MrBossMan Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Separated with 3-year gf for over 3 months due to major fighting and not seeing eye to eye. Basically, she wants me to acknowledge how bad I am without admitting to her own problems. You know the drill. I initially broke up, but she called me the next day saying she was sorry and will change, etc. So I said ok, but I need some time. I took time to consider whether I wanted to leave So I went almost no contact from June until now (early October). During that time, she would text me from time to time and I'd just make a pretty minimal reply. So now, I came back saying that I know it doesn't look good, but I want to try to talk to her and try to work it out. I told her that while I was doing my own thing (graduating college), I have had another woman try to get close to me, but I would rather see if there's any way I can work out this mess. So I don't get enthusiasm and happiness that I'm back still wanting to try, but I get her demands and saying that I "owe" her and I have to make it up to her because I hurt her. She says I should be like a lamb and give into a lot of ridiculous demands including repeating that I'm sorry or that I am willing to work things out (because she keeps asking me to), but I reply that I told her already. So her phone dies while I'm talking to her, and she calls me back from an unknown number maybe an hour later apologizing for her foolishness or something. I hear her friend's voice in the background talking about me being gone for so long, and I hear her sister asking where did she find the phone. I also hear her telling them to let go of the phone. I try calling her normal phone hours later and it rings, but goes to voicemail after a while. This was about 5 or 6pm and it's now 12:44 at night. I texted, but no reply. As a side note, this same best friend of hers has had me blocked since May. One of my gf's ridiculous demands is that I apologize to this friend for the way I treated my gf. I made my concerns about privacy known today, but I got a sarcastic answer. Anyone want to weigh in? Hold no punches. Thanks, guys.
Author MrBossMan Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 ...and if you have patience, feel free to have a glance at my past posts which go more in depth about the issues we've had. Yes, I went against my better judgement and tried one more time to work it out. This will be the last time.
swimswithjeans Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Hey MrBossMan, Congratulations on your recent graduation!!! What an accomplishment - and the perfect time for a really fresh start. As for your posting - I think you know what to do. I have been in similar situations, and it is really exhausting and stressful. You deserve to at least be heard, and your concerns weren't even acknowledged by this girl. All I will say is something that someone once told me when I was in a similar predicament, and that is, what are you trying to be in this relationship for? If it is to find a long-term partner, maybe even a marriage, you have to remember that a marriage is similar in many ways to a business partnership. This girl does not sound like she would be a good business partner for you at all. I hope you can find someone lovely - if probably it isn't your ex, or the girl courting you last semester, but I wager real love is out there for you.
Author MrBossMan Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 Hey MrBossMan, Congratulations on your recent graduation!!! What an accomplishment - and the perfect time for a really fresh start. As for your posting - I think you know what to do. I have been in similar situations, and it is really exhausting and stressful. You deserve to at least be heard, and your concerns weren't even acknowledged by this girl. All I will say is something that someone once told me when I was in a similar predicament, and that is, what are you trying to be in this relationship for? If it is to find a long-term partner, maybe even a marriage, you have to remember that a marriage is similar in many ways to a business partnership. This girl does not sound like she would be a good business partner for you at all. I hope you can find someone lovely - if probably it isn't your ex, or the girl courting you last semester, but I wager real love is out there for you. Much appreciated, my friend. I have an update that I'll post below in a second, by the way.
Author MrBossMan Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 **UPDATE: She just called me at 4:00 am to say that we can't continue. I said ok and bye. And there goes 3 years.
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