Stuff that p*ssed you off about your ex

[CT98]

They say an integral part of moving on is remembering the bad times. I for one want to move on so here are some things that used to annoy me about my ex.

 

Any hotel we ever stayed in there was always something wrong with it. Too dirty, too noisy, used to annoy me because I would always be the one paying and it seemed like she was never happy.

 

She would never come for a drink with me, my friend and his girlfriend. 'She didn't like them' which would leave me going on my own and having to make up an excuse as to why she couldn't make it. I always thought it would be great for your girlfriend to get along with your mates and their other halves.

 

'Are you going to stay at yours tonight', used to hate hearing that phrase. I would always choose to share my bed with my other half over sleeping alone, maybe I'm too clingy or maybe I'm normal, I don't know, but it used to bother me either way.

 

On the tele, the Kardashians, Real Housewives of Atlanta, Real Housewives of New York, always watching some bloody programme about nobodies doing nothing, used to get on my wick.

 

I could write a million things I love but that wouldn't be helpful to my healing, I may be back to add more.

 

C'mon people, spill the stuff that used to drive you crazy.

[Haerts]

- He doesn't make me feel well;

- Would create situations/be mysterious to make me jealous;

- Everytime we went out, he would point out a girl and say how hot/pretty they are;

- Once he said that I'm not his type and pointed out a girl that's exactly his type. (the best one)

- Use to mention some women and then say "too bad they're in a relationship", right in front of me, like if they weren't, he would hit on them;

- He'd flirt with other girls right in front of me and coldly deny it;

- He's way too insecure (about himself, sex, relationships, etc)

- He didn't trust me and use to repeat quite often that he was ready for me to cheat on him, find someone else and replace him, treat him bad, and stuff like that;

- He was jealous of really silly things, like once when I sent a snapchat of mine laying down about to go to sleep and he said I sent it to all my "male friends" and he doesn't want to know that. Thing is I didn't, there's only one male friend in my snapchat and he's gay. lol

- We would set an encounter and he would get over an hour late. Never apologized or texted/called to say he would be late;

- Sometimes when we agreed to meet at a party we wanted to go, he would get there, walk around, get drinks, talk to some people and then finally come after me. He did that a few times, even though he had said that once he was there, he'd text/call and/or find me.

- He's not very emotional, while I'm too much. I did lots of cute things for him and sometimes I'd get a creepy reply back, it felt like he didn't care.

- He's manipulative, he thinks he's in a game, that he can't lose. Love is not a game.

- Would never open up about things that made he sad, even though I always showed I was there for him and talked about everything, including what didn't make me feel well;

 

Overall, he's just an immature guy who still have lots of insecurities that makes him think he should be winning all the time. It was very clear on friday, after I break up. All he said was "okay then", and one hour after he texted me saying how much he loves me, that he wants me back and doesn't understand what happened. I told him we could talk, he said he wanted time to think about what happened. Once again, manipulating everything so it can be his decision. Too bad he doesn't know I'm already done with this game, regardless of his decision. lol

[Justm3x]

Blimey.... here goes

 

He used to work away during the week sometimes so he would walk in on Friday night and put his dirty washing in the utility room... I found it strange that he had been away for 5 days and he only had 2 pair of dirty boxers and 2 dirty shirts that included the shirt he was wearing..... He had put on so much weight that he couldn't be bothered to wash or take any pride in himself anymore.....

 

He would at times not shower the whole weekend he was home... then he wondered why i wouldn't let him come near me.

 

Dirty finger nails and im talking long dirty finger nails... black dirt, he was a civil engineer so he was out on site most of the day.

 

He would come into the lounge and take his phone out and play games, but now i also know he was talking to another woman. He would then say he was going up stairs to the toilet and he wouldn't come down for ages, i would go upstairs and there he was laying on the bed playing with his phone!!

 

My brothers would ask us out for a drink or dinner and he didn't want to go, that used to really annoy me... and when we did go out to a bar he would get drunk and start an argument with someone, happened everytime.

 

There would be weekends where he would say im going to see my friend for a weekend of drinking and watching the football, so ill be away this weekend so im staying there because i wont be able to drive home..... I knew he was there most of the time because he would call .. drunk.

 

He would constantly lie about anything and everything, he would make up stories about his time in Afghanistan... he went out there as a civilian to work but he would tell everyone he was a royal marine and he did infact tell my neighbour he was in the SAS, he even went as far as to order army gear from ebay to make it look authentic, it was so embarrassing when i was confronted by my neighbour.

