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I decided to try this online dating thing, and I guess it hasn't worked so well for me since I really need to know someone well before dating them. I decided to go with it anyway.

 

I met two guys on there who seem to like me. I don't have feelings for any one of them now, but I feel like I could start to develop feelings if I got to know them better. I went on three dates with one guy, and I'm still not entirely sure if I want to continue things. I went on one date with the other guy, and I really want to see where things go with him.

 

They both seem like cool guys, but I really need to get to know them better. I don't want to do anything that would be considered cheating. Would it be wrong to hang out with both of them for now to just get to know them better? I'm not exclusive with any of them. In fact, I don't even know if I can call them "dates," since so far we've hung out just like friends do.

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I see nothing wrong with dating them both. It's very casual right now, you haven't made commitments to either of them so it's fine to see other people and to assume that they are as well.

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You should definate go out with both of them.

As long as youre not doing something scandalous, irresponsible and risky like, sleeping with both of them.

 

-But go out and get to know them better

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Nothing wrong at all with dating multiple people at once, so long as they don't believe they are the only one.

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I decided to try this online dating thing, and I guess it hasn't worked so well for me since I really need to know someone well before dating them. I decided to go with it anyway.

 

I met two guys on there who seem to like me. I don't have feelings for any one of them now, but I feel like I could start to develop feelings if I got to know them better. I went on three dates with one guy, and I'm still not entirely sure if I want to continue things. I went on one date with the other guy, and I really want to see where things go with him.

 

They both seem like cool guys, but I really need to get to know them better. I don't want to do anything that would be considered cheating. Would it be wrong to hang out with both of them for now to just get to know them better? I'm not exclusive with any of them. In fact, I don't even know if I can call them "dates," since so far we've hung out just like friends do.

 

 

I think you're going about it in a very mature way. I know how confusing it can be, though. I'm in a similar situation myself at the time.

 

Hopefully you will know after a few more dates if there is long-term potential, since it sounds like that is what you are looking for.

 

Wishing you the best.

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I think you are doing the right thing.

 

Personally I have never been able to do that but I am considering trying OLD later and if your not sure the only way is to get to know them better...

 

Just as long as you don't get physical or emotionally attached to both.

 

Good luck!

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I just wanted to say:

 

HANGING OUT = DATES.

 

People need to stop this nonsense.

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I think it's fine up to 7-8 dates, when you usually have to choose.

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