soyou Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Back in May, I dated a guy through Tinder and we got along really well. Great time, good chemistry, and good sex. I fell for him a bit from the beginning. It took me a few days to get over my buttery feelings and then soon after we maintained our casual thing. He always told me that he was not ready to settle down or to be with anybody. He wanted to travel around the world and eventually moved to Mexico to live and work there. Today, I just logged on facebook after such a long time and saw he's recently in a relationship. He made it such a grand status update. This hurts my pride so much. Even though I knew from the beginning that he was not my type, yet the feeling that he didn't want to pursue me in a serious way back then and now is in the relationship, HURTS MY PRIDE SO BAD!! Awwhhh, I'm not in love with him or anything. I just feel like my ego has been shattered.
MrNate 2.0 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Back in May, I dated a guy through Tinder and we got along really well. Great time, good chemistry, and good sex. I fell for him a bit from the beginning. It took me a few days to get over my buttery feelings and then soon after we maintained our casual thing. He always told me that he was not ready to settle down or to be with anybody. He wanted to travel around the world and eventually moved to Mexico to live and work there. Today, I just logged on facebook after such a long time and saw he's recently in a relationship. He made it such a grand status update. This hurts my pride so much. Even though I knew from the beginning that he was not my type, yet the feeling that he didn't want to pursue me in a serious way back then and now is in the relationship, HURTS MY PRIDE SO BAD!! Awwhhh, I'm not in love with him or anything. I just feel like my ego has been shattered. Suck it up, buttercup? 5
quidproquo89 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 you'll get over it soon. Just vent on here a little and look at other guys
Author soyou Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 Thank you for the advices. I am actually having a casual date tonight with a cute guy. Not like i'm sitting here and having no option ) But after reading my ex Tinder hookup's status, my joy, excitement and mood for tonight have all been killed ;-(. I guess my ego is made of Chrystal . Easy to break or shatter
MrNate 2.0 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Thank you for the advices. I am actually having a casual date tonight with a cute guy. Not like i'm sitting here and having no option ) But after reading my ex Tinder hookup's status, my joy, excitement and mood for tonight have all been killed ;-(. I guess my ego is made of Chrystal . Easy to break or shatter I think glass is more appropriate. 1
Diezel Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Oh no, not your pride!!! If he wasn't your type, why are you so hurt? Come on now. 1
MissBee Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Back in May, I dated a guy through Tinder and we got along really well. Great time, good chemistry, and good sex. I fell for him a bit from the beginning. It took me a few days to get over my buttery feelings and then soon after we maintained our casual thing. He always told me that he was not ready to settle down or to be with anybody. He wanted to travel around the world and eventually moved to Mexico to live and work there. Today, I just logged on facebook after such a long time and saw he's recently in a relationship. He made it such a grand status update. This hurts my pride so much. Even though I knew from the beginning that he was not my type, yet the feeling that he didn't want to pursue me in a serious way back then and now is in the relationship, HURTS MY PRIDE SO BAD!! Awwhhh, I'm not in love with him or anything. I just feel like my ego has been shattered. That's about you though and something you need to work on. Why do you care if someone you don't want doesn't want you? I think many of us have probably experienced it, and usually it's when you put your self worth in the hands of others and love the validation of others when things like this really perturb you. It makes you feel somewhere inside like something is wrong with you which is why it "shatters your ego", but that feeling is about you and how you feel about yourself.
smackie9 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Ya I totally get it, and most of us have been there. Nothing to worry about, you will get over it. 3
Fondue Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 You said he wasn't even your type. Not sure why your mood is shot. Besides, that seems like a pretty long time ago anyway.
Adele0908 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Back in May, I dated a guy through Tinder and we got along really well. Great time, good chemistry, and good sex. I fell for him a bit from the beginning. It took me a few days to get over my buttery feelings and then soon after we maintained our casual thing. . You didn't love him....it's really that simple. This woman he is with now, most likely LOVES him. She didn't "get over her buttery feelings" and maintain a "casual thing". She let herself love him, while you didn't, and I think the reason you never fell totally for him, was because he wasn't your type. He wasn't the guy for you. But there will be. You'll know when it happens. 1
isisisweeping Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 haha, yes, I understand the pride being hurt. I've felt that before. But, take heart, at least you weren't really into him. That would hurt more than your pride. 1
Author soyou Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 Thank you all for the notes/ advices. After such a wonderful night with my new casual date yesterday, my pride for the ex-hook up stops hurting already ). It takes one to cure one )
stillafool Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Glad to hear it. I know if someone I had no interest in got themselves someone to love I would be happy for them, not jealous.
smackie9 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He must have meant something to you even tho you say he didn't, to have those feelings of disappointment. There is nothing wrong with admitting you were vulnerable, and secretly wished it was you.
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