irc333 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Met a woman through Meetup, she actually called me up so we could get together. She hasn't dated much because of work, but when she did attempt to date, things would never work out because she is an avid traveler. Not just for work, but for the fun of it. Reason being though, these men she's dated either were too busy for work to travel globally, didn't have enough vacation time, or..most frequently, didn't have the funds to afford the costly dollar amount of traveling globally. She does claim the older she gets, the more picky she gets, because she's always on the go in her travels. Agreed, think she's too picky?
carhill Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Since you already have a meetup arranged and you know she likes traveling, ask a few pointed questions and listen. I can say I've met a fair amount of FA's (stewardesses) in my travels who were still single at my age and they've said it's partly due to their job schedules, especially the high timers who tend to bid international routes. Part of why they got into their line of work was due to wanting to travel. It's simply a different lifestyle. Sufficiently motivated, people work things out. I'd probably have a pretty good time with such a person, regardless of how things worked out. Always looking for new adventures. If it's not your culpa after meeting her, then simply move on. Miss.
ufo8mycat Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 If she is happy then no one else can claim too picky. My aunt had the most incredible wanderlust. She had a ruptured aneurysm in her brain in her 60's but with the assistance of a carer continued to see the world. Mostly cruises as her mobility was limited but she spent nearly a year on the QEII. She wandered all of her life. She had a home, a business and married briefly but the status quo was never enough. She was a a perfectly lovely lady with many romances and an unbelievable story teller. I am not sure they were all true... but I don't think it is that important. Settling down with one person in one place is some peoples idea of hell. I think she would be a very interesting person - should't be any shortage of things to talk about! 3
organizedchaos Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I don't understand. What's the problem with this one? Seems to me you got issues with everyone girl you encounter online. 6
Author irc333 Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 Always looking for new adventures. Probably the most cliche'd phrase uttered in online dating profiles, "I love new adventures and new places." "Love to laugh", "Life's too short to sweat the small stuff."
carhill Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Never published such but it's an honest assessment, whether the adventures be a new business venture or invention or travel experience or internet wandering. Oh, I found my spelling corrector messed up in my original posting, where 'culpa' should have read 'cuppa', as in 'cuppa tea'. If a person who enjoys wandering the world, and is rarely home, doesn't seem compatible as a long-term partner, than that's valid. Either you can pass them by or enjoy their company as appropriate short-term or without expectation.
MissBee Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 (edited) I didn't quite understand the question. Are you asking if she is too picky for wanting someone who likes to travel as much as she does? If that's the question, no. It makes sense. If travel enriches your life and you like to do it, find someone who is on the same page. I'm surprised she's had a difficult time with that. Maybe she's not looking in the right places. Maybe she needs to join a Meetup group that is focused on traveling or some type of traveler's club in order to meet men who share that interest. There is picky unreasonable and unhappy and picky which is choosing people who are a good fit for you and your lifestyle and opting not to date those who don't fit. If she is not dying to find a man then that's what matters. Pickiness only becomes a problem when you can't find anyone to date AND you also feel badly about it and lament it, but if you're much happier being single until you find the right qualities you want, then I say your pickiness isn't hindering your life at all. Edited October 5, 2014 by MissBee 1
rester Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 It sounds like she knows what she wants and is okay being single until she finds it. Seems like the common theme with the women you encounter, or are they the only ones you write about?
Author irc333 Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 It sounds like she knows what she wants and is okay being single until she finds it. Seems like the common theme with the women you encounter, or are they the only ones you write about? I have nothing to write about when they do want to go out with me other than, "Hey, I got a woman to go out with me, I had fun, too!" That's about it. Makes for a boring thread.
PegNosePete Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 "Too picky" for who? It is her prerogative to be as picky or not picky as she likes.
Author irc333 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 She was the one that said it. She told me she's too picky based on the last guys she dated weren't much world travelers. "Too picky" for who? It is her prerogative to be as picky or not picky as she likes.
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