adrian77 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 (edited) I know there is someone for everyone but my coworker has a man telling her she is the woman or his dreams and he wants to spend the rest of his life with her. She has 2 young children (he already raised his 2), she has no money. He had to lend her some. She has lived at home with her parents and her son and daughter since her 2nd divorce 5 years ago. She can't manage her money. Her job is not stable. She isn't bright at all. And while I know looks aren't everything, she isn't attractive and overweight as well. Yet I know very independent women (some attractive, some not but good personalities), that can't find a man. Edited October 4, 2014 by adrian77
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 It's all about who she is... he may have means to support her, so money is not an issue. As long as there is trust, understanding, love and mutual acceptance, nothing else is important. Though, i have no idea about the emotional stability of the two in question, who knows what he really finds in her. Could be her being unable to do much for herself, makes him feel more of a man i providing for her??? That can be part, but when you have a strong connection, nothing seems to matter. I have such a relationship with my LDR, and even though we have many things against being together, we still want each other very much. Some peeps will never know what it is like until it happens to them. So, there is something to show for true love being stronger than anything understandable.
LoneIsland Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Having been on this forum for a while, I would say some women can't find a man because she doesn't understand men. She sees a playa coming out of very nook and crannies. When she rejects all these playas, who are not really, she has no one left. The love connection in a man has a physical dimension. If you don't allow this connection to establish, you will never get a man. In these days of enlightenment, there's nothing to stop a woman finding a female partner, you know ? They are far easier to understand.
Cristo Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I know there is someone for everyone but my coworker has a man telling her she is the woman or his dreams and he wants to spend the rest of his life with her. She has 2 young children (he already raised his 2), she has no money. He had to lend her some. She has lived at home with her parents and her son and daughter since her 2nd divorce 5 years ago. She can't manage her money. Her job is not stable. She isn't bright at all. And while I know looks aren't everything, she isn't attractive and overweight as well. Yet I know very independent women (some attractive, some not but good personalities), that can't find a man. He probably doesn't have a lot of options and is desperate.
mammasita Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Just because you don't find her appealing doesn't mean someone else won't. Attraction is subjective, I.e. based upon the subject. Always has been, always will.
tpham18nm Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I think that's sweet. He probably like her because he wants the affection and to feel important. Vulnerable women make men happy because they feel empowered.
GemmaUK Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Maybe she just has that something that makes him feel good! Values, pheromones and chemistry...compatibility. I think it's sweet too!
Gloria25 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I think that's sweet. He probably like her because he wants the affection and to feel important. Vulnerable women make men happy because they feel empowered. Yeah, and while I believe men naturally want to provide and protect women...there is also a downside to this - especially the situation the OP has presented us with. (1) Guys playing 'Captain Save a Ho', trying to save a "damsel in distress" may end up with a "distressed damsel"...In other words, some people who are going through drama isn't just having bad luck you know...they make decisions that put them there. If they, on their own, can't pull it together, someone rescuing them isn't gonna help them improve their situation... (2) Controlling...Some people want someone "beneath" them, "dependent" on them. So, this poor lady might end up being his little "pet" - which isn't good either.
Gloria25 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Sounds like he is not a teenager or even in 20's so his thoughts are not entirely driven by hormones.. Prima facie it seems he actually knows money and looks don't exclusively define relationships. It looks like he actually feels an emotional connection with her. Uh, I think he's an older guy....check the OP's post. I think OP said he already raised his two kids...
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