 

He would tell me he was going to the recycling centre and i would follow him and he would be in the bookies, gambling, he blew £23,000 (which he got from the sale of our house) in a matter of months

 

He would use the toilet and leave it in a bloody mess, the toilet brush is right there, why wouldn't he use it?........... im being very picky now lol

 

 

Untidy, unhygienic, unsociable, Liar, fantasist, Sociapath

[Arieswoman]

Oh boy, where do I start?

 

1.Sulking

2.Moody

3.Refusing to have sex because "he had to get up for work in the morning" (so did I !)

4. Not picking up after himself, coffee cups, shirts, socks etc etc

5. Not listening to me

6. Going to the workshop to do something if any friends came to visit.

7. Forgetting anything and everything when it suited.

8. Going deaf when it suited.

9. And f@rting. Anytime, anyplace, anywhere. I swear I have never met a man before or since that could f@rt to order. Thank goodness I don't have to put up with that anymore.

[Raena]

- lied about so many things, so many times that I can't believe a word that comes out of his mouth, ever.

- used to tap his razor out into the sink and leave all of his dirty hairs behind for me to clean up, this clogged up my sink and I still haven't been able to figure out how to fix it. (OK, I know how, but I'm not strong enough to fix it)

- left his dirty smelly socks on the living room floor, never put them in the laundry

- slept on the couch so many times without showering that the couch still stinks a year after he's been gone and I can't get the smell out nor do I have the money to replace it.

- always had his face in his phone. When we got them, he said he wasn't going to be one of those people who did that, but then did exactly that. When I look back on our pictures from the last year or so of our relationship, his face was always in the phone in every pic. Every dinner we went to, every time, everywhere. Now I know it was because he was chatting with the OW all the time.

- racist, homophobe, arrogant holier than thou type. Uses the "N" word a lot, made fun of gay people all the time and always makes himself out to be this really cool person that is better than everyone else. Total opposite of me. I was raised to accept differences in others... we are, after all, humans with a very diverse background.

- has absolutely no respect for women.. including his own mother and every one he's ever dated (HUGE red flag)

- has so much drama in his life that also became a part of my life that I began to think I was doomed to live like that forever. Thank goodness I'm out of it because now I realize "Not my circus, not my monkey's". The fact that he has 3 kids by 3 different mothers says it all.

- in the past.... drug addict, alcoholic, lying cheat. No need to explain any of that.

- never took responsibility for his own actions, it was always someone else's fault.

- took a job working nights on purpose, even though they offered him the day shift... which left me to take care of everything at home alone all the time because he was never here to help me with anything (including raising our son).

 

I could go on and on and on...

 

Ultimately... what I hate most about him is that I got sucked into his world. He dragged me down to his level and I didn't see it happening and didn't know how to stop it when I did. I spent 11 years sucked into this vortex he lives in. It wasn't until I got out and can now look back a year later and realize that my life is SO much better without him. It makes me sick to realize that I was with someone who was so bad for me for so many years and didn't see that I had an out. All I had to do was walk away and cut him off. It sounds so simple but it wasn't when I was in it. He always managed to suck me back in every time I was almost free of him. It's never going to happen again, I know that for sure. I've come too far to ever let his drama and his boo hooing about how much he loves me to drag me down again.

[JDPT]

-The fact that I supported her in every possible way through some of the most difficult moment in her life, however, when I needed just a little bit of emotional support she had absolutely nothing constructive to contribute leaving me all alone.

 

 

-We had a part-time relationship and were never able to live a normal life together.

 

 

-She always used to make half ass attempts at making me happy.

 

 

-In retrospect, she was always very selfish and strategically kept me around to comfort her and fulfill her needs only.

 

 

**in conclusion, and although I understand I allow this to happen, but from this point forward I will not allow anyone to use me the way she did.

[Stsm5934]

Oh yay, this is fun

 

-Pothead

-Unambitious little boy suffering from Peter Pan syndrome even though he is quickly approaching 30

-Currently homeless (lives out of car and thinks this is cool)

-Narcissist who thought the world revolved around him, took what he wanted and gave nothing

-Lazy in bed

-Made me feel bad about some of the sports I engaged in (knocking me down to build himself up)

-Emotional vampire/cripple

[singsparkles]

CT, I am in love with this thread!! <3

 

 

There are so many things I dislike about my ex, I could go on and on...

