normabates Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I was inlove with this guy and well long story short...he never loved me...and even after the years have passed....when i hear about him and his wife....i get a heart pang...i have done this with others i have dated...really anyone i have fallen for....is this normal????
Arieswoman Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 normabates, I can't speak for everyone but in my case, yes. I don't think you can really love someone and then go to total indifference, no matter how you broke up. If it isn't impacting on your life then don't worry about it. x 1
Reels Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 It is about attitude, position, environment, region. If you can change each of them, yes you will be get over just anything.
Kid_Charlemange Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 I was inlove with this guy and well long story short...he never loved me...and even after the years have passed....when i hear about him and his wife....i get a heart pang...i have done this with others i have dated...really anyone i have fallen for....is this normal???? My first wife and I were together for 20 years. We met in college. We were married for 11 of those. She left me for another man. Had a child with him, after telling me for 20 years that she never wanted kids. Turns out... she just didn't want mine. Ouch. She left me 13 years ago. Now we are very close friends. We first got back into contact with each other almost 10 years ago, and it was very awkward at first. Now we rely on each other quite a bit -- she's in the process of divorcing that second husband, and she has been very supportive after my ex cheated on me about a year ago. So, it's possible. Every once in a while, I think of my first wife in a "what could have been" way. For instance, our 25th anniversary would have been a couple weeks ago. That made me nostalgic. But I can honestly say all that pain is gone. My most recent ex? It's been almost a year and I think about her 20 times a day. I guess it just take me a while to get over them.
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 He's the One Who Got Away. That's all As long as it's only a temporary pang when you hear about him & mourning him isn't a daily part of your life, I think you will be OK
nostaljathing000 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 Try not to think dwell on the thought for long and CONTINUE to move forward with positive things in your life. I am sure you are a wonderful person! 1
strong-hearted Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 as someone said earlier I can't speak for everyone, but in my situation I don't think you can fully get over someone, I was with my bf (now ex) for two years and it's not only about how long you have been with someone, its about those wonderful memories you two shared together, me and him went through A LOT! we had our ups and down, did a lot of things together and learned a lot together, unfortunately he broke up with me because he wasn't happy with me any more, it's been two months since the breakup and each day that goes by I feel the pain like the 1st day of the breakup, if someone made a big impact in your life I think with time yeah you'll remember them but it will be only a sweet memory and you probably won't even have those feelings any more
singsparkles Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 I think that if it's true love, you will never get over someone. Even after being apart for years, if you see that person, old feelings will resurface. But I think infatuation/lust/obsession that is sometimes mistaken as love can be gotten over with time, and eventually you can see that person and feel nothing. It really depends on the situation. True love... I don't think you can ever get over. Even if you get married and you fall in love with someone else, you will still have a special place in your heart for that other person even though you won't act on it. Love is very powerful and I don't think true love ever dies. 1
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