Bewers Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I was getting close to this guy, we went on dates for around 5 months altogether so you could say that was some kind of relationship I suppose? we got a long so so well. I really really liked him but something happened not long into us dating, he hooked up with one of my 'friends', not a close friend but still a friend. I found out and I told him that as we weren't 'official' that he should be completely honest with me about what happened and we can start again, as long as he was honest with me about it I didn't mind brushing that 1 mistake aside, just this once. He said to me that she only gave him a blowjob once and that she was weird and he wasn't interested in her at all and he had made a huge mistake. Fair enough, it was forgotten. My ''friend'' messaged me on Facebook yesterday saying that she wanted to be honest with me as she knows he hasn't been. Apparently it wasn't just the once they hooked up it was over 10 times, he would go to her house, smoke weed with her and have sex. That he also became rather clingy and would message her a lot telling her how special he thinks she is so she had to tell him to leave her alone. She forwarded me the messages he sent to her so I know she isn't lying because the things he was saying to her were basically the same things he would say to me. I feel like an idiot for catching feelings for this person and I am very upset. I really want to confront him on this but I don't want to seem like some kind of psychopath if it's all over and finished with between them two. He asked me out on a date today and I was very blunt with him, just gave him a 1 word answer and he said ''what's wrong with you?'' and I haven't replied to him all day, despite him sending me 'X's' in text messages trying to get me to reply to him. I don't know what to say to him, could someone give me an idea? it hurts
dreamingoftigers Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 How about..... " hey man, you totally lied to me. Here's the proof. It makes me feel like an idiot. Theres no excuse for this and so we are done. I only date people I can trust." 3
No Limit Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Tell him to find a girl stupid enough to fall for his BS. It's not you. And if you manage to slap him across the face, do it to make it more dramatic. 1
Gloria25 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I know he lied to you about how many times he saw her and what they did together, but without you both agreeing on whether or not your two were exclusive, not sure if you have a right to expect him only to be seeing you. I think by the 3rd date and/or sex happens, people should find out what the person wants with them (i.e. something casual or something serious)... If you are looking for something serious, he doesn't seem like he wants that.
tpham18nm Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He didn't cheat on you. You guys are not together. Were there any supposed rules? Seems like its time to let go. He's shady.
quidproquo89 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I still don't like this exclusive bull****. I'm traditional though. If I sate two people I will quickly decide who I want, not **** em all. So this guy needs to go
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