 

 

1) not attentive enough - would go days without answering my phone calls and disappearing

 

2) excuses... would always have an idiotic excuse for disappearing for days such as being sick and being 'at his grandmothers house'

 

3) made me feel guilty for everything, and accused me of cheating

 

4) called me names, such as wh*re, h*e and b*tch, every name under the sun.

 

5) his friends were completely immature and thought of women as pieces of meat, and his friends reflected on him and made me question who he was behind closed doors or when I wasn't around

 

6) smoked way too much weed and would forget things and would forget to call me, etc

 

7) blamed me for things that went wrong in life, like blaming me for his DUI and telling me I ruined his life

 

8) ignoring me constantly and ignoring my feelings

 

9) never cared to know how I felt about any situation and never let me talk, would always talk over me

 

10) only called me when it was right for him

 

11) led me on after the break up and would call every 2-3 weeks saying he wanted to work things out, then would disappear

 

12) INCONSISTENCY

 

13) INSECURITY

 

14) JEALOUSY ISSUES

 

15) never believing or realizing how much I loved and cared about him

 

16) being happy to see me in pain when he emotionally hurt me

 

17) tweeting rap quotes on Twitter that were demeaning to women such as "women are hoes, I just smash them" etc

 

18) Acted like someone completely different when we were alone than how he acted on Twitter and when he was alone with his friends

 

19) partied way too much

 

20) IRRESPONSIBILITY (would lose his phone at every party he went to and I wouldn't hear from him for days until he got a new phone)

 

21) would insult me yet I had a car and he didn't and I drove him around everywhere, and he also didn't have a secure house or even have his own bed. He basically slept at a different person's house every night, which in turn, made me trust him less because I never knew where he was or who he was with

 

22) lives a state away and would say to drive to come see him , I'd drive 2 1.2 hours and he wouldn't even answer his phones

 

23) basically PLAYING GAMES in general

 

24) not having enough respect for me to break it off in the right way. Instead, he ignored me, told me he wanted to work things out, and left me in the dust waiting... almost like he loved the power he had over me, because he knew I was waiting for him and he was ignoring me

 

25) gave just enough attention to keep me there, but never enough

 

26) emotionally immature

 

27) relationship wise immature (3 yrs younger than me)

 

28) when we weren't together, he would not call and text me consistently so I would never know where he was, what he was doing and who he was with...ever...

 

29) absolutely NO trust

 

30) cared more about hanging out with his friends than spending alone time with me

 

31) every time we hung out, his friends had to be involved

 

32) his friends would flirt with me and he would blame me for it

 

 

 

 

...there's also a lot of good memories we had, too , unfortunately, and I could make a list of those, too. :-( it's a shame.

[writergal]

The list for my last ex is short:

 

-cheated on me with the same woman he cheated on his first wife with.

[avocado1]

I like this thread! Since I never got to bitch about my ex to anyone for extended periods of time (they got annoyed with me), here goes:

 

- ALWAYS wanted sex

- would get mad at me when i did not want to fck constantly and ignored me (when I was with him and when I was not) until i gave in

- always fought with me on important dates (eg. my exam days, anniversaries, etc.)

- would never want to take me out places, or really go out in general with me. he was a major homebody (I am also, but I do like to go out sometimes of course)

- would manipulate me into doing things i did not want to

- made me give up my friends, orientation week at university, and much more because he didn't like it and trust me

- would freak out on me if i had friends stay over too late ;

- always thought i was cheating on him (due to his liar sister)

- would always go through my facebook and get mad at old messages (like, years ago) from guys who i liked/liked me

- got mad when guys messaged me on facebook in general

- i always did things to show i loved him, like cook for him or bring him thoughtful gifts, and he never really did the same

- he wouldn't walk me home when he was mad at me

- when he did walk me home and was mad at me, he would either walk way ahead of me or way behind me and be silent the entire time. (took a shortcut home a few times and left him, he accused me of going to a guys house to cheat)

- would look at other girls online (like, half-naked girls from our school on FB). He had a porn problem also.. made me feel inadequate and insecure)

 

 

That's what I can think of now. Things of course were great in the beginning but then all this **** began to be more and more common. Aren't exes just the best?!

Edited October 6, 2014 by avocado1

[AaronSG]

My ex-fiance had her issues, some really bothered me, and some where....

 

1) Uneducated, 2nd grade drop out, couldn't have ultra adult styled talks.

2) To emotionally super charged, making emotional mountains out of mole hills.

3) Very controlling, budget, shopping lists, etc. All had to go through her.

4) Her and her family brought way to much drama to the table.

