me, and all that crap, but I just don't know. Honestly, why wouldn't he just walk, he'll even run? Why stick around, and try...he was wrong, he knows this, he's admitted it. So why not just walk away with your head low?! As for me, do I give it another go? I know, " do what your heart feels" problem is, I don't know what my heart feels anymore...I do know that I love him!! Gosh that is a tough one... even though I had my 1st ever Poof! on me, I have that sort of feeling. Knowing peeps change, and eventually see the light when they do. I know if I were to be in a position to allow for a 2nd chance, I'd be cautious. Though it is how you see the change, looking for faults you will see an excuse to fall back on to your fears. The only way to resolve fears, is to have him be twice the man he was. Being open about his feelings, to take every moment to be with you, to honor you like he should, to show without any doubts he will always feel guilty. That I could not live with that for my 2nd chance. As I want pure love that is not having to be tested at every corner, nor forced by issues from the past. Though if anything, I would have to reconcile my own thoughts and allow myself to push away the bad thoughts and allow for myself to grow as well. As it would be greatly unfair not to. I would try my best to resolve as well, and not settle with my fear and their guilt.
Zahara Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Is this the guy you posted about a week ago -- feeling like he was slipping away and questioned if he wanted to date other women? Then you found a woman leaving his home?
No Limit Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 No. No no no. This wasn't just the infidelity, there's been trouble all along judging from your threads. Stay away from this guy, he just saw an easy catch in a weak and newly divorced woman.
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