Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Ok for the most part everyone here knows I'm fairly new...so let me tell you peeps a little bit about my relationship... I'm 23 years old and my boyfriend is 19...I've never met someone like him...he makes me feel good inside, gives chills up and down my spine and I never made the age difference an issue... My family at first was a little drown back by our relationship but now they love him and my grandma even tells me that he's the one I'm going to marry... Everything is fine in our relationship and by no means at all do I want to end it but will the age difference catch up with me?? I know age is nothing but a # but how and when do you really know if it matters...When I decided to get with him and make things official I made it a point not to make it an issue, but is it?? He jsut started University and I'm almost done and I feel as if maybe my life is a little more ahead then his...He even tells me when he graduates that we are going to get married...Graduates??? Great, but when he graduates I'll be 27!!! Oh well thought I give you guys a little peak into my only situations in my relationship that would be an issue...
blind_otter Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Yeah well it's not about the #, it's about your lifestyle, needs, goals, etc. THe problem is that a 19 year old guy can sometimse have different things on his agenda. I am kinda seeing a guy who is 3 years my junior, and I know it ain't going nowhere 'cause he has different things on his plate, so just be realistic. Just because you really like someone doesn't mean you are going to/have to marry them!!!!
Author Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 I know but I forgot to mention he doesn't act his age...and lets face it we all have an inner child in us so it's not even the maturity level either...I'm just wondering if it would catch up with me...but I guess your right
alicia24 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 I'm 24 and my BF is 30. The other day we were at IKEA and he was riding the cart round the store like he was on a skateboard or something. Then the other day we were out to dinner having this crazy intellectually stimulating conversation. Age is just a number. I dont think it matters. As long as the person you are with is the type of person you want to BE with.
Author Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 How funny is that we both replied to each others forum!! I love the fact that sometimes he makes me feel like a little kid again...it's one of the qualities I love about him...usually I've very aggressive and have my panties all in a bunch and he straightens them out for me...if you know what I mean!!
Podna Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 it won't catch up with you... It will become less and less of an issue the older you both get.
Author Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Podna...I never thought about it that way...you're right...we both grow together that's the whole point of being with someone... Thanx that put a smile on my face!!
Mary3 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Its only going to be an issue if you make it one. If you both are very happy then relax and let it happen. You realize there are couples with far greater age differences ( 10 years or more ) who have remained very happy
WalkingTall Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 There are only 2 people that matter when it comes to age, you and your significant other. I know a couple with over 10 years difference in age (she is late 20's and he is in his 40's). To others on the outside of your relationship, it matters more for some odd reason. But you are not in the relationship for them, you are in it for yourselves. Unless it's illegal, just go with it and do what feels right to you!
The_Fool Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 I'm 27 and last fall I dated a 21 year old. I admit it was probably more personality than age, but I just couldn't take the late-night, three-hour-long calls where all she'd do is cry and complain about the latest college drama: who was in which clique, why everyone was upset at someone, who said what to whom, etc. It drove me nuts! On the other hand, when my parents met each other my Mom was 22 and my Dad was 40. They've been together for 27 years now. Looking at their relationship (past and present), they're my model of what a perfect marriage should be. They truly love each other and they're both truly happy with each other. I don't think age matters. It depends entirely on the people.
Scarlett_girl Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 I have a thing for younger guys and i have to say..age does play into things..my ex was 16 when we began dating (i was turning 19) and at first I did not notice anything..but as the years went by his emotional immaturity came out..even though he was mature for his age, you can't expect the maturity of a 20 year from an 18 year old..especially a guy! of course, this knowldge has not stopped me from still liking younger guys..
TylerC Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 I went out with a girl last year who was also a freshman. However, I'm old for my grade (July 1988) and she is young for our grade (June 1989). Maybe it was just our young age, but the difference in maturity was huge in the relationship, she wasn't really ready for a serious relationship and she flirted a lot. Now, you guys are older, so I don't think that will impact your relationship as much, but this is from my experience.
Pendawn Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 My dad is 10 years older than my mum. They met when she was 21 and he 31, which IMO is a BIG difference in life experience etc. They married 2 years later and are still married 40 years on. My Ex's mother, aged 45, married a man aged 27 - younger than her son! They are very happy and well suited in terms of interests nad outlook. I have a cousin who when she was 15 started dating a 30 year old. Sounds scandelous but when you saw them together interacting etc it didn't seem odd at all, in fact she was the more mature of the 2. They eventually split up because he wasn't emotionally mature or ready for commitment and she was. Age is far less important than personality.
blind_otter Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 My parents are 22 years apart, dad is now 75 mum is 53. There are always exceptions to the rule. I was kind of seeing a 22 year old guy (I'm 25, will be 26) - and we are simply at different points in our life. I am looking for a long term thing, eventually I would like to have kids - he is totally not into that right now and I wouldn't ask him to be, because God knows when you are 22 you need to go out and have fun or else you'll get the urge when you are middle aged and gross. So whatever, there are exceptions to the rule. Just go by however you feel.
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