exhausted88 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 So me and my ex were together for almost 7 years and have a 2 year old daughter together. We have been broken up now for about 3 months and he wanted to sell our house. I am living in the house with our daughter and he was staying with friends and is now renting a room. So I didn't want to sell the house and found a way of paying him out and keeping it. He had been such an ass for the first 2 months after our break up, rarely having our daughter and saying I should move out of the house so he can live in it coz while I was pregnant and raising our child I didn't contribute financially so therefore in his mind I'm being a b***h by staying in the house. It frustrates me coz I did everything for him in the house and he didn't help with our daughter a lot but ust coz I didn't contribute financially that means nothing? My daughter is incredibly smart, caring and a very happy child and I like to think that is because I have given her my everything. Anyways he become really nice the last 3 weeks saying that he hopes I get to keep the house coz it will be great for our girl to have a solid foundation and I was so happy to hear that. Now that everything has been approved with the house and I can keep it suddenly he has turned nasty again. Maybe he thought I wouldn't get it? He is calling me money hungry and getting made because I am working now and going to started another course and keeps saying oh now u wanna do something. Obviously when Im the one that is her primary carer right now and all her needs including finacially fall on me including the mortgage that he has refused to pay for the last 6 months obviously as a mother my daughter is most important to where Im going to step up and do everything I possibly can for her. Ive done nothing but be nice. I told him he can have the business we ran together all I wanted with half the house and now I get to keep it Im paying him out a lot more then he is entitled to because I know how hard he works. But Im sick of being treated like I'm so horrible. Why is he so nasty when he was the one that broke up with me?
preraph Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Get an attorney if you can't come to an agreement you both can live with. Now you have divided income, you probably need a smaller house than accommodated the whole family when he was in it. Bills will be less in a smaller house and selling it will liquidate some money. It will go right back in a house. Don't stay in a house bigger than you really need, because you're going to be strapped for money. We all are.
d0nnivain Posted October 8, 2014 Posted October 8, 2014 Stop listening to him & his opinions. Get a contract for the sale of the house to you. Get a lawyer to iron out child support payments & be done with him except when you have to deal with co-parenting issues.
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