Disillusioned Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Folks, let me tell you, Hell got a little colder on the 4th of October, 2014. I went on a date I actually ENJOYED. This woman is not the One---she's 9 years older than I am, and I'm openly asexual---but today's date proved to me there ARE women I can totally have the hots for. J. is VERY intense, politically incorrect (she throws the word "retarded" around pretty casually, much as I use "feeb"), kidless, and has a vivid imagination. In fact, it was only after I met her at a speed dating event 3 weeks ago that I realized that for me, women with vivid imaginations are about as attractive as they get. J. doesn't look like a supermodel, but if she was a year younger than me, I'd pick her over any Barbie doll with no imagination any day. She's clearly not my soulmate, but I'd invite her to get-togethers at my place. TBH I have not been trying very hard to meet women, but this was the result I got, and I'm encouraged. If stupid ol' picky Disillusioned can meet women, so can you. 4
CaliGypsy Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 You never know .. Maybe she'll end up being the one . She sounds cool . Finding a person who shares your sense of humor is not something you want to underestimate. Why is the 9 year age gap a big deal? Kids aren't a factor , right ? 4
Haerts Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Why is the 9 year age gap a big deal? This, exactly. I mean, what if she's older than you? What matters is if you two enjoy yourselves at the point you want to have something more with her. Age means nothing; it could mean that someone has lived more than you did, as it could not mean that. Don't worry about the age factor, actually don't waste your time thinking that if it wasn't her age, everything would be greater. Enjoy it and have fun! As long as you're happy and she is too, everything's right. Happy for you! When I read about successful relationship stories on this website, it makes me want to already try again with someone new, even though I just broke up with my bf yesterday. lol 2
gaius Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Older women are the best dude. Don't use that as a disqualifier. I normally just use my Old account for an ego boost but I noticed a woman I felt drawn to talk to for some reason on my viewed me list yesterday. Was going to actually pay money and send her a message today but I logged in and her account was gone. The one girl out of a few dozen I wanted to talk to is the one that vanishes. 1
FitChick Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I think some people are looking a bit too hard for excuses to justify their being single. If the woman were a year younger, the OP would find another excuse as to why it wouldn't work. Self-sabotage. Sad. She should have lied about her age. 3
Els Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 If you are genuinely asexual and don't desire children, why is an age gap of 9 years at 40(?) years of age such a problem? On the other hand, it's probably a good thing? She would have distracted you from working on your groundbreaking RealDoll invention anyhow. 1
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