shinobininja Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Hey Guys! This is my 1st time posting on this forum. I have lurked posts here before but this is my first thread. As you can guess, I've run into a situation where I need help. I'm looking forward to seeing all of your comments! Now to my question. I have a co-worker that just started working with us a month ago. When I initially met her, I didn't really have much attraction to her. We work together 3-4 days a week, and are the only ones in the building. I was responsible for training her for the position. However, In the last few weeks I've gotten to know her as a very sweet, kind, and very beautiful girl. She always smiles at me, initiates conversation with me (asks personal questions), and always...always laughs at all of my jokes (they're corny! mostly terrible puns). She once even asked if I had a girlfriend, and seemed to be blushing. She's always twirling her hair too. I'm starting to feel like I'm falling for her now! We have been flirting heavily for weeks now. The other day she asked if I had a Snapchat, and we traded usernames. She then asked If I had Instagram, and said to follow her. I then straight up asked her for her number and she gave it to me. I sent her my # and she sent back a series of Emoji smiley faces, :cool: so at least I know its a legitimate phone number! Here's the tricky part, she's only 18 and i'm 27...nearly 10 years apart! Also, since we work together it's a bit of a hot button issue! I guess my questions are: Am I over thinking this? Do you think she likes me or is she just flirting? Is the age difference too great? She's my coworker too! So many variables! Gaaah! What do you guys think? I haven't been able to talk to anyone about this!
Gloria25 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Maybe watch how she interacts with others...if she's the same with everyone, then you'll know. But really, 18 yr old? Flakey...I wouldn't take her seriously
cerridwen Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I guess my questions are: Am I over thinking this? Do you think she likes me or is she just flirting? Is the age difference too great? She's my coworker too! So many variables! Gaaah! What do you guys think? I haven't been able to talk to anyone about this! No, you're not over-thinking this. There is potential for complications, so it's smart you didn't just rush forward. It's hard to tell if she's a flirt in general, or is interested in you specifically. Do you notice her being as friendly with other men? (And btw, the hair twirling thing isn't always an IOI. I twirl my hair because it's long and annoying. Nothing more behind it.) The age difference could be an issue because she IS your coworker--which is complicated enough. But at 18, maturity is an issue--who know about her discretion--or ability to handle things should they go wrong. Many reasons to give this thought, OP. Proceed with caution.
Author shinobininja Posted October 6, 2014 Author Posted October 6, 2014 Hey guys thanks for the input. Well It turns out she has a boyfriend! One of her status updates mentioned that she has a boyfriend. I'm a little ambivalent about the whole thing. Part of me is extremely disappointed, but part of me is relieved. At least now I know for sure and I saved myself some embarrassment by not making a move. (besides simply asking for her number) After reading your comments, I realized that the whole thing might turn into a mess If I did pursue something romantic.There are just too many factors that logically tell me that I shouldn't pursue her. The fact that she has a boyfriend solidifies that now! Besides, I really wouldn't want to hurt a girl like her. I still really care about her, and I plan on staying/being a cool coworker/friend. I may back off on the flirting a bit, I still plan on making jokes because that's what I do. I think that a friendly relationship is much more appropriate and lets face it, easier. There would have been obstacles that would have made a romantic relationship challenging to say the least! At the end of the day, at least I know what kind of personality traits I like in a girl. I hadn't felt this way about a girl for a long time, it was quite the infatuation. I have other girls in my life, but I just don't feel like I did with the girl from work. Well, I'll have to see her today so I hope I don't act awkward around her or anything! If anybody needs me I'll be searching for "getting over your crush" and "I'm an idiot and want to bury my head in the sand." threads on loveshack. 1
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