AlexanderJames Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Hey guys. I've been seeing a woman lately, very attractive and a whole lot of fun to be around. We have spent a few nights together and had sex. Shes totally my opposite.. She doesn't like to be touchy feely or affectionate which I do, quite a lot. She doesn't ever want kids nor does she ever want to travel the world which I do, I even have kids names chosen and I am a 23 y o male haha. She is also 35 years old and at a stage in her life where going out and being social is not high on her list of activities. Taking into account these differences, every rational part of me told myself it couldn't nor would it ever work out with her if we got serious, and I knew I was right. But the physical attraction and the enjoyment of being around her lead me to give it a shot and tell her how I felt about her. Mutually we both agreed that we probably weren't very compatible. That and she had been single a very long time with no intentions of changing that any time soon. This outcome I know is how it needs to be, I mean I want to be with someone who likes to be kissed and caressed and romanced not someone who is put off by it. I want to see the world and have a family and these are things that more than likely wouldn't happen with her. It's a strange situation. The entire time leading up to the conversation I knew the outcome. A large part of me wanted it to happen this way. But it wasn't until I got home that I started feeling the forever alone sad feelings almost similar to breaking up with someone. You know the deal, rethinking memories and experiences and that sinking feeling if something reminds you of her, all that. Why??
Assasda Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 hahahaha, This budding cougar used you. Kudos to the woman. - She never lied to you or anything. She must've known you were naive though. Here's a little tip: Pick out your kids name after youve been seeing someone for a while first
quidproquo89 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 if you can dude, try to stave off the expectations, don't get your hopes up. Just go with the flow and have fun. Always emotions a little guarded 1
Author AlexanderJames Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Haha maybe she did use me! I didn't look at it that way. I've known her for a long time and we work together so I've always known that she isnt much of dating person. Which actually makes the whole using thing pretty plausible now that I think about it. She keeps txting me though... It's not all bad though, I used my what have I got to lose attitude and asked an old crush out that I was always too shy to ask out back in the day and we are catching up over drinks this weekend. What do ya know...
Author AlexanderJames Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Here's a little tip: Pick out your kids name after youve been seeing someone for a while first Lol. I didn't pick out my kids names based on being with this woman, that's borderline obsessive. I meant that I plan to have children one day and when I do I already have names that I like haha. All I was doing was putting emphasis on how different we were 1
Diezel Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 You should have kept her as a FWB and you keep seeing other women that fit your range long-term while you visit Cougartown in the short-term. 2
Author AlexanderJames Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 You should have kept her as a FWB and you keep seeing other women that fit your range long-term while you visit Cougartown in the short-term. Yeah.... I'm no good at the whole FWB thing any more. If I am seeing someone who satisfies me emotionally but not sexually or sexually but not emotionally I lose interest very quickly. Even in an FWB setting. It's just bad luck I guess that in 3 years of being single the few women I get involved with that can do both don't reciprocate
Diezel Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Yeah.... I'm no good at the whole FWB thing any more. If I am seeing someone who satisfies me emotionally but not sexually or sexually but not emotionally I lose interest very quickly. Even in an FWB setting. It's just bad luck I guess that in 3 years of being single the few women I get involved with that can do both don't reciprocate When you are 33, you'll be kicking yourself in the ass. Trust me.
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