NGC1300 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I've been grappling with this issue for some time now. Some say sex, but I can give myself a pretty intense orgasm, have access to porn, etc, so it just seems like there's very little incentive to spend time and money and risk rejection from women just to attain sex. Granted the real thing will always be better, but in terms of resources expended vs. reward, there's no question I'm better off masturbating to porn. Some say affection and companionship, "love" etc, but I can get that from a dog. In fact the dogs affection will be unconditional and the dog will never leave me for a "better" master. The dog will never break my heart. The dog won't complain when I just want to play video games. The dog does not to be wined and dined. The dog will never criticize me. Still others say kids. But I don't want to bring a child into this world. I have enough sympathy to spare the unborn all of the drudgery and dangerous potentialities of this world. The only thing I can think of is using combined income to afford a better place. However, this would be shallow of me. In fact I already support myself 100%, so a woman wouldn't really changed anything other than appearances and cheaper rent and utility bills from the combined income. Is there any reason I should be concerned with getting with a woman?
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Is there any reason I should be concerned with getting with a woman? No. Have you considered getting a guy ? 3
MissBee Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 You absolutely do not need to be concerned with "getting a woman." You've laid out all the reasons why you don't need or want a woman, and if that's how you feel, do you. I don't think about relationships in such utilitarian terms as you do personally, but if you think of it that way, and you have decided you have no use for a relationship, you aren't required by law or anyone else to get into one. 2
sid3 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I've been grappling with this issue for some time now. Some say sex, but I can give myself a pretty intense orgasm, have access to porn, etc, so it just seems like there's very little incentive to spend time and money and risk rejection from women just to attain sex. Granted the real thing will always be better, but in terms of resources expended vs. reward, there's no question I'm better off masturbating to porn. Some say affection and companionship, "love" etc, but I can get that from a dog. In fact the dogs affection will be unconditional and the dog will never leave me for a "better" master. The dog will never break my heart. The dog won't complain when I just want to play video games. The dog does not to be wined and dined. The dog will never criticize me. Still others say kids. But I don't want to bring a child into this world. I have enough sympathy to spare the unborn all of the drudgery and dangerous potentialities of this world. The only thing I can think of is using combined income to afford a better place. However, this would be shallow of me. In fact I already support myself 100%, so a woman wouldn't really changed anything other than appearances and cheaper rent and utility bills from the combined income. Is there any reason I should be concerned with getting with a woman? Some valid points, but to answer your question..... intimacy
ComingInHot Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Okay then. If you are content without having a woman, happy on your own with no innate desire to have a female partner, then DON'T * And that is perfectly fine. Not Every person has to have a partner to complete themselves** Be happy* 3
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Wow...hmmm... To counteract some of your points - 1. Yes, I can pleasure myself quite well, but NEVER like a man can do. Skin on skin is an amazing thing. 2. Am quite the dog lover and I have a couple. Do they love me unconditionally? Yes. Can they comfort me and talk me through a bad situation at work or with friends/family? No. When I'm sick, will they make me some soup and take care of me? Nope. I very much enjoyed the steaming hot cup of coffee waiting for me on the nightstand when I opened my eyes this morning. To me it sounds like you're trying to convince yourself that you're better off. If that's the way you feel, then more power to you. If you can find happiness alone, that's great. But I don't think the benefits of having a "true" significant other can be so easily discounted.
Author NGC1300 Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 No. Have you considered getting a guy ? Never been attracted to men.
carhill Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Is there any reason I should be concerned with getting with a woman? Based on your posting, none that I can think of. IME, about the only thing a woman can offer me that my best friend doesn't offer me is sex, and that's only because I'm heterosexual. What I use for that basis is comparing the ten years I was married against the 20+ years my best friend and I have been in each other's lives. He just celebrated his 30th (marital anniversary) recently and was pondering the same question
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 If porn can replace sex and intimacy..among other things... you get the kind of love, support and affection from your dog that you don't need from a woman or it's cheaper... Kids are your personal choice..they are something you want or you don't, I see a lot of potential joy in raising children, others don't see or feel that way about it. And if you can supplement your needs without the need for a woman, then maybe you don't really need one after all...I wouldn't argue with you about it. I personally get a lot more from a woman than porn could ever give me, and I get personalized attention. The two are not even the same thing to me or on the same level. I also could receive affection from an animal, but for me animals aren't really aware of enough intellectually to have the conversations or humor that I'd like to share..so another no-go for me. Kids...I might cry, pull my hair out and wish some days I never had them when I do...but I still want them, naively or ignorantly so in some ways I'll admit. You don't really share bills with a woman you share a home, at least in a relationship. You buy things together, you invest in it, you decorate it, you make it your own together. However, you definitely don't need to or shouldn't feel pressured to living with one...in fact based on your perspective, I'd highly advise that you do not live with one for some time until you spend a lot of time together as you are likely someone very used to your own personal space and world, and you seem to lack experience. Once you get the experience, then you'll understand.