5) Always wanting to watch cartoons, pokemon stuff, I wanted documentaries!

6) Always sending money that we really didn't have to her parents.

7) Always demanding and begging for sex, I'm 44, I can only go so long!

8) Alienating my friends, basically drove most away.

9) Never being satisfied with what she gets, always wanting more!

10) Most things were a conspiracy.

11) Always complaining about "Big Brother"!

12) Loved to tell sad victim story's, how everyone did this and that to her.

13) Her constant need to over shop, dooms day prepping styled shopping.

14) Never would apologize for anything, everything was always other's faults.

15) Her need to apply writer's embellishments to some of her story's.

16) Her need to alienate my family, driving some away.

17) Dominating control over no alcohol in the home, due to her father's issues.

18) Her need to judge people.

19) Her need to "love bomb" me to death, either by voice or notes.

20) Her thinking that her ways were right and everyone else's were wrong.

21) Her back woodsy way of thinking.

22) Her redneck attitude.

23) Her hatred for the city, would boast about how good country living was.

 

That's just some!

[Not2FatNow]

- said I was too fat but is dating a big girl now

- said I needed a boob job

- complained that I don't dress up enough, even though I always do

- blames me for EVERYTHING

- expects me to clean the house when he doesn't work

- expected me to rub his arms and sides for HOURS so he could sleep, when he knew I needed to sleep for work

- called me DUMB BITCH

- yelled at me constantly, mostly because he was just angry and not because I did anything wrong

- if I brought him the wrong snack, he'd throw it across the room, wasting my money

- punching holes in walls and doors all the time

- hiding all his sex toys, but turning his porn up way loud when I was trying to sleep

- texting and messaging other girls to complain about me being horrible in bed but never having an adult discussion about whatever problems he felt we had

- he has a sore on his back that he picks constantly and never heals. He eats the scabs.

- he has crazy eyes that many people comment on, many people get an angry or hostile vibe from him right off the bat. Most of my friends consider him to be very weird

- he tells chicks online all the time how much money he makes but borrowed some from me to pay his phone bill and then bitched when I asked for it back (it was from rent money)

- he loses **** ALL THE TIME and it's my responsibility to find it or get yelled at

- he never kisses me passionately or touches me to get me turned on. He says I'm the most selfish person when it comes to sex but he just wants to lay there and have me touch him and get him aroused.

[Dontfindme]

His BS promises

[MrWorkinProgress]

Oh this is a good one.

 

 

1) Everywhere we went she expected to be treated like a queen. Every time we stayed in a hotel we had to change rooms because the first one wasn't to her liking.

 

2) Expected me to pay for everything. Now, I made more money, but in three years you could at least offer to pick something up somewhere along the way.

 

3)I was simply expected to do everything, pay for everything, take care of everything in the house, cook most of the meals, all without thanks.

 

4) Everything was one-sided. When we broke up and moved, I gave up my half of a *very* expensive persian rug because I knew how much she liked it. Just the same, she insisted on nickling and diming me on where my cat had scratched the sofa (that she was getting rid of). No recognition of the thousands of dollars of equity I was giving her in the rug (even after I pointed it out) when demanding $200 for a sofa she was getting rid of.

 

5) Anytime I talked about my feelings with regard to something she had said or done, she became angry and yelled at me. Then she either denied yelling at me, told me I was blowing it out of proportion, or that I was just being a victim. If all else failed, she'd accuse *me* of hurting *her* when I said I felt sad/abused/hurt by something she'd said or done.

 

6) She was married to her family. They always came first, so much so that if they called she had to answer the phone, no matter what. One time she was about to go to the bathroom and ran back out to answer the phone. I told her that she could probably pee and call her mother back if she wanted.

 

7) Everything had to be a major production. If we were packing a picnic, we couldn't simply throw together some sandwiches. We had to cook up a bunch of food and silverware and awkwardly balance all this stuff on our laps at concerts.

 

This thread is too good. I reserve the right to post an additional thread later

[CaliGypsy]

Oh boy, where do I start?

 

 

 

9. And f@rting. Anytime, anyplace, anywhere. I swear I have never met a man before or since that could f@rt to order. Thank goodness I don't have to put up with that anymore.

 

 

I know one! My (very!) stbxh. Holy crap, even now when we meet to discuss the divorce it's non stop the whole time I'm over and I think " I do not miss that at all" I think he must be lactose intolerant or something. I sincerely hope if/when he starts seeing someone he doesn't do it in front of her. Or, maybe he'll find a woman that's totally cool with it?

