rdet123 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Hi everyone, I went on a date a few days ago and this gentleman and I really hit it off. I enjoyed him company very much and he said he would love to see me again. We live about 45 minutes away and he came to see me for our first date, but he said that I should come to his town and come over to his apartment for the next date. I basically need help in what i'm suppose to say to him about this. I don't want to take things too fast and I know how hard it is to resist someone you like when you're alone and watching a movie lol! I really would love to see him again, but I want to say that I don't want to take things too fast and would rather him show me around his city or something. But then it comes off as if i'm planning the date and I don't want that either! How do I phrase this? lol
The Like Fairy Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Hi everyone, I went on a date a few days ago and this gentleman and I really hit it off. I enjoyed him company very much and he said he would love to see me again. We live about 45 minutes away and he came to see me for our first date, but he said that I should come to his town and come over to his apartment for the next date. I basically need help in what i'm suppose to say to him about this. I don't want to take things too fast Don't worry too much about how you phrase it. The point is that you need to communicate to him that you don't feel comfortable just hanging out at his apartment because you want to take things slow and get to know him over time. If he is truly interested in getting to know you, he will be absolutely fine with this. If he just wants a piece of ass, he will give you a hard time about it, and you'll know that he just wants sex. Very simple. Stand up for yourself, be true to yourself. Don't be afraid. This is actually a great situation, you will learn alot about him shortly. Good luck! 1
stillafool Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I think what you have planned to tell him is perfectly fine and doesn't sound like you are planning the date. I think you are wise to not move too fast. He will view you as a lady worthy of respect. I also don't see anything wrong with sharing the cost of the evening if he treated you the first time.
Author rdet123 Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 Thanks for the reply! Yeah I will definitely offer to help share the cost for our next date. I'm glad that doesn't sound too forward to tell him that. Thanks for the comment!
Author rdet123 Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 Remember, men respect women who don't come across as easily available. A man values something more if he is made to "hunt" for something .. sorry for the blunt words but man's subconscious mind thinks like that...not my fault. Thanks for the comment! I do have a lot going on in my life, but I really like this guy and I think we hit it off on our first date. I just don't want to seem like a B**** for rejecting his offer to come over to his place. But, I am trying to be more forward and be honest with guys so I will just say it as politely as I can.
LoneIsland Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Remember, men respect women who don't come across as easily available. A man values something more if he is made to "hunt" for something .. sorry for the blunt words but man's subconscious mind thinks like that...not my fault. Are you a man ?
bubbaganoosh Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I would tell him that your uncomfortable going to his place this early since it's only the second date. You said in your thread, that you went out with a gentlemen and if he really is, then he will understand.
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