quidproquo89 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Is it wrong that every girl I've ever pursued and vice versa, has always been via text. I really don't like making phone calls. Am I alone in this? I'll chat to someone on the phone once I've gotten to know them. But even then, I prefer text as it can be as and when I feel like, no pressure and no sorta I've backed someone in a corner to have to talk to me. I chat to a lot of girls on OLD, I really don't think it neccesary to call them before we've even met. Are there any other people who just don't like phone calls. My family are the same, quite reserved which makes phone calls quite daunting. Its not like a cowardly sort of thing, its just what we feel more comfortable doing.. texting
GemmaUK Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I don't like texts much either tbh. I prefer to sort a date out via a quick call and then wait for the date for a catch up chat. Communicate too much and you can be left with nothing to say even when you really like them. 1
rester Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Is it wrong that every girl I've ever pursued and vice versa, has always been via text. I really don't like making phone calls. Am I alone in this? I'll chat to someone on the phone once I've gotten to know them. But even then, I prefer text as it can be as and when I feel like, no pressure and no sorta I've backed someone in a corner to have to talk to me. I chat to a lot of girls on OLD, I really don't think it neccesary to call them before we've even met. Are there any other people who just don't like phone calls. My family are the same, quite reserved which makes phone calls quite daunting. Its not like a cowardly sort of thing, its just what we feel more comfortable doing.. texting Nothing wrong with it, I guess, but I text as a last resort only above email or snail mail. In-person is my favorite form of communication, followed by phone, followed by text. I've had too many situations where things get blown out of proportion with texting because it's difficult to understand the tone of texts, as well as emphasis, and all those little things you communicate with other forms of communication without words. It's a more robotic way of communicating. I also think that, depending on the circumstance, picking up the phone and making a call is is much more efficient than the back and forth texting. Just my opinion. I do know some coworkers that are afraid to pick up the phone and they don't get very far without those necessary social skills. 1
piggyoink Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Maybe its a cultural thing too. The UK still has the caller pays phone system right?
Mirages Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 It is important to sense the social readiness and confidence of a person on a phone. Via text the person can be googling a life up to sound smart, can be borrowing looked up expressions from Loveshack, or using their siblings to help them impress you. A lot harder to con by phone. Check out the show "Naked and Afraid," on TV, a lovely hiking and camping show between strangers, I think that show makes a telephone call seem so innocuous by comparison. (By the way, since I am not on the phone, but rather typing, I was able to check the spelling and definition of "Innocuous," before using it, which made me sound smarter than I really am 1
hellon Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 It is important to sense the social readiness and confidence of a person on a phone. Via text the person can be googling a life up to sound smart, can be borrowing looked up expressions from Loveshack, or using their siblings to help them impress you. A lot harder to con by phone. Check out the show "Naked and Afraid," on TV, a lovely hiking and camping show between strangers, I think that show makes a telephone call seem so innocuous by comparison. (By the way, since I am not on the phone, but rather typing, I was able to check the spelling and definition of "Innocuous," before using it, which made me sound smarter than I really am I have to disagree. I hate talking on the phone to people I don't know very well- it has nothing to do with my confidence level or social abilities. Just the idea of an obligatory "talk before meeting" conversation makes me nervous. I think you can actually get a pretty good sense of a person via text- and since texting is predominantly how I (and many of this generation) communicate, I'd prefer to initially get to know someone this way. Of course people misrepresent themselves online, and it's harder (but still possible) to do over the phone- (although I don't think Googling a word falls into this category, it just means that you know how to check yourself and are interested in expanding your vocabulary)- but meeting someone in person is really the only way to rule out all the crazy. The way OLD is these days you're going to meet up fairly quickly anyway, so I don't think there's really anything wrong with skipping the phone call. That all being said, I think once you're actually dating someone/in a relationship, it's important to have real live conversations. Too much gets lost in translation when you're just texting back and forth. 1
Diezel Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I'm of the mindset of texting should be: "Can you pick up the milk and eggs?" "What time did we say?" "Can't pick up the phone right, I'm riding the porcelain pony." I'd much rather have that quick 10 minute conversation than a drawn out 4 hour textathon that could be easily misunderstood. But I'm not also a fan of 50 minute phone conversations. That's overkill.
mammasita Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Nothing wrong with that at all OP, I'm highly against phone conversations, in fact hate speaking on the phone. Text over talk anytime. 1
gaius Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I like phone calls simply because when I'm into a girl the sound of her voice is better than any porno for me. I used to pop wood just hearing my ex's voicemail message. There are plenty of women who don't mind text only though, as others in the thread have illustrated.
ComingInHot Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I like to shake things up a bit and go both ways*lol* Sometimes I even do both at the same time... I love hearing 'the voice' & I love the flirt of a text. I'm just crazy like that I guess 2
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I don't like texts much either tbh. I prefer to sort a date out via a quick call and then wait for the date for a catch up chat. Communicate too much and you can be left with nothing to say even when you really like them. He is asking if people dislikes calls as much as he does and prefers to text. I much prefer to text to a stranger than call and be so personal off the hop.
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