[somedude81]

She didn't enjoy giving me oral.

 

She never initiated sex.

 

And that's about it.

[MrWorkinProgress]

I just had to make some additions here.

 

8) Every year, her birthday was a major production. One year, her birthday was on a weeknight so I cooked her a nice dinner with plans for a romantic night out that weekend, followed by a trip with her friends the next weekend. As I was finishing dinner, she says "Did you get me a cake?", so I run to the store and buy her a cake. In contrast, I never even saw her on my birthday, as she was always traveling for work. On the last bday of our relationship, she couldn't even be bothered to send me a text that she landed safely, even though she told me she would. Late that night, she texted that she was going to bed, and I texted that it upset me that she couldn't find 5 min to call me on my birthday, at which point she proceeded to call me and yell "Why are you being like this?!"

 

9) She hardly ever wanted to kiss me on the lips. I suspect it was because she didn't want to mess up her lipstick but I really have no idea.

 

10) She keeps framed pictures of herself.

 

11) I brought her her coffee every morning when she was getting ready. I ironed her dresses when we were getting ready to go out. I bought her countless gifts. When she was injured and could no longer run marathons I bought her a gym membership and started training her. She ruined her favorite pair of slippers and without a word I located and bought a replacement for her. And she accused me of taking her for granted.

 

12) I was never, ever her priority. Her family, friends and job always came before me.

[leavesonautumn]

I hate that I had to accept his addictions and lies but he could not accept my downfalls and would run at the first sign of problems. After he told me about his one particular addiction, I told him to come to me and lay on my chest while I ran my fingers through his hair to tell him how much I cared and loved him.

 

After I told him something about me, he proceeded to do google searches on it and tell me how I felt/should feel. While making me feel like a monster and someone who is not worthy or capable of love.

 

^^That was the major issue during the entire relationship.

 

The other things that pissed me off:

 

- smoking in the car (which he finally stopped after a few years)

- felt like I always had to have sex even when I wasn't in the mood. we had sex probably 5 to 6 times a week and would sometimes have sex multiple times a day. so it's not like he was hurting for sexy times.

- he left me after a month and a half in an expensive condo to pay rent alone. he then proceeded to come back to me after 5 months (pissed at myself for this too since I took him back).

- the fact that he sent me an email detailing his messed up childhood and all of the issues stemming from that a week after our first date and basically set the tone for the rest of the relationship.

[ComingInHot]

The 'full court press' too little too late,

 

 

 

......... I think.

[Swimmer916]

She never initiated sex, sometimes when I tried she would get mad at me

 

We would go 2 weeks sometimes without anything

 

She got into these mood spells sometimes. Would just mope and nothing brought her up

 

Wouldn't show affection in public. In college she would push away when I tried to kiss her or touch her. But had no problem letting strangers flirt with her

 

Relied on parents way too much. She lived 20 min away from home in college. Would go there every other weekend. Would call her parents for everything...her parents now pay her rent and utilities...

 

In college was hesitant to kiss me on New Year's...three years in a row. Didn't even come back with me at the end of the night

 

Could't take a joke...very little sense of humor

 

 

 

However, her family was ****ing awesome. So kind and caring and her brothers were the ****

[Mandy26]

1. Always someone else's fault

2. Flirting with other women - then his simple response- why dudnt you just come over? Wtf? Without missing a heartbeat- smooth

3. Go to the movies with the kids- 10 year old dots the whole time on his lap

4.never held hands walking- that was for jus daughter

5. Hid our relationship from his female friend & ex / fiancé - telling me I'm his pit aye life-

6. Drank a lot- and I mean a lot

7. Never really talked with me when with z group of people

8. Others hang out with spouses or SO- I was there for bedtime

9. Take me on a trip- but make sarcastic remarks when I'm making plans- saying look at you already using my money- so I shut up- week later I'm told off for not being excited - wtf?

10. Drunk with the boys

11. Lied about being a min smoker

 

12.lied about being undecided about children especially since you had a vasectomy

13. Belittling remarks constantly to put me down

14 bring on match.com a year into it

15- dear john text- coward - u already knew I was pulling away

16. Hates his mother

17.always wanted a hsnd massage but never wiling to return a massage

18. flowers one valentine day- and then made it was clear here get are don't ever say I don't buy u flowers

19. Two years never came to watch any of my sons practice or game but I went to his daughters and his sons

He us a baiter!!! What a dick!