Frank13 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Some say affection and companionship, "love" etc, but I can get that from a dog. In fact the dogs affection will be unconditional and the dog will never leave me for a "better" master. The dog will never break my heart. The dog won't complain when I just want to play video games. The dog does not to be wined and dined. The dog will never criticize me. Plus the dog already has a fur coat.
LoneIsland Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I would hope at least a bj and a sandwich. So what exactly is a sandwich ?
jay1983 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Nobody needs a woman, but it's cool having one around. Being wanted by someone is a good feeling. You can GYOW, and that's fine, but the lust for sex and compassion never goes away.
still_an_Angel Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 By the same token, what can you offer a woman? If you feel that you don't need a companion in your life, then there's nothing that a woman can offer you. Sorry, but your post comes across like you would only "take or get" a woman because of what you can gain/get out of her. A partnership goes both ways, so you would need to put something in so you can hopefully reap something out. 2
CaliGypsy Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Boobs? They smell nice ? Some of them rub your feet . Man, if you have to ask, I guess you don't need one . 4
Imported Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I would hope at least a bj and a sandwich. He can do it himself! Not too sure about the sandwich, but there's always Subway's.
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I don't buy the dog giving you the same companionship that a opposite sex person can give you. I've always had dogs in my life and women.. if one was able to replace the other it would have. A woman has tons to offer you, you are just not willing to see it. It's up to you to chose your path in life, nobody says that if you chose the path of total solidarity that it was a bad choice.. but it sounds like you still are looking for companionship on a different level than a dog can give you so I would try and be more open to what a relationship has to offer rather than just shooting them down.
Haydn Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 The woman in my life knows where we keep the good china. I`d be lost without her at dinner parties.
Redhead14 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I've been grappling with this issue for some time now. Some say sex, but I can give myself a pretty intense orgasm, have access to porn, etc, so it just seems like there's very little incentive to spend time and money and risk rejection from women just to attain sex. Granted the real thing will always be better, but in terms of resources expended vs. reward, there's no question I'm better off masturbating to porn. Some say affection and companionship, "love" etc, but I can get that from a dog. In fact the dogs affection will be unconditional and the dog will never leave me for a "better" master. The dog will never break my heart. The dog won't complain when I just want to play video games. The dog does not to be wined and dined. The dog will never criticize me. Still others say kids. But I don't want to bring a child into this world. I have enough sympathy to spare the unborn all of the drudgery and dangerous potentialities of this world. The only thing I can think of is using combined income to afford a better place. However, this would be shallow of me. In fact I already support myself 100%, so a woman wouldn't really changed anything other than appearances and cheaper rent and utility bills from the combined income. Is there any reason I should be concerned with getting with a woman? Some say affection and companionship, "love" etc, but I can get that from a dog. In fact the dogs affection will be unconditional and the dog will never leave me for a "better" master. The dog will never break my heart. The dog won't complain when I just want to play video games. The dog does not to be wined and dined. The dog will never criticize me. It appears that you've been with women who have broken your heart, complained and criticized you maybe a few. It sounds like you are at a place at the moment which makes you not want a woman. This too shall pass, especially if you find one who treats you well. Take some time to reflect on all you've said above. This is almost like a grieving process. You maybe at point where you want to decide to be single but you will have to accept that you don't want a woman in your life and give up that part of your life that did include dating and looking for the one. It's a crossroads. Everyone here has maybe thought like this at certain times. I know that sometimes when some time has passed and I haven't dated in a while or was recently dumped or a dating prospect hasn't work out, I'll go through a period of not wanting anyone. I'm fine by myself. But usually, someone else comes along when I least expect it and I give it a try. The truth is that usually you don't find the one until you are happy being single, accept yourself for who you are, etc. Then someone else will too. Enjoy your own life for a while and see "where" you are in a few months. Don't even think about dating for a while.
No Limit Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Since I can't cook and my mother won't let me near the kitchen, I'm afraid all I could do is bring you your favourite sandwich from your favourite sandwich store. You'd probably have to endure some epic instrumental music too every now and then, and forget about watching TV whenever a new console game I'm interested in comes out. And I'd probably pull you along to do random stuff or go to random places every once in a while - so far those "mini adventures" were liked very much (in the aftermath; at first they've all been like "Meh, nah, let's just go" etc and be annoyed when I remained stubborn), but not everyone is up for that kind of stuff. Oh, and I can give birth to your baby (although still mixing 50% of myself into it). Should we click, I won't leave you either, and am willing to work through hard times with you. Now, what are you offering? If it's not a palace, at least one yacht and 50.000€ alimony per month, don't waste my time.
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