Not2FatNow Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Almost a year and a half with this man who I was engaged to. We've broken up several times and some of those times he said that he kept trying, but my weight was an issue. Now, it's my anxiety that he says he can't handle, despite my offer to get treatment. Find out he's been on facebook messaging people and the one he is going to meet is a big girl with anxiety issues. I can't wrap my head around it. No offense to bigger girls, I was one and worked my ass off trying to get small enough for him. Granted, I wanted to lose weight anyway so yay me but the point is...all this bitching about my anxiety and weight and THIS is what pulls him away? He was also very critical of our sex life, claiming it sucks and I'm bad at sex and I never want it but I was always the one initiating and despite him having some pretty freaky requests that I had never encountered before, I was willing to try for him. I'm just confused and lost and I want the pain to stop. I made it 28 hours with NC but then he texted with a pic of our dog and asked how I was doing.
Seeker12 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Just read back to yourself what you have just written. you worked your ass off slimming for this guy, you tried different things for this guy, yet he still has problems. you sound like an honest, decent woman, but il tell you straight from what you have said you deserve way better and much more from a man. leave the guy seriously. the pain will eventually go as your body balances again, and you will realise just how brilliant life is! Go complete NC with no intention of taking him back, your life might have a hole now but trust me, youll fill it soon with the right person, thing or hobby. 1
Author Not2FatNow Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Why couldn't he leave me a for a supermodel? Would be so much easier. Now I just feel like he never really cared.
thenotemakers Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 @Not2FatNow: I’m so sorry you are going through this painful experience, friend. Relationships hurt a lot when love isn’t communicated both ways. Have you talked to a counselor about your situation? Perhaps, drawing some boundaries in your relationship can help in figuring out your next step. I prayed for you, friend! “Hugs” TheNoteMakers
1Bhodhi Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Just read back to yourself what you have just written. you worked your ass off slimming for this guy, you tried different things for this guy, yet he still has problems. you sound like an honest, decent woman, but il tell you straight from what you have said you deserve way better and much more from a man. leave the guy seriously. the pain will eventually go as your body balances again, and you will realise just how brilliant life is! Go complete NC with no intention of taking him back, your life might have a hole now but trust me, youll fill it soon with the right person, thing or hobby. Ditto what Seeker said. No one should stand there and listen to the words this person is saying to you. I say person because a man would not speak to you that way. Ever. Get some counseling. Now. So you have support to NEVER take him back again. Stay on track with your fitness and diet. Our waistlines are not everything but you worked hard to lose weight and get healthier. Stay that way. Continue or take up activities even if it feels forced at first. Schedule them in instead of trying to squeeze them in randomly. You can't meet the right one until you let go of the wrong one.
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