How do you deal with a compulsive liar and a drinker?

[adrian77]

My husband is such a liar I never believe anything he says anymore. There are occasional times he is telling the truth but most times things are made up or exaggerated. And I can always tell because when he is lying, his stories go on and on. I know him SO well that I know exactly when he is lying and what he will say to cover it up. For example he tells me the owner of his sister company told him he loves his ideas for change in his company and wants him to write up a plan over the weekend and give it to him Monday. I knew that the weekend would go by and it wouldn't be worked on. So Sunday night I asked him about it and I knew his answer would be that he decided not to do it. Which it was. Obviously he was never asked. He like to make himself more important than he actually is. When are out with friends and he drinks he just keeps talking and gets louder and never let's me talk. Doesn't listen and interrupts people. A lot of people laugh at him but I'm sure they are annoyed. Whenever we are out in public like at a grocery store he has to talk about how he was assertive at work or that he might be traveling etc....like he wants others to hear him. He isn't assertive at all. And doesn't have the authority that he wants people to believe. Always telling me how he is going to fire someone which he never does and doesn't have the authority to.

I have never once seen him cry in 7 years but anything even the littlest bit sad or touching in a movie he, is wiping his eyes and sniffing. Isn't that interesting? Is that the only way he gets his emotions out?

[No Limit]

That guy has a lot of baggage. Attempts to fool himself into believing he's more than he is. Instead of wondering how he became who he is, you should think about what's making you stay with him.

[kjohn]

Sounds like he needs some therapy. The thing is, that has to come from him. You can't make him get the help he obviously needs.

 

When you are in a relationship with a difficult person, you can only decide what you are willing to accept and where you draw the line. You can't make them change their behavior, but you can change your behavior and your reactions to their behavior.

 

It's time for you to be a little selfish, if you want to put it that way.

 

Stop thinking about him and how you wish he would change. Start thinking about yourself and what's good for you. Consider why you are staying in this marriage. Would you be happier in the long run if you left?

 

It's time to ask yourself some tough questions.

[LoneIsland]

If it makes him happy, let him be.

 

Would you prefer a liar who you can't actually tell is lying ? Such a liar is far more dangerous.