ThisisIt606 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I've posted before but new question... I've been on 5 dates with this guy who is 10 years older than me (met from paid dating site). He asked me out on each date and paid for each one. The last 2 were movies and dinner at his place. In his profile he said he's looking to settled down but just hasn't met the right person yet and isn't willing to "settle" for just anyone. On the 2nd date he told me he wasn't into hookups (as I was explaining what Tinder was to him) I told him I wasn't either. During out last date, I briefly met some of his family who were visiting and staying at his place, we chatted a bit and they seemed very nice. We did get more physical the last 2 dates at his place (heavy making out, heavy "petting" over clothes, 2nd base) no pants came off though. He put his hand down the back of my pants both times but I removed it and he stopped. I spent the night on date 4 but we just did physically when I described above. He said he really likes making out/cuddling and I would have to tell him if i'm bored with it bc he won't get bored. As date 5 was a weekday, i told him i had to leave bc work was too early. he offered for me to stay and we would leave early at 6 but I declined and said i'd be too anxious about getting to work on time. He understood and offered to drive me home. I felt it was too soon to go further (physically) plus he was leaving soon for 3 weeks on a trip (business then pleasure) so i didn't want to give into any type of sex only to have him leave so soon after and possibly pull a slow fade after sex or any type of below the waist action. We both said "i like you" to each other and are definitely physically attracted. He also mentioned he likes that I'm cultured in the sense we had a similar upbringing (music lessons, etc) and enjoy going to performances. I last saw him in person Wednesday.When he dropped me off he said something like "i won't be able to see you again before I go" and "it's going to be so long until i see you next" I said " i know, but when we well when you get back!" he said "yeah, i know but still.." and said he'd "be in the country until next week so we can still text". He texted me good morning thursday and thanked me for coming over despite my crazy cab ride (driver got very lost). He said he hoped I was having a nice AM and missed my kisses already. I replied saying something along the same lines. He likes "low key" activities and said he's not a big texter, nor is he very into social media (no twitter, instagram, yelp account, etc) just FB and linkedin. In his profile he mentioned he "values his personal space". When he was here he would take anywhere between a few minutes to 8 hours to reply to a text. I sent him a text asking how his trip was so far and hope he's enjoying some quality time with this brother's dog. (we both love dogs and he talks about this dog a lot). Although 5 dates is not a very long time, how long should I wait (considering he is away) for a reply to this text before chalking it up to a fade/no longer interested?
tpham18nm Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He could just be busy. Seems like you guys are getting along. He maybe just read the text, got busy, and didn't reply. He might later, but just not hold your breathe or get clingy. I got this girls member two weeks ago and sent her a text. She replied yesterday. How weird right? By that time everything already faded.
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