Axel01 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Let me start with a little background story, I was in a relationship for 2 years, GF broke up with me and I was shattered.. that was about 6 months ago. I recently started talking to this girl that used to be in my class and she has been giving me crossed signals I think. She is somewhat of a party girl and has never had a relationship with anyone before. When we talk we can discuss literally everything and I feel like I've become connected with her in a very short time, there is literally not a day when we are not talking. However she can be very off sometimes, giving me one word answers and the other time she is the most fun to talk with. I don't know wether she is scared to let me know she is interested or she just isn't interested. I want to ask her out on date but I don't want to do it right now because I don't know how she is feeling.. You guys have to understand I haven't spoken to her in a really long time and when we were in school we never talked to eachother (boys hung out with boys and girls with girls). I noticed that when I'm not talking to her she starts talking to me eventually, and I know she is not talking with other guys because I noticed she is offline for hours when I'm not talking with her. She has asked me to go out to the same place as her multiple times, to bad I wasn't able to because else I might have found out if she likes me or not.. Any tips or advise for me?
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Talking to you means she's your friend. Your being a friend doesn't mean she's into you.
Author Axel01 Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 Talking to you means she's your friend. Your being a friend doesn't mean she's into you. I understand what you are saying and I know that a girl talking to a boy doesn't have to mean anything. Although we never really were friends, she was in my class sure but we never really spoke, untill now. She tells me how things I do are cute but I don't know if that means anything..
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Girls will say anything to rope you in for their purpose. What that purpose is, is for you to find out. It would be erroneous of you to make assumptions.
Darkray117 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I'm guilty of this, I misinterpreted many things about girls, especially if you talk a lot to them and are getting closer. Usually you are just getting closer as friends. Honestly the only way to get out of the friendzone is to ask her out on a date. Or at least be more flirty with her. Even if she says no at first, she may start thinking about you in a romantic way. Also don't worry about becoming awkward and losing her as a friend. If you deflect rejection by saying "Oh thats a shame, it would have been fun" then change the subject and act like it never happened, you'll be fine.
Author Axel01 Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 I'm guilty of this, I misinterpreted many things about girls, especially if you talk a lot to them and are getting closer. Usually you are just getting closer as friends. Honestly the only way to get out of the friendzone is to ask her out on a date. Or at least be more flirty with her. Even if she says no at first, she may start thinking about you in a romantic way. Also don't worry about becoming awkward and losing her as a friend. If you deflect rejection by saying "Oh thats a shame, it would have been fun" then change the subject and act like it never happened, you'll be fine. I guess you are right and I'm thinking waaaay ahead here. I have spoken to her in person once in like 3 years.. and to be honest, the conversations are good sometimes but also bad sometimes.. and I can't stand the one way traffic I sometimes have to put up with, like at this moment I stopped talking just because I've had it with the one way traffic, maybe it'll be different tomorrow, i don't know..
Assasda Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 It can take a long time when you Litterally talk about everything. I think she likes you. Just dont rush anything or pressure her. Just have fun
d0nnivain Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Ask her on a low key date like to a movie (since you already know her & don't need to talk to get to know each other) or to play mini golf. See how that goes before you pullout the romance.
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