xxmusical Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Just a general discussion: Who's the better looking one in your relationship: you or your partner? How would you feel if you see other people checking your partner out, or saying s/he's pretty or good-looking? Would you be happy, proud, jealous, annoyed, insecure, etc.? My bf is quite good-looking with beautiful facial features. Meanwhile, I'm more of the "cute/petite" type, not the heads-turning-beautiful-type. So I would say my bf is the better looking one. He told me occasionally girls on the street would ask him for his number before we started dating. And some of his female colleagues obviously have a fancy for him. What about you guys?
Els Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Isn't this extremely subjective? I have no idea. My guess is that we both think the other person is. 3
kjohn Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 My BF and I have this "argument" all the time and, of course, we each say the other is the more attractive one. I feel proud when other women express attraction to him. Jealousy would only come into play for me if it was him expressing the attraction to another woman. He has a fan club, in fact. I jokingly call them his stalkers. Every single time he posts a picture on Facebook there is a group of about 10 women who, without fail, comment on the picture. The comment is always about how good looking he is…and I agree with them. The only time this bothered me was when his SIL recently tagged him in a picture she posted of him and then tagged one of her friends who thinks he's hot and said "This one's for you." That I thought was a bit rude and tacky. 3
quidproquo89 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Isn't this extremely subjective? I have no idea. My guess is that we both think the other person is. I hate this idea and I hate the word league. We are all human beings, we all live and we all die. What's whose better looking to do with anything. Some beautiful looking people I have known are really ugly, therefore I find them unattractive 8
2.50 a gallon Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Definitely my GF, she is totally out of my league in the looks department, and the nice department. Over the years she has purchased for me several "Grumpy" T-shirts. And is not afraid to tell people we meet that I am grumpy. She must like grumpy as a week from today we will have been together 19 years. 6
No Limit Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 If I loved him more than myself, I'd probably say he is.
braindamage Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Haha - this never works if you ask the person in the relationship 1
Emilia Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I hate this idea and I hate the word league. We are all human beings, we all live and we all die. What's whose better looking to do with anything. You can hate them as much as you like, they still exist. They mean more than just looks: social status, wealth, etc. It simply isn't true that everyone has a chance with everyone else. Angelina Jolie wouldn't have dated just anyone even if she wasn't famous and she would have always had her pick of the litter. Same with affluent men with high social status, they don't marry single mothers from council estates, Pretty Woman was a piece of fiction. But sticking to looks: I think generally it's better if the woman is better looking as men seem to like the idea of punching above their weight, especially while competing with other men. I don't equate attraction with looks 100% so it's an easy rule to stick to.
kjohn Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Angelina Jolie wouldn't have dated just anyone even if she wasn't famous and she would have always had her pick of the litter. I disagree. I know plenty of men who do not find Angelina Jolie attractive and, therefore, would not fall at her feet if she decided she wanted them. Some beautiful looking people I have known are really ugly, therefore I find them unattractive This is extremely true! Back to the Angelina Jolie example, let's not forget that she is a home wrecker. I've not looked at her the same since. She lost a lot of beauty in my eyes when she participated in breaking up a marriage. Pretty on the outside does not always mean pretty on the inside. Some people are actually attracted to inner beauty. 2
carhill Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Who's the better looking one: you or your partner? IME, mixed bag. I think my exW was more photogenic but it also seems I got a fair amount of positive comments while married. Prior, some partners were similar in appearance IMO and a few were 'wow'. None were enter the room head-turning wow. On balance though, if I had to look at things dispassionately, most of my partners got more attention for their appearance from strangers than I did so I guess they were better looking, though perhaps some of that could be attributed to them being women and women tend to get more obvious attention from men for their appearance than the reverse.
MissBee Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I wouldn't want to date someone whom I was the ONLY person who found them attractive. I'm not dating a man for him to be a show piece, but at least someone else besides me and his mom should find him attractive. With my ex I'd say I was a little bit more attractive. 1
Got it Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I wouldn't want to date someone whom I was the ONLY person who found them attractive. I'm not dating a man for him to be a show piece, but at least someone else besides me and his mom should find him attractive. With my ex I'd say I was a little bit more attractive. What's wrong with arm candy? Dated a guy in college one summer, very easy on the eyes nothing between the ears. But I didn't have him around for conversation.
quidproquo89 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 What's wrong with arm candy? Dated a guy in college one summer, very easy on the eyes nothing between the ears. But I didn't have him around for conversation. slams head against desk
quidproquo89 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I never even think about my looks when I pursue somebody. If I find them attractive and their is common interests/we get along well - that's enough! I'm handsome enough to do alright for myself, I'm not hung up on it. I'm also aware that some people are very shallow and look for nothing more than whoever has the biggest neck or mouth. I wouldn't see eye to eye with a person like that anyway so no loss 1
quidproquo89 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 You can hate them as much as you like, they still exist. They mean more than just looks: social status, wealth, etc. It simply isn't true that everyone has a chance with everyone else. Angelina Jolie wouldn't have dated just anyone even if she wasn't famous and she would have always had her pick of the litter. Same with affluent men with high social status, they don't marry single mothers from council estates, Pretty Woman was a piece of fiction. But sticking to looks: I think generally it's better if the woman is better looking as men seem to like the idea of punching above their weight, especially while competing with other men. I don't equate attraction with looks 100% so it's an easy rule to stick to. they may to you, but not everybody.
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Isn't this extremely subjective? I have no idea. My guess is that we both think the other person is. I'm with Elswyth on this one. I think my man is gorgeous and he certainly thinks I am. Period. I don't give a crap what other people think because I'm not in a relationship with them. If you're worrying about what others think about your partner and/or date people based on what other people find attractive, that's just sad. It not only tells me you're shallow but painfully insecure. Just talking about physical beauty, I'd like to think I'm one of those women who is easy on the eyes but I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea either. And that's perfectly fine by me because that's life. I've dated men who were ridiculously good looking, the kind where all my friends and family would blatantly swoon over but at the end of the day, they revealed themselves to be idiots with questionable characters who turned "ugly" right before my eyes. C'est la vie. Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. 3
Shepp Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 My BF and I have this "argument" all the time and, of course, we each say the other is the more attractive one. Hahahah me and my wife have this but the other way round - I'll tell her what a catch I am, she'll feign disagreement! In seriousness - her, of course her! I'm not putting myself down, i get my fair share of complements, but she just takes my breath away, still all this time later, same as the first time we ever met 4
central Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 She's a 9 or 10, and turns heads. I'm a step or two down. It doesn't bother me - I know who she loves. 2
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I actually think in my current relationship we're about equal, it's the first time I have felt that I'm not the slightly better looking one! He is a total fox. I know that other women would find him attractive because it's undeniable he's such a good looking guy. But I don't think I've heard anyone say he's sexy/hot etc. because he doesn't really attract that sort of attention, he's pretty loyal and makes it clear to everyone he's head over heels being with me. Which is lovely. 1
Phoe Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I'd say we are pretty even. Both pretty average folks with some nice features. Both brown hair, brown eyes. He looks handsome with a beard, has lovely lips and nice bone structure. He's got great skin, my skin is far more fickle than his. I'm more in shape than him though, and am more "groomed" so to speak. All in all it evens out. 1
MissBee Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 What's wrong with arm candy? Dated a guy in college one summer, very easy on the eyes nothing between the ears. But I didn't have him around for conversation. Unfortunately, I'm too much of a sapiophile. I get more out of showing off a man for his intelligence than his good looks lol. Nothing beats being the date of a man who can jump into a conversation and wow you with his keen insights and wit. In my circle simply having a hot brainless bf will earn you zero cool points. He will quickly become an embarrassment more than an asset. So if I had to choose, I would have to choose brainy over arm candy. Don't get me wrong though, my friends and I all appreciate a good looking man, ideally you want an erudite Adonis lol, but if you can't have both, pick the brains. 3
Tayken Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 If you're worrying about what others think about your partner and/or date people based on what other people find attractive, that's just sad. It not only tells me you're shallow but painfully insecure. It's easy for one to presume that this sort of question, is teh type that a younger person might ask, but the truth of the matter is there are more older people (age group 30 and up), that are more wrapped up with this than anything else. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said the above quoted words. Most are just seeking like mad that absolute looker, so they can post it on Facebook / Instagram / Twitter for their friends to 'like' and comment about. As you alluded to, your friends are NOT the ones that have to live with this person, and beauty is very subjective. For example I might think Helen Mirren and Susan Sarandon are the 2 most beautiful women I have ever seen, only for another man to come along and tell me that it's Jennifer Lawrence or Jennifer Love Hewitt 3
StanMusial Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Her, no question. I haven't encountered many cases where the guy half of the couple is obviously better looking. That only happens on LS where all the ladies date GQ